avatarArbab Z.

Summary

The author reflects on personal growth and the importance of self-responsibility for happiness as they approach a new year of life.

Abstract

On the eve of their birthday, the author contemplates the passage of time and the emotional journey it entails. They grapple with unfulfilled dreams, the pain of attachments to transient relationships, and the impact of negative thoughts and memories. Despite these challenges, the author decides to share their experiences to lighten their emotional burden and make room for positive change. They resolve to smile more, regardless of external circumstances, and to embrace a mindset that fosters resilience and personal accountability for their emotional well-being. The author encourages readers to let go of overthinking, to express their emotions healthily, and to approach life's challenges with a strategic and optimistic mindset.

Opinions

  • The author expresses a sense of personal responsibility for their happiness, emphasizing the importance of putting a smile on one's face regardless of others.
  • They acknowledge the difficulty of dealing with disturbing thoughts and memories but suggest that acceptance and self-help strategies can provide relief.
  • The author believes that everyone should strive to overcome overthinking and that life's mess can be organized with the right mindset.
  • They advocate for the importance of learning from past mistakes without dwelling on them, suggesting that a chess-like strategy can be beneficial in life.
  • The author values the act of sharing personal thoughts and experiences as a means of easing emotional burdens and creating space for new, refreshing memories.
  • They encourage a proactive approach to personal growth and happiness, especially as they enter a new phase of life on their birthday.

The Gentle Reminder of Lasting Thoughts

It is time to welcome the better self on another birthday of life

Happy birthday to me Arbab Z. Photo by Jonathan Borba on Unsplash

Another year of my life is going to end after a few hours. I am going to enter into the new arena of my life, with a heavy heart. The eyes carry the same dream as set on the previous year’s birthday night, the mind is stuck somewhere. I could no longer hold the burden of my mind. It is clutching my happiness into its paws. I failed to get out of the disturbing thoughts.

Moreover, the attachment to temporary people punches my heart every other day — the haunting memories coupled with the temporary people. The expectation adds salt to the internal injuries.

Sometimes, I start to doubt myself. I blame myself for being so nice to the people who even do not think of what will happen with their ruthless behavior and harsh words on the other person. Anyone who is in their twenties and is struggling to make life better can relate their self with these thoughts.

Now, I was thinking of my life. The good and bad memories are flashing in front of my eyes. So, I decided to share a few of my thoughts with you to lower the burden on my heart and ease my mind. It will also help in creating the space for some refreshing memories.

My birthday is on its way. I am excited about the new phase of my life. The heart is pumping at 2x speed. The salted water is coming out of the eyes. Feelings of anger, hate, compassion, and love are chasing each other, simultaneously. Mixed memories are echoing in the mind. I failed to find any way out of memories, so I accepted the things with a great heart. It helps me to recognize the difference in perspective on several things.

On this eve, I am going to promise myself to put a smile on my face. You know what, I realized that every individual should put some effort into putting a smile on their face.

Although, I agree that a few people become the reason for the smile, what if they will no longer remain in life? Maybe you are the reason for someone else smile. So start smiling now. Set aside the disturbing thoughts, and calm down your mind, either by meditating writing, or anything else that works best for you.

My life experience taught me that the more and more you try to control your nerves, the more you find yourself entangled in the nerves. So let the anger, anxiety, and depression come out. It does not mean to hurt someone. Instead, adopt some self-help exercises that work for you.

This evening, I am going to remind myself — not to repeat past mistakes, and not to lament anything in life. Instead, embrace the mess and play chess. I do agree that life is not the bed of roses, but the mindset can help in organizing the mess. I am going to work on my mindset in this new phase of my life. Furthermore, I am going to take responsibility for my smile without looking at the reasons. I am hopeful about the life ahead.

Let’s pray for the better days. Wish me on my birthday. Stay happy, stay blessed. Do not forget to bring your smile back.

Thank You for your time.

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