The Flow of Things
Our Society: Addiction and More Uncovered — Ch 4
Hear the voice of everyday people — collection of stories and experiences
by Gabriella Kőrösi, PhD, MN, RN
4. The Flow of Things
When someone looks at a river, one day it flows very smoothly, another can be deadly. Some places it will show down, some places it will speed up. Some places it will narrow and fall becoming a beautiful waterfall that also can be deadly to some, other places it will widen and open up to welcome another creek, river or the ocean. Riverbanks can be smooth with beaches and rough with deadly cliffs. Our everyday lives can be like a river some days, it is nice and flows without any issues and problems, then on other days it can be a hurdle of all kinds of stuff going on. Every day struggles can cause stress, anxiety, distress, hopelessness that create a ground for emotional pain and suffering. Everyone wants to feel good. Even if not all the time, but at least sometimes. This creates a great conflict and some people drink or take medications to feel better. Medications that are used and abused without a prescription. People also use and abuse prescription medications as well. This is all fine to do to smoothed the river, and when someone have to do it every day and starts to control their life it becomes a huge problem that goes out of control. Then every day becomes a deadly waterfall. Some days the river carries things floating on top, small branches are floating nicely with the river and do not cause any major problems. Bigger stumps are harder to move and might get stuck in places before they can move on again. Just like things in the river people can get stuck in certain places in their lives. It can be very difficult to break free from the mud and get moving with the river to enjoy the flow of life after being stuck for a long time. Judging the people who are stuck is also easy, helping them to dig deeper and trying to move branches of the big tree is much harder and might take months, years or the rest of one’s life. Dealing with addiction and digging deep into our emotions is very difficult and painful work many times. It was difficult to see people who kept coming back to the hospital or coming back to treatment all the time. On the other hand, when they did not come back, we never knew what happened to them. Some patients would come back a year later or send a small gift to our unit or a card, so we would know they are OK. Those moments were the highlight of my day.
I talked to Kayla on the phone. She is a wonderful young woman who does great work to support her community. I asked Kayla how she feels about people who are dealing with addiction. She said her heart breaks for them. She wants to help all of them. Every single one. Could we just save everyone? We could give it our best shot. Are we doing it now? If it is another disease wouldn’t we try everything we could to help? Kayla said: I wish I could bring people to see the light. She said:” just because someone is on the bottom right now, it does not mean that they cannot come back up”. Give people support and provide hope. Just be there for them and don’t give up. I recently talked to a wonderful writer and retired judge Neal Lemery, J.D. and he said the same thing, he wanted to make sure that I include in this book that HOPE IS THERE. Neal Lemery wrote some wonderful books and there is one about mentoring young boys, the reference is at the end of this book.
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By Dr. Gabriella Kőrösi
Neal Lemery: Mentoring Boys to Men: Climbing Their Own Mountains
This book is dedicated to the memory of
Bagóczky József my uncle who died at age 19 — alcohol-related car accident
and to everyone else who has been hurt or lost related to addiction
Many people had been supportive and inspiring to me so I could create this book. Both of my wonderful children told me, just write that book, mom. My mom. I could have not done this without all the stories provided and the encouragement love and caring from my family and friends, nurses, doctors, counselors, teachers, professors, friends who are dealing with addiction and staying sober; and children, wives, husbands, mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers of people who are dealing with addiction currently. Thank you for speaking up, sharing your stories and life experiences. Thank you for all the people who read this book while in progress to provide feedback, ideas, and encouragement for me to continue writing. I would like to say special thanks to my friends and family for believing me and encouraging me to go on.