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d listener does not only listen to people, but they go beyond the speaker’s words. They try to understand the reasons why that person says what they say, and what they want to convey in the first place, by asking relevant questions to add up meaning to the conversation. They often showcase their interest by adapting appropriate facial expressions, gestures, etc.</p><p id="711b">Still, they manage to share their ideas when they are convinced that it’s the appropriate time, and they often consider a lot of factors before they believe anything that’s not proven or even before they change their thought.</p><p id="3b6b">That is, to be a good listener requires a lot of strength and self-reliance. Because you’ll listen to different ideas and set of values, but at the same time you need to manage to remain healthy, not lose sight of your personal goals and beliefs and to still be grounded in what’s right for you.</p><p id="4039">However, good listeners always avoid bringing up their biases in the discourse. They try not to judge or critique before they fully understand the context of someone’s words. By doing so, they allow the person to speak more confidently.</p><p id="7654">There are a few things you need to practice so you can become a good listener:</p><h2 id="04cd">1. Learn how to listen actively to yourself</h2><p id="9407">Before applying your listening skills to others, try to be your best listener. Because as I said, you must know yourself well if you want to listen to others. Because you’ll hear people talking about any type of subject, and it can be harsh on you if you are not prepared to.</p><h2 id="423c">2. Pay attention</h2><p id="e212">Try as hard as you can to not ignore someone who is speaking. Even when someone is saying bad things, you can find something interesting or useful in their discourse. Besides, many people that seem mean or even toxic wouldn’t have been that way if they had been listened to at an early stage.</p><h2 id="d1d7">3. Try to understand people’s ideas and sets of beliefs</h2><p id="1519">Whenever someone tells something that seems negative or out of place, try to ask yourself what makes this person think that, and how they feel when they say that. However, never try to think of their world as if it was yours. Let them speak for themselves and ask them questions that would help you understand them better.</p><h2 id="635f">4. Don’t interrupt people</h2><p id="5fe4">If you often interrupt people when they are speaking, you seem to be an aggressive and controlling person who wants to be the center of every conversation. Furthermore, you can’t get enough information about someone, or any other subjects that they are talking about if you are always thinking about what to say while they are speaking.</p><h2 id="be1e">5. Lear

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The Biggest Secret That Nobody Told You About Active Listening

“To be interesting, be interested” Dale Carnie

The most boring thing that can ever exist is a person who speaks a lot and never listens to others. Those people often sound unconfident, socially unskilled, and incompetent. Under some circumstances, they can even be labeled as being selfish, rude, narcissistic, or insensitive, because it seems that they don’t care about others’ feelings and ideas.

Besides, a bad listener’s discourses and ideas generally don’t evolve that much. Even though they give to people they don’t take anything back for they don’t have time to listen, let alone process others’ ideas and knowledge. Then as the world is changing very fast, they are kept imprisoned within their thoughts, biases, beliefs, and reduced knowledge.

However, being a great listener makes you seem like a very confident, calm, and self-controlled person. On the other hand, when you listen carefully to people’s ideas, they can sense that you have an interest in them. And in that case, people will see you as a person they can rely on.

A good listener will meet people that they don’t consider as close friends who tell them secrets or even ask them for advice about serious issues. Therefore, most good listeners sound attractive and interesting even though they don’t try to prove that they are because their presence makes people feel relaxed and happy.

Furthermore, one of the easiest ways that we update our set of values and get informed is by listening to others. That’s the reason why people that listen a lot are often very conscious and well-informed about their environment and life in general.

Given all the advantages stated above, I am quite sure that at this point of our reflection you might wonder what that means to be a good listener, and how someone can become a good listener.

What does that mean to be a good listener?

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A good listener does not only listen to people, but they go beyond the speaker’s words. They try to understand the reasons why that person says what they say, and what they want to convey in the first place, by asking relevant questions to add up meaning to the conversation. They often showcase their interest by adapting appropriate facial expressions, gestures, etc.

Still, they manage to share their ideas when they are convinced that it’s the appropriate time, and they often consider a lot of factors before they believe anything that’s not proven or even before they change their thought.

That is, to be a good listener requires a lot of strength and self-reliance. Because you’ll listen to different ideas and set of values, but at the same time you need to manage to remain healthy, not lose sight of your personal goals and beliefs and to still be grounded in what’s right for you.

However, good listeners always avoid bringing up their biases in the discourse. They try not to judge or critique before they fully understand the context of someone’s words. By doing so, they allow the person to speak more confidently.

There are a few things you need to practice so you can become a good listener:

1. Learn how to listen actively to yourself

Before applying your listening skills to others, try to be your best listener. Because as I said, you must know yourself well if you want to listen to others. Because you’ll hear people talking about any type of subject, and it can be harsh on you if you are not prepared to.

2. Pay attention

Try as hard as you can to not ignore someone who is speaking. Even when someone is saying bad things, you can find something interesting or useful in their discourse. Besides, many people that seem mean or even toxic wouldn’t have been that way if they had been listened to at an early stage.

3. Try to understand people’s ideas and sets of beliefs

Whenever someone tells something that seems negative or out of place, try to ask yourself what makes this person think that, and how they feel when they say that. However, never try to think of their world as if it was yours. Let them speak for themselves and ask them questions that would help you understand them better.

4. Don’t interrupt people

If you often interrupt people when they are speaking, you seem to be an aggressive and controlling person who wants to be the center of every conversation. Furthermore, you can’t get enough information about someone, or any other subjects that they are talking about if you are always thinking about what to say while they are speaking.

5. Learn when and what types of discourse you can listen to

Nobody is too strong to never be influenced by negative energy. That’s why you need to know your strong and weak points and avoid any types of conversations about things that make you stressed out or make you act convulsively. Besides, be aware of weak moments of your life, so that you aren’t influenced by lifestyle or ideas that otherwise you wouldn’t believe.

Am I on my way?

Photo by Marc-Olivier Jodoin on Unsplash

If you used to think that being a good listener is a sign of weakness, it’s not. This skill requires strength, and it is proof of it. Besides, listening carefully makes people more intelligent, well-informed, and appreciated. Because we learn as we listen to others. We can additionally increase our attractiveness and importance by being fully present for people.

Moreover, information is key, and someone can seem to be not powerful or well-connected, however, they have great ideas and so much information to share.

Therefore, go outside whenever you can, meet people, and listen to them. Then you’ll realize that the world is full of intelligent people and that it is way more complex and wider than you thought.