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com/widgets/media.html?src=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fembed%2F82hkeJ7Q6Dc%3Ffeature%3Doembed&display_name=YouTube&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D82hkeJ7Q6Dc&image=https%3A%2F%2Fi.ytimg.com%2Fvi%2F82hkeJ7Q6Dc%2Fhqdefault.jpg&key=a19fcc184b9711e1b4764040d3dc5c07&type=text%2Fhtml&schema=youtube" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="480" width="854"> </div> </div> </figure></iframe></div></div></figure><p id="1a3d">As part of my confidence coaching, I often recommend the ‘Talk To The Wall’ challenge, in which the goal is to talk to an inanimate object for two minutes without stopping.</p><p id="8d47">Give it a try. The video above includes a demonstration.</p><p id="2922">This challenge should flip a switch in your mind, because it encourages you to focus on talking, rather than impressing someone. It’ll prove that you can talk without running out of things to say. All you have to do is <b>let go</b>. Normally, you’ll end up amusing yourself too. After all, when you have the choice of all the topics in the world, you’ll naturally pick something that tickles your interest.</p><p id="b9d3">When you let go of impressing people, you have all the topics in the world at your disposal in the real world too.</p><p id="65b6">People with high self-confidence have no problems believing that everything they have to say is ‘good enough’. Most likely, they received plenty of positive feedback as a child and carried that into their adult life.</p><p id="9b18">These people believe everything they say has value purely because it comes from them. Indeed, everyone has a unique perspective on life and if it’s delivered in a passionate manner, it can interest others.</p><p id="0e09">To become one of these highly-confident people, see my list of <a href="https://readmedium.com/10-proven-self-confidence-tips-to-gain-unstoppable-charisma-78d2cdee68eb">10 tips to skyrocket your self-esteem</a>.</p><h1 id="c7de">But Seriously, What Should I Say?!</h1><figure id="36dc"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*oBP71_LwwdFZD3Ar"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@jarritos?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Jarritos Mexican Soda

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</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="6a00">Some dating coaches will give their students examples of pick-up lines or conversation starters.</p><p id="c52b">However, this canned material typically only works because the students believe in it. If the lines were delivered with no enthusiasm or self-belief, they wouldn’t hook anyone’s interest.</p><p id="0bd3">Without any core confidence to back them up, it’s also common that they’ll let the conversation die once the clever lines run out.</p><p id="a6ce">With that said, it can help anxious people to go into conversations with some topics to fall back on if their mind goes blank.</p><p id="c222">So, here are some topics you can slip into any conversation:</p><ul><li><b>What do you want? </b>What is the reason you’re talking to this person? Take the next step to getting that thing.</li><li><b>Are they your type of person? </b>What are the qualities you’re looking for in a friend/partner? Ask them a question where the answer will hint if they have these qualities.</li><li><b>Your surroundings.</b> What can you see, hear or smell? Comment on it.</li><li><b>What happened to you recently? </b>If you’ve been living a fun and active life, you should always have things to talk about. At the same time, you can also excite people by passionately sharing your opinion on the television show you’ve been watching.</li><li><b>What do you want to do later? </b>Your future ambitions, whether it’s for that evening or next year, will always be a suitable conversation topic.</li></ul><p id="cda9">When you let go of worrying about what to say, you’ll not only be able to generate endless conversation topics, you’ll also find yourself making clever jokes and witty comebacks. That’s what happens when you get out of your own way and stop filtering yourself.</p><p id="6949"><i>My book ‘<a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0811T9513">4 Weeks To Unstoppable Confidence</a>’ features 28 daily challenges to boost your assertiveness, bravery and charisma to unstoppable levels. The tasks start simple and get tougher with time, allowing even the shyest mice to build the momentum to skyrocket their confidence.</i></p></article></body>

The Benefits of Gratitude: How Practicing Gratitude Can Improve Your Mental Health and Relationships

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Have you ever heard the phrase — smiling and laughing prolong our living? It’s a true statement. If you ever notice how people behave around you, you may find one principal difference. Some people are smiling and laughing. These people are usually:

  • kind
  • responsive
  • positive
  • loving

All we want is to live, communicate, and be friends with such kinds of people. On the other hand, we have people who are the complete opposite of them. These people always have angry faces and don’t like anybody around them. You can determine them by the following characteristics:

  • angry
  • sad
  • envious
  • condemning

I don’t know any people who want to have such friends. Even if we have them, the desire to spend much time with them is pretty low. We don’t want to see them, help them, or even get help from them.

But how can we understand who we are in this world? To what group of people are we placed?

There is no exact answer to this question. We all are a mixture of the two types. The only thing we can control is to become more positive or negative.

The most powerful tool to become more positive and less negative is to be more grateful. How to approach this?

There are several ways to do this. First of all, we have to think about what we have and don’t concentrate on those things we don’t have yet.

The following steps can help you to practice gratitude without no much effort:

  • notice what you already have
  • write a gratitude journal by the end of your day
  • sit and note what you have in your life, but others don’t
  • find opportunities that are already available for you
  • answer who are your friends

These steps are an entrance to the room called gratitude. You need to understand yourself and your life. If you feel sad, look around yourself.

The first thing that can help to get out of the depression is thinking and looking around yourself, but not inside yourself.

Mindfulness and meditation are potent tools that you can use to see the world and people as they are. Finding answers to your questions and seeing the truth is much easier when you are not closed in your box.

I recommend you read this article because it can tell you how to start meditating and practice mindfulness.

Besides these recommendations, I want to tell you several more things you have to know, what you already have or can get quickly:

  • technologies to learn and grow
  • society to discuss it with
  • friends to ask for feedback and help

And first of all, you have the number one person who is your friend, teacher, and leader. It’s you! Listen to your heart and mind, and you will know what to do!

Additionally, I put here some other articles that are related to this topic and must be interesting for you, my friend. Check them out!

Gratitude
Happiness
Mental Health
Relationships
Mindfulness
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