The 3 Best Positions for Great Anal Sex

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He told me to get on my hands and knees. He was experienced with this kind of thing, so I followed his lead.

It’s probably what I would have done anyway. Getting in doggy position felt like the natural way to get fucked in the ass.

I felt the cool, thick lube slathering on my ass and then the head of his cock pressing against my asshole.

My first time having anal wasn’t that great. There are a lot of reasons for that — I was doing it more for him than for me. But one of the problems was the position I was in.

Even though it felt like the way to do it, getting on my hands and knees was probably one of the worst ways to do anal.

In the years since, I didn’t really question it that much. I’ve seen lots of pornstars get on their hands and knees for anal, and they took it like pros.

I’m a big fan of using porn for sexual inspiration. It’s how I discovered pussyjobs, learned to give better head, and got intrigued by edging and pussy worship.

Basically, if it looks cool on screen, I’ll probably end up trying it.

The only exception is butt stuff. Not because anal porn isn’t inspiring (it truly is), but because you have to be a lot more careful when it comes to your ass. Sex mishaps are usually funny and embarrassing, but anal mishaps can be downright painful.

There are so many anal sex moves that look really easy when pornstars do it but are especially tricky and challenging to pull off.

One of them is taking the cock out and re-entering repeatedly. That sounds fine in theory, and it feels good when it happens to your pussy, but the initial penetration is the hardest part of anal sex. Doing it over and over requires advanced ass mastery.

Other times, it’s just plain risky. Some of the positions pornstars use for anal scenes actually take an incredible amount of dexterity and physical control. Those positions can cause you to get the angle wrong, struggle to regulate your depth — or worse, slip.

The missionary position is one that’s really common in anal porn. In real life, though, it’s a really hard one to get right.

I’ve done it a few times and I found it really stimulating and pleasurable. Plus, it’s one of the few times you’ll be face to face with your partner while getting some backdoor loving.

But I find it almost never works for the initial penetration. I sometimes can’t even get a buttplug in from that position.

I’m sure I could get better at it with practice, or maybe if I could put my legs behind my head the way some performers do, but it’s definitely not a simple position.

Neither is reverse cowgirl.

I’m glad reverse cowgirl shows up in a lot of anal porn. Having a girl with her feet on the guy’s thighs while she bounces her ass on his cock looks absolutely fantastic. It’s beautiful material to jill off to. But it’s expert level stuff and probably shouldn’t be one of the first positions you try.

Choosing the right position makes an incredible difference. It can be what lets you have really intense and pleasurable anal instead of giving up because it’s too uncomfortable.

Over the years, I’ve narrowed my repertoire down to three positions that are the easiest and most reliable.

Face Down, Ass Up

I only tried going face down, ass up this year. Turns out I should’ve done it sooner because it’s by far the best position for anal.

I had seen it in lots of anal porn, but I was reluctant to try it because it’s such a vulnerable position to put yourself in.

No position makes you feel as exposed as this one. You’re basically presenting your pussy and asshole to your partner. Your face is down into the mattress so you have no idea how much they’re staring at you or what they’re even doing back there.

Before I could try it, I had to get over the primal feeling that it was just plain unsafe to be in that position. And I had to get over a ton of insecurities. I was way too self-conscious to even try it, and I had no idea if my ass would even look good like that — like, maybe my husband would be seeing more than he bargained for.

It also seemed kind of pointless because I thought of it as a variant of doggy style. And I’d been there, done that.

What changed my mind was discovering one of the best and least talked about tips for anal: bearing down.

The initial penetration was always the worst part for me. It was usually uncomfortable, but I put up with it because the pleasure that came after was so fucking incredible. It turns out that bearing down will relax your asshole and make it a lot easier to take a cock.

A lot of that is just plain muscle control, but the position you’re in helps too. And when you have your face down and your ass up, your body does it almost automatically.

Putting your arms down makes all the difference because it gives you the perfect pelvic shape for comfortable anal. And the way your back is arched makes it much easier for you to open up.

With the standard doggy position, you’ll clench up more easily. Instead of arching and relaxing, it’s easy to roll your back and push your stomach in. You can still have great anal sex in that position, but you’ll need to put in more concentration and mental energy to achieve it.

Face down, ass up is the best way to get things started. Once you get a good rhythm going and you’re getting a good thrust, you can switch to a different position.

In fact, you probably should. Because this might be easy for you on the receiving end, but it’s going to be murder on your partner’s thighs. It takes a lot of leg strength and physical endurance for them to basically do squat pulses over your ass for an extended period of time. Mr. Austin normally has to tap out after two or three minutes.

And yeah, it still makes me feel awkward and a little embarrassed to strike that pose. But remember that this is precisely what your partner wants to see. If they want to fuck your cute little asshole, they’ll definitely love you presenting it to them.

Spooning

The first time I had anal sex, I was in doggy position. But the first time I had great anal sex, we were spooning.

I was lying naked with Mr. Austin. We had been together for a while at that point and experimented with a few different things. But I couldn’t stop thinking of the one thing we hadn’t done yet.

I really wanted him to fuck my ass.

I was way too shy to ask for it, though. So instead, I waited until we were in a naked post-fuck cuddle sesh and I pushed my ass against him, breathing more heavily every time the head of his cock rubbed against my asshole.

He got the picture. And I got such an incredible fuck that I discovered I could come from anal alone.

Part of the reason it was so good is that we were in the right position. I find spooning to be the second-most comfortable position for anal, especially when you get the angle right.

And that’s the really big advantage of it — spooning gives you more control over the angles and makes it easier to make little adjustments. You and your partner can do slight shifts until you find the perfect way for their cock to meet your ass.

You also have the option to lift your leg up. That changes the angles and can be a really pleasurable way to get fucked. But the best part is that it gives your partner access to your clit.

Clit stimulation makes the initial penetration easier, it makes having a cock in your ass feel even better, and it can give you intense blended orgasms.

You can be the one touching yourself, but I highly recommend getting your partner to do it instead. It just feels so much better.

Prone Anal

One of my favorite sex positions is prone bone. Basically, I lie flat on my stomach, arch my back to give my partner better access to my pussy, and he lies on top of me and fucks me.

It’s also a really hot position for anal.

This one is a little harder to pull off because you have a bit less control over the angle. But lying on my stomach while getting my ass fucked has a lot of really nice advantages that make up for that.

I can push back on his cock, which gives me some control over the depth and speed of penetration. From that position, I can tell my husband not to move at all and I’ll take over instead.

It also gives your partner a lot of control. They can go deep, stay shallow, thrust quickly, fuck you slowly — whatever you want them to do.

But what I enjoy the most about it is being able to add some really fantastic clit stimulation.

Granted, from this position, you’ll have to do it yourself. But because you’ll either be riding your hand or your vibrator, the weight of your body adds a lot of pressure to it. That has resulted in the strongest anal orgasms I have ever experienced.

Get the Position Right

There are a lot of things you need to have great anal sex, whether you’re experienced or it’s your first time.

Lube, obviously. A partner you can trust and who truly listens is essential, too. And you need to really want it. It’s okay if you’re a bit nervous, of course, but you won’t be able to fully relax your body unless you’re turned on and really horny for it.

But that isn’t always enough. And getting the position right can help tremendously.

It took me years of trial and (lots of) error to find the ones that are the easiest, most comfortable, and most pleasurable.

You can experiment with all sorts of positions, but I recommend starting with these first (I really wish I had).

And if you never venture past them, that’s fine too. Just stick your head down, push your butt up, and don’t worry — your ass looks amazing in that position.

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