Relationships/Self
Staying Sexy For Your Long-Term Partner Isn’t Just About Looking Good
Here’s how I know.
There’s been a long-standing generalization that married and/or long-term couples tend to eventually let themselves go as far as exercising, eating healthy, or looking attractive after many years in a relationship together.
It IS easy to get comfortable when you’ve been with someone for years who still sleeps with you every night and who finds you completely desirable even in your sweatpants. These elements could lead to a lack of self-upkeep.
I don’t ever want to let myself go within my marriage, however, I’m not just talking about my physical appearance here.
I once wrote an article about why being sexy really has nothing to do with appearance and I still believe that to be true. Being physically attractive contributes to overall sexiness — YES. But having a lust for life, a passion for things that excite you, and finding happiness within yourself is what truly makes a person sexy.
As the woman I am, I feel sexiest when I’m content with my decisions and choices in life.
So when I say that I still want to be sexy within my marriage as well as appear sexy to the world, I’m not just talking about being physically fit and/or beautiful. I’m talking about having that glow of satisfaction when I make good life choices that agree with my mind, body, and soul.
Having a healthy relationship with your partner is sexy. Being able to communicate your needs clearly and having the ability to function together as a couple is undeniably appealing and most certainly something we often take for granted.
You can’t contribute anything to a relationship if you don’t feel good about yourself. Just because I’ve snagged a life partner doesn’t mean I’m going to stop putting in the effort to better myself.
I don’t want to lose my appetite for self-improvement just because I’m part of a couple. I won’t become complacent in my journey of self-discovery or in the evolution of loving who I am within my own skin.
I always want to feel sexy, married or not. Not just for my husband or for my ego — but for my well-being. Loving who I am, what I’ve learned, where I come from, where I’ve been, and what I have to offer makes me a much better partner.
We should always strive to be our best selves even when we’ve found our soulmate or ‘the one’.
Being in a marriage or long-term relationship shouldn’t ever inhibit one’s desire to be unapologetically fabulous.
I’m a married woman — and I still want to be sexy.
There’s nothing wrong with that.
