Soulmates
When you find someone with a soul that fits perfectly with yours.
The other night I was watching Once Upon a Time with my boyfriend, Jody. One of the characters said something about soulmates, so I turn to Jody and asked him, “Do you believe in soulmates?”
He thinks for a moment and looks up at me: “Yeah…yes, I do.”
I just smile at him and turn back to the show. I wanted to tell him, “I do too!”…I wanted to say “I think you’re mine!”. But I didn’t, because I wasn’t really sure what I thought about soulmates. Does the concept of soulmates mean you’re predestined to be with someone? If so, then does that mean there’s a such thing as fate? There were too many questions bouncing around in my mind to say anything more on the subject.
Later that night, I laid there listening to the soft sounds of Jody’s snores while I thought about soulmates. What are they? What does that mean? How do I know if he’s mine? When I couldn’t stand the buzzing of thoughts any longer, I got up and grabbed my journal and a pen. This is how many of my articles start, actually — laying in bed, my mind refusing to settle until I put a pen to paper and write about anything and everything for a few minutes.
What is a Soulmate?
What is a soulmate? Well, I have a few thoughts on that. First- a soulmate doesn’t have to be romantic. I think there are different types of soulmates, and each one is as important and as life-altering as the other. My son, for instance. He is one of my soulmates. He is my reason for living- his life is the entire reason mine was created.
I think, of all the odds, you find someone whose soul is shaped in a way that fits perfectly to yours… like two puzzle pieces from different boxes, with different pictures, made by different artists in times separated by years.
I believe soulmates, in the romantic sense, are drawn together by love, which acts as the bond that holds them together. Love for a child, love for a friend, love for a person that transcends life itself. A soulmate affects you in a way that is unlike anything else — your soulmate clicks into your life as though they were always meant to be there and suddenly, your days are brighter. Air is fresher. You strive to do better because that person loves you so completely that you finally see your own potential.
You Don’t Need A Soulmate to Complete You
The mass media has created this hype that you need a soulmate to complete you- that’s total bull dung. You need to complete yourself- and you should before you try entering into any kind of romantic partnership. It’s important to understand that only you are responsible for your happiness. It’s not on anyone else. Work on making yourself happy, and once you do, you’ll be able to see clearly when the right person comes into your life.
Finding Your Soulmate
Honestly, I think the best way to find your soulmate is to stop looking. I only found mine after I was 100% satisfied with being single. I wasn’t lonely- I had friends, family, and co-workers. I had an, ahem, “personal massager” for my womanly needs (TMI? Sorry, but not really sorry- women need sexual attention too, even if it’s from themselves). So I didn’t need a partner. But then I started hanging out with my neighbor more. We talked for hours without realizing the time had flown by. Then he started to flirt, a little. So I flirted back. And the next thing I know I realize I have caught feelings for this man I’ve lived next to for 2+ years. I had two options — tell him, and face possible rejection, or ignore it. I didn’t ignore it, and he didn’t reject me. Almost a year later, we’re deeply in love and expecting a baby in September. Yes- the baby was quick, but hey, if it’s meant, it’s meant.
If you’re not sure if you’ve found your soulmate, check out this article by Colleen Murphy, it’s spot on, in my opinion.