Single Is the New Black: 45% Of Women Will Be Single By 2030
Is this good or bad?
‘Women are not as smart as men, because their brain is smaller.’ Did you grow up with this axiom? A lot of women did.
I remember a family dinner as a child when my uncle clearly and emphatically stated that women’s brain capacity is smaller than men’s. There were 8 people at the table, equally divided between genders. Nobody batted an eyelid.
It was either accepted as fact or ignored as abuse. Considering how toxic my family of origin is, probably a little bit of both.
My uncle would also get dead drunk, rage at everybody at the table, get into his car and drive away to god-knows-where, to the horror of everybody involved, especially his wife, child, and mother. ‘Do you see me now, mommy?’ he seemed to yell. Mommy never saw him. And his adult daughter is now estranged, so I’d say at some point she finally saw him for what he truly is.
A lot of women can tell you quite similar stories. Stories of self-sacrifice and abuse. Some internalized them and are desperately seeking an ever illusive daddy to love them. And some rebelled against them and are building their lives daddylessly.
Can you blame them?
More and more women are single by choice. In 2018, that number was 41% for working women between the ages of 25 and 54. By 2030, it will rise to 45%, according to global leader in financial services Morgan Stanley.
What exactly is driving this trend?
- More and more women are choosing to delay marriage and focus on their careers.
- For the same reason, women are choosing to delay childbirth, have fewer children or stay childfree.
- Increasingly more women choose to divorce in their 50s or 60s.
A few decades back these choices were an impossibility. The great majority of women didn’t have the option of financial independence, therefore they couldn’t afford to be without a man for too long.
But increased equality and financial freedom drove this huge and steady shift in women’s approach to life and priorities. Areas of success that were previously only available to men are now strongly won over by women.
1. Education.
Women have overtaken men and now account for more than half (50.7%) of the college-educated labor force in the United States, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of government data.
2. Professional advancement
Since 2010, the percentage of women executives increased across all developed regions, with the largest gains in Asia with a doubling of participation since 2010.
3. Income growth
In 1980, women earned 64 cents for every dollar that men made, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics; today, the gap has shrunk to between 77 and 85 cents of every dollar.
4. Consumer power
Rising labor-force participation rates should put upward pressure on women’s wages and help increase overall consumer spending.
Apparently, when women were given the chance to earn and thrive, they did. Who would have thought? Everybody with an ounce of critical thinking did. Not my misogynistic uncle, for obvious reasons.
Increased power leads to increased expectations.
So there’s another question that arises. If women are no longer dependent on men, does it also mean they are no longer interested in men?
Absolutely not!
It just means that women are now interested in good men.
There are plenty of good men out there and there will be even more in the future. Slowly but surely, toxic masculinity will only be appealing to toxic men as a way to self-validate.
If you thought there aren’t any more good men left, it’s just because the toxic ones make a lot of noise. And everybody’s tired of it. The good women who choose to be single, tired of abusers. But also the good men who have their good name sullied by abusers, incels, and Neanderthals.
Conclusion:
This is great news for both sexes. But only for those members of society that are emotionally mature and mentally sane.
And here’s why.
With women not needing to marry men for financial stability or safety, they can decide to be with men because they really want them in their lives.
Now men can be sure that they are truly loved. Wanted, appreciated, and cherished as human beings, not just walking wallets or a meal ticket.
And the good men of this world will want nothing less.
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