Simple Truths About Life That Young People Probably Need to Hear
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Many things we learn in life when it’s too late. And as we don’t have any rewind button, we cannot undo what is already done. But yes, we can make our future better by enhancing our understanding of life and learning from past mistakes.
From my experiences, I can say that knowing a few things beforehand can help you tremendously and make your life easier and less troublesome. When I look back at my earlier years in life, I see that many of the thoughts I had that time have completely changed over time as life unfolds gradually in front of me.
With time, we surely gain new perspectives, and our thoughts grow stronger roots that stand solid, and unbreakable. We can see more clearly what went wrong in those past years and why. And we can offer help to other people avoid the mistakes we made.
Anyway, in this article, I will share a few things that can help you understand your journey of life better and save you from unexpected situations or life events. And I am pretty sure that if you become aware of all the things said in the following and act accordingly, you will never crash-land in life.
Now, let’s jump into it right away.
You Are Your Perception of Money
Have you ever thought about your perception of money?
It is tough to realize when you are younger because most of us possess a lifelong fantasy of being a millionaire or billionaire. We associate money with success and blindly follow any path that leads us to that direction. And we start to ignore every other thing life offers.
It is understandable that without money, no one can run a decent life. But again, earning more cannot be your ultimate goal — because how you see money defines you, your life, and your actions.
If making more money becomes your ultimate goal, you will end up over-working, running from one business to another, and struggle to keep a good relationship with your friends and family. Eventually, you will fall into an endless loop of earning more and start to judge other people based on their possessions. You will have no time to stay calm and enjoy a day passing by.
On the other hand, if you see money as just a necessary tool to lead a life and don’t run after that all the time, you will have a relatively calm lifestyle. You will enjoy your time and work, and your relationships with your friends and family will be wonderful. You will give experiences more priority than being in a constant race for more possessions. Your heart will become content with what you have though you will miss the spotlight and have less exposure than those who earn millions.
What I am saying is you can choose any of the two. And what you choose will define the rest of your life. That’s why you need to make the right decision for yourself and become aware of its consequences.
Your Successful Friends Have Their Fair Share of Shits
Your friends’ life is not exactly what you see on their Instagram or Facebook profiles. Life is tough for everyone. Maybe you don’t always see the struggle upfront and, therefore, conclude by saying they are just lucky. But they are not.
People struggle in different phases of life, and sometimes it gets unbearable. And not all struggle is seen from the outside. When you don’t earn much, it’s easy for you to have a conclusion in mind that those who earn better have no problems in life. But the reality is far from what you think. They may have family issues, continuous unhappiness, mental discomfort, relationship problems, poor health condition, and more.
The point is — you hardly know what the other person is having in mind or dealing with in life. That’s why you should not judge people too quickly based on how they appear before you. Remember, everyone has their fair share of shits, and life is like that. No one is 100% lucky, and of course, no one is 100% unlucky.
So, always respect other people and do not come to a conclusion too quickly. Maybe when you know their stories, your eyes will get wet, and you will feel embarrassed by your previous thinking.
All You Lack in Life Is a Good Mentor With No Subscription Fee
It’s a very crucial thing that almost nobody tells you about. A good mentor is a blessing for life. And everyone needs a mentor to unload their burden and seek help and advice. Well, just to be clear, I’m not talking about the subscription-dependent mentors you find online. I am talking about the real ones who know you well and can expand their helping hand when everything seems to fall apart.
I have talked about these mentors in detail in an article titled Where to Find Your Secret Mentors. But just to give you an overview, these mentors can be your parents, your close friends, your favorite teachers, and even the spiritual or religious leaders you follow.
And what exactly will your mentor do? He/she will help you understand yourself, guide you when the time is challenging, offer you love when all you’re getting is hate from everyone, and inspire you to move forward.
Admit it or not, every one of us has our ‘tough time’ in life when nothing works out. That time, a mentor can help you understand the situation from a third point of view and give you advice that may help you gain your lost confidence.
The earlier you understand that you need a mentor, the better. You will be more empowered and confident in life, and when any unprecedented circumstances come, you will not feel lonely and left out in the desert. Your mentor will give your mental support and the strength to carry on.
What Book-Summarizing Apps Told You About Reading Is Wrong
Who can deny the power of reading? No one, right? But with the advancement of technology and so many new cool things at your disposal, you feel reluctant to read. Maybe you think when you have a tool to know a 500-page book in five minutes, what will you get reading the same book spending a few weeks?
Well, first of all, reading is not just getting the core information from any book. It is about the whole experience of it — holding the books in hand, diving deep into the realm of unknown knowledge, and creating a unique world of imagination in your mind — which no one gives you with their five or ten minutes podcasts or videos.
So, give your Blinkist or YouTube a break and start reading what you don’t know from an actual book. Expand your reading horizon and enter the new and exciting realms of knowledge, disconnecting yourself from the world of constant disturbance and notifications.
If you are a young man obsessed with so many apps and the virtual world, I will sincerely request you to go offline and read a book. It can be a book of poetry, romantic novel, thriller, philosophy book, or even science fiction. Read a book and explore the world, being involved in it completely — and not faking the reading.
Never be the victim of enticing advertisements by some rubbish apps that are meant to destroy your reading habit. Take control in your hand and learn new things every single day. It will stand out from all people around you and enrich your day-to-day life.
Networking Can Give You Unexpected Gifts
Do you know how I got my first job? I didn’t even apply for that job. And the man who referred me was completely unknown to me even before a month. That time, I was doing an internship where I get to know a lot of people and made great relationships with some of them in no time. A few of them became really close and started to like me more. One day, one of them asked me what type of job I was looking for. When I told him that I am planning to join and work for an NGO, he appreciated it.
Then after a few weeks, he approached me and told me to join one of his friends’ NGOs. He told me that he praised highly of me to his friend. And his friend told me to meet him for an informal interview. Surprisingly, this is how I got the first job that I continued for nearly one and half years before shifting to another great company. I must admit I learned a lot from that job.
In this competitive world, you cannot ignore the power of networking. Networking does not necessarily mean that your need to be too formal in your way of communication and try to connect to every person you see around. Instead, it means that you need to be humane and show genuine interest in others who are a good match for your career goals.
If you are still young and studying, here is how you can start networking —
- Search for the people who are in a great position in good companies and also studied from the same institution you are in now.
- Approach them (through email or call) by appreciating their achievements and let them know that you are on the same journey and will appreciate it if they have any advice for you.
- Communicate frequently and keep them updated about your gradual improvement and seek more advice.
- Be curious about their life and work. And never be shy to ask good questions.
Networking can take you a long way. The earlier you know this in life, the better your future will be. Networking is not fooling others and making them to your benefit. It is learning from the people who have achieved the goals that you want to achieve.
Key Takeaways
Your success in life depends on how you see life as a whole and use the opportunities life gives you to thrive. Being aware of the key things beforehand can help you win in many situations and make your journey of life more smoother and enjoyable. So keep the following in mind —
- Have a solid perception and awareness of money and act accordingly.
- Don’t judge people instantly based on their appearance.
- Find your mentor and share your wins and failures.
- Read to expand your knowledge and understanding of life.
- Pay attention to networking and build meaningful connections.
I hope this post will help you realize a few core things to make your life smoother and save it from crash-landing.
I wish you a happy and less-troublesome life!
Thank you for reading.
You may read my following articles on Mind Cafe to know more about life and happiness
- Five Subtle Signs That You Are Destroying Your Life
- How to Experience Happiness Right Away
- Seven Powerful Features to Upgrade Your Life