Sexual Fantasy is Superb
How to use our imagination the sexy way when we are stuck indoors
I hope no one in my office will read this.
It’s late hours and most people have left the office. I’m new and this hot guy called Johann is buried in his work. His forearm muscles flex as he types.
But I can tell he has been looking at me under his nerdy glasses. My short skirt and long bare legs. And it’s time, for him to toss that Covid plastic dividers between us away, and push me on the meeting room table.
We can sanitize the space afterwards…
Coming back to our co-working space after 10 months has been refreshing. Not only on the work front, but I also realize how strangers stimulate our imaginations in unexpected ways. Dirty fantasies included.
Why are sexual fantasies powerful and how we can make our new life sexy despite we are stuck in limbo?
My libido tanked
Confining to our space, alone or not, is very suffocating.
The never-ending pandemic (touch wood!) is affecting our physical and mental health, finance, freedom, and everything. Has it also tanked your sex drive? Turn out that’s normal because stress, anxiety, and a global crisis are bound to make us less DTF.
I thought the lockdown will be done by now, but it’s not. There are new variants, again! I have to do something about this. Because I know, deep down, I really want to have kinky sex, but I just can’t seem to get myself going at the moment.
This is a powerful realization. The pandemic might be playing our minds, but we can reverse its impact on our libido with our imagination.
Our minds travel beyond these walls
I’ve tried masturbating with porn. But it was weird for me because all I could think about is the porn stars aren’t social distancing properly and it’s full of germs (clearly I am a bit OCD).
I’ve also tried masturbating without porn. I call it mindful masturbation, and it works very well. Here’s my step-by-step guide on mindful masturbation:
If focusing on the touches and biological stimulation is a bit hard because your mind is flying everywhere. we can also take a creative approach to healthy sexual fantasies.
Think outside the box of your physical home. Be the Gold Snitch of your sex Quidditch — a prop that is completely out of order in a normal game.
How to have sexy fantasy when our life is a blur
I’m the best person to ask because I’m a writer. If I can make up a story (and actually turned it into a novel) during the pandemic, I can create an imagined world of sex.
Here’s my step-by-step masturbation guide to reignite our libido with imagination:
- Get in the zone
Prepare yourself and your space. Are you in your most comfortable masturbation spot? Is it your bed, the reading chair, the bathtub, or even inside your closet? Get comfy.
2. Hand in position
When you place your hand/vibrator/finger in the right spot, I suggest you be mindful about it. Be fully aware that your body is about to rock. If we can all apply more consciousness in our sex life, we will definitely be healthier.
3. Imagine your happy place
Some guided meditation will lead you to a happy place. What if that happy place is also available for mind-blowing sex? Would that be an even happier place?
4. A context, a story
It’s not strictly necessary but some people are more stimulated in a context than straight into doing it. This is why porn such as student/teacher, nurse/patient, naughty swimming lessons (!) are so popular.
Unlike usual dirty thought masturbation, for this particular one that aims to revive your libido, I suggest having a storyline going.
5. Imagine particular body parts of your counter-part(s)
No matter you are storyline involves a JOI, a multi-partner game, or straight-forward one-on-one, I recommend you using your mind like a zooming lens. Zooming in and out of their body parts. Eyes, lips, ears, collar bones, arm muscle, torso…going south as you imagine what they are doing to you.
6. Add other sensual elements
Are they speaking to you? Are their hands doing something crazy? Have they lit a candle? Are you using some hot massage oil wax and how does it feel on the skin? Let every sense involves in your imagination, and your masturbation becomes a full-body experience. Building up to a grander and more intense picture as it goes along.
7. Keep going
Are your toes curling now? Is your body trembling? Are you biting your lips? Are your eyes rolling backwards? Don’t let your hand or device stop, keep going and going and going and going.
It might take a longer time to get hot compared to porn, but I promise, mindful masturbation always has a bigger, more lasting impact.
8. Let your body flow
Your body is now taking over, the libido is on fire. I will let you go wild now, thank me later!
A word of caution
Are we objectifying people we know and violating their innocence if we imagine stuff we can do with them?
Some Christians say that might be enough to make one sinful.
As a woman, our bodies have been objectified for centuries, but I think there’s a solid line between imagining something and acting on something.
If someone thinks I’m hot and have me in their sexy imagination, I am flattered.
But if they have thoughts about me and they only stare at my body whilst talking to me, or if they act upon those thoughts without my consent, that’s a big no. It’s horrible.
The line between a healthy sexual fantasy and a creepy person is knowing the boundary between imagination and reality.
Johann the hot guy from the beginning of this article is sitting right opposite me, but I’m not going to do anything to him in reality. I will talk to him normally and imagine what can be done privately.
That’s the line, right there.
Happy masturbation!
