Seductress: The Skill, The Art, The Magic
3 tips and tricks to take over the world.
This is not about seducing a man, but about seducing the world.
The methods are the same.
How many times did you find yourself sad, looking in the mirror at your imperfect body? At your small breasts or your downturned eyes and cried over your lack of Kadashianness?
Or maybe you are a dazzling beauty. When you walk down the street, men’s eyes light up and so do yours. You put a spring in your step and sway in your hip. And then when you go back home you cry into your pillow because you never felt like you belonged anywhere and there were no arms to hold you in the dark winter night.
And what if I were to tell you that you can be the sweetest peach of all, because looks don’t really matter?
Because seduction is a matter of attitude.
Did you know that some of the world’s greatest seductresses were seriously fugly? And some of the most beautiful women of this world are and always have been utterly unhappy and alone.
This article is not about seducing men.
It’s about you. Seducing yourself.
It’s about your power. Reaching inside and dragging it out into the light. Beyond rules, morals, feminism, patriarchy, submission, or any other ideas and limitations.
It’s about pure unadulterated unapologetic power and your access to it.
Seduction is power. No matter what form it comes in.
I dare you to test it!
I already did, I know the results, but I want you to do it as well, so you feel the effects on yourself.
Here’s the test: dress as ugly as you possibly can. Something brown and shapeless. Make sure that neither your waste nor your breasts are visible. Wear no make-up. Tie your hair back in a bun (men hate those). All you have to be is clean. No perfume!
Go to the supermarket or any place where there are people.
While you walk through the isles, imagine yourself as the most desired woman in the world. With your gaze, you can bring down empires. With the slightest of smiles, men fall to their knees and weep. You can have anyone you want. If you ask, everything is given to you.
Feel that power rise slowly but surely from the pit of your stomach towards your heart. Feel it take over your body and drown your brain in a sea of endorphins. And walk, just walk around the supermarket in your newfound state.
And watch. You will see everyone looking at you. Not just the men. Everyone!
Some only sneaking a peak. Some will be blatantly staring. Some might come over to tell you something or move out of your way as you reach for a can of sweet corn. But all of them will be there. They will know there is power residing in you and you have access to it.
But that’s just a test, so you can see how it feels. Some learn to be in that state all the time. It’s just a matter of exercise.
“We dance to seduce ourselves. To fall in love with ourselves. When we dance with another, we manifest the very thing we love about ourselves so that they may see it and love us too.” — Kamand Kojouri
Implement the following basic rules and watch yourself and the world around you change.
1. Stop trying so damn hard.
Do you have a date? Please stop putting all that make-up on. And it’s not that I hate make-up, but it’s a demonstration of insecurity. What exactly are you trying to convince him of? That you’re not good enough without a full pancake of beauty products on your face?
Do you have an important meeting at work? Are your hands shaking and your feet sweating? Why? Is anybody going to kill you? Does your life depend on this job? All the more, if it does you need to calm down. The more you sweat, the less impressed they’ll be. Go there, be well prepared, do your thing and get the hell out.
Are you meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time? Stop laughing like a maniac, they’ll think you’re either drunk or crazy and that has not impressed anyone yet. Smile, be natural, be who you are. If you can’t make meatloaf don’t pretend you do. Don’t try to impress by being someone you’re not. That will eventually backfire.
2. Put passion into everything you do.
Sex. Love. Work. Walking down the street. Any and every area of your existence could benefit from a bit more passion.
Life is such shit sometimes. But other times it’s pure magic. Put passion into getting out of the funk or into living your depression full time. Be there for all the lemons that life throws at you and start juggling them into a future lemonade.
There is nothing quite as enthralling as someone taking life by the horns and kissing it on the mouth.
Show up for yourself wherever you might be. If you don’t do it, who else is going to?
There is 0 attraction in denial and even less in always pretending everything is ok. Cry if you have to, break down and put yourself back together.
You have to be passionate about yourself if you want to inspire passion in others.
I’ve never seen anyone’s eyes sparkle when talking about boiled potatoes. Oh, but French fries inspire a whole lot of drooling. Be the French fry of your own world and you’ll see people lined up around the corner to get a taste!
3. When everybody loves you, nobody loves you.
The greatest seducers of history were not loved by everybody. They were polarizing figures. Loved by many, hated by just as many.
It’s a natural thing to want everyone’s love. But if you compromise yourself to get it, it won’t make you happy, it’s not sustainable and they don’t love you for who you are, anyway.
Don’t be a people pleaser! People pleasers, love addicts, and status chasers always get used by the ones who don’t have the same needs.
Do you and watch everybody else wanting to do you too.
There are so few authentic people out there. That’s why the ones who are true to themselves are so impressive. They are like an exotic animal that everyone wants to get a piece of.
Don’t imagine that seductions means everybody likes you. Seduction means everybody wants you.
Despite their better judgement, despite how they might feels about you and what you represent, seduction is the catalyst that stirs everybody’s internal pot. It’s your chance to touch people on the inside and change them for the better. Or worse. It’s up to you.
The power is yours.
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