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to even try to understand your own emotions?</p><p id="144f"><b>The problem with the tired old trope of men as less emotional is that it only works if we ignore all the emotions we associate with maleness, such as anger, competitiveness, lust, rage, ambition, jealousy, and pride. And only if we pretend men aren’t affected by such feelings as insecurity, shame, sadness, fear, grief, pain, anxiety, and guilt.</b></p><p id="a656">What I observed in my professional career was that men do experience those emotions just as much as women do, but they are less aware of them, less willing to examine them, less able to discuss them.</p><p id="5b18"><b>Even feelings every human being should be proud to own, like love, are uncomfortable territory for the hyper-male to verbalize. Does that mean they lack such feelings? No. <i>So why are they so scared to talk about them?</i></b></p><p id="6246" type="7">In what sense is it rational not to try to understand how others feel?</p><h2 id="4850">Big boys don’t cry.</h2><p id="f56e"><b>To most of us, emotionality means tears.</b> Maybe this is where we got the notion of the unemotional man. Women cry, and children cry, but men are tough. They don’t react to feelings.</p><p id="5921">Well, they might react, but not by weeping. They might shout and clench their fists. They might pitch tantrums — punching walls, slamming doors, and breaking things. They might do any of a dozen crazy things, from driving way too fast to picking fights in bars, but as long as they aren’t crying at the same time, their friends won’t call them out for “getting all emotional.”</p><p id="e644">But tears are a <b>healthy</b> response to strong emotion. Tears show vulnerability, invite support, build unity with others, and regulate our neurochemical balance. Tears function as a safety valve, removing stress hormones like cortisol. When those chemicals build up, it sets us up for major health problems, including diabetes, heart disease, and cancer. It also builds up pressure that can lead to desperate behavior.</p><p id="c708"><b><i>Maybe, if we taught our boys to cry, we wouldn’t see so many of our men arrested, addicted, committed, or dead by suicide.</i></b></p><p id="2497" type="7">Tears function as a safety valve, removing stress hormones like cortisol.</p><h2 id="a13e">But what about their hormones? PMS!?!</h2><p id="56ba"><b>Here’s the scoop: we all have hormones.</b> Every body and every brain has the same hormones, just not in the same proportion. And everybody’s hormones have an impact, not just on their moods but on their mental clarity.</p><p id="3e2c">Women’s estrogen levels fluctuate in predictable 28-day cycles. That’s why we see shelf after shelf of books, plus articles in every magazine that’s written for a female readership, about not only PMS and PMDD but also the emotional effects of pregnancy and perimenopause. Estrogen may be the single most-examined substance in the human body. (Or, at least, in the <i>female</i> human body, though many of the neural pathways in men’s brains are also estrogen-dependent.)</p><p id="4017">But even though males are still in the majority among physicians, testosterone has not been given anywhere near as much attention except regarding its

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impact on sexual and athletic performance.</p><p id="4887">Men’s testosterone levels surge <b>unpredictably</b>. Like every time they see a pretty woman. Or their team wins a big game. Or they get cut off in traffic. So where is all the research on the impact of those hormone surges on men’s moods and mental clarity? Or, more to the point, why doesn’t <i>that</i> research get more air time in the popular press?</p><p id="81c9"><b>Testosterone-juiced behavior has been described in many ways. Rational was never one of them.</b> But do we teach our sons to watch out for <i>their</i> hormones? Of course not. Instead, we show them how to justify their actions — to <i>rationalize </i>their irrational behavior and, if called out by a woman, accuse her of oversensitivity.</p><p id="bb86" type="7">Testosterone-juiced behavior has been described in many ways. Rational was never one of them.</p><h2 id="b8af">Conclusions</h2><p id="277a">A<b>re men more rational than women? </b>In a word, no. Just the opposite. Neither are they less emotional, just less aware of their emotionality.</p><p id="1b09">Our culture shows girl children lots of ways to handle feelings. It tells boy children just to stuff them. So the women have the tools, the tears, the talking skills. The men just have to wing it. In the dark.</p><p id="6fc1">It isn’t fair to anyone. Not fair to men who have grown up deprived of vital skills and knowledge. Not fair to women who are forced to deal with men who can become irrational at any moment, in response to feelings they have been conditioned to ignore.</p><p id="b67f">It doesn’t have to be that way. We can do a better job preparing all our children to live as emotion-having beings in the company of other emotion-having beings.</p><p id="4b69"><b>But until that happens, we should stop letting men get away with pretending they are somehow blessed with greater rationality than women. Because nothing could be further from the truth.</b></p><p id="cc07">.</p><p id="171c"><b><i>More from Edward Robson, PhD, MFA:</i></b></p><div id="2913" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-friend-zone-is-a-lie-f7b904035d3a"> <div> <div> <h2>The Friend Zone is a Lie</h2> <div><h3>There’s a reason you keep getting stuck there.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*9tcAn5ESD5gxfeUb)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="0d10" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/you-have-the-power-to-cause-pain-ba63dcb1a55e"> <div> <div> <h2>You Have the Power to Cause Pain</h2> <div><h3>The surest way to guarantee you will is to imagine that you can’t.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*56yO74vt1MVnhj5I0uIECg.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

(De-)Scaling with Scrum

So you’re supersizing your company or are looking for ways to supersize Scrum to your supersize company. I have a perfect approach in mind for you. A small question first though: feel like some vanilla ice cream?

Vanilla Scrum

Now before you jump on the Scaling Scrum bandwagons of Nexus, LeSS, Scrum@Scale or before you buy yourself an Agile Release Train ticket to frankenstein it all the way up to SAFe, I beg you to consider the following.

Battling complexity

Scrum is small and lightweight, so how can it be fit for enterprise?!

Scrum is designed to battle complexity and works well for organizations that operate mainly within the complex (or even chaotic) domain of the Cynefin Framework by Dave Snowden.

by Dave Snowden

“As technology, market, and environmental complexities and their interactions have rapidly increased, Scrum’s utility in dealing with complexity is proven daily.” — Uses of Scrum, the Scrum Guide

Ergo, Scrum in itself is already is the proven answer to how to deal with markets and environments that “have rapidly increased”.

One of Scrum’s most successful strategies for resolving complexity is by remaining simple and lightweight itself.

Another strategy of Scrum is revealed through its routine: consistency.

Methodologists generally have a habit of battling complexity by well… adding even more complexity. Just watch the overhead grow until it’s all way over their heads. Oh sure, they abandon stuff too…mainly those very practices which were hard, but should have made them great over time. In their habit to try and control complexity, they fail as all these controlling policies and processes make the organization rigid whilst they are meant to thrive in dynamic environments. Now, turning rigid, rather than thrive, they have to try and survive.

Resolving dependency

The main reason put forth as to why to scale Scrum is to manage inter-team communication and dependency. Thus, each and every single scaling approach to Scrum introduces roles, teams, committees and whatnot. These can be organized in various ways in Nexus (integration) Teams, Product Owner Teams (LeSS Huge), Scrum of Scrums, and even (I wish I was kidding) Scrum of Scrum of Scrums (Scrum@Scale).

This too inadvertently calls for aligning these committees to Scrum’s events which generally end up wrapping themselves around them.

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But how do Scrum Teams manage their inter-team dependencies? Well, the answer is (not surprisingly) simple: by organizing teams cross-functionally and empowering them to self-organize. This enables them to resolve complexities and dependencies. Now though that principle is indeed a simple one, the practice is difficult. A good place to start is to refine work (slice the cake into consumable sizes) so it can be completed in a Sprint where the dependencies that remain are limited to what a team can self-manage.

‘But what do we do with all this middle-management overhead and self-important higher-ups?!’. SAFe grants them all fancy titles and puts up a facade of new Agile ‘lipstick on a pig’ terminology. Well with ‘vanilla’ Scrum, organizational management would not be excluded from participating in Scrum Teams. They don’t just cease to exist, do they? Their competencies don’t just vanish either. Their ‘product’, is the organization, which to is a complex entity that emerges and requires an incremental approach to its development. In math, a product is ‘a quantity obtained by multiplying quantities together’. Scrum Teams resolve their dependencies with other Scrum Teams inter-aligning Sprint Goals. No need for any new fancy terminology. What’s more, they’re now super-supported by all this transparency and super-involved servant leadership. It’ll be like walking out of Plato’s Cave to them.

Cookie Jar

One of the challenges Scaled Scrum Frameworks try to solve is the ‘too many hands in one cookie jar’ problem.

It’s about many teams working on a single product. Many teams need to forecast (select Product Backlog items for a Sprint) from a single Product Backlog. So what, one might wonder, could possibly guide the teams in forecasting these items? What could provide this guidance to the Development Teams so they don’t all grab the same cookie at once?

“The Product Owner discusses the objective that the Sprint should achieve and the Product Backlog items that, if completed in the Sprint, would achieve the Sprint Goal.” — The Scrum Guide (emphasis added)

Some Product Backlog Items could indeed relate to multiple objectives. It’s not rocket science to make transparent which team is selecting which items into its forecast and align on those that share dependencies. As these dependencies become transparent they can be resolved. These Scrum organizations will learn to value the INVEST criteria when it comes to defining and refining Product Backlog Items where the “I” stands for “Independent”.

The Product Cloner

Another challenge that is introduced when many teams work on a single product is that it would become hard for the Product Owner, being part of all those Scrum Teams, to attend the events that require their presence (Sprint Planning, Sprint Review, and the Sprint Retrospective). Surely, the Product Owner cannot clone him or herself to attend all these events at the same time.

Though the Scrum Guide does describe the purpose of the events and what would fulfill its purpose, it doesn’t prescribe how the events are to take place. A Sprint Planning or Sprint Review indeed could be run ‘bazaarmode’ as LeSS does. Also, the Scrum Guide doesn’t prescribe that all members have to sit out the event’s entire time-box. What’s more, a Development Team might contain members who support the Product Owner. Those would be diligent inspectors and value-oriented specialists (UX-Designers for example) that assist and guide the Product Owner. Although this is hard to manage, the alternative of introducing proxy Product Owners introduces its very own challenges and complexities related to transparency. So choose wisely.

Commercial $crumundrum$

Now naturally it would have been a commercial blunder to not offer a scaled Scrum solution to large corporates, as clearly they cannot overcome the conviction that a big and complex entity requires something scaled to manage it.

The practice of scaling Scrum is controversial. It is almost paradoxical. Even the two co-writers of the Scrum Guide could not agree on a single scaled approach and they ultimately introduced each their own. I bet I am not far of the mark imagining that it was agreed the ‘scaling of Scrum’, inevitable as it was, was best done in a contained and controlled manner “without adding unnecessary complexity or straying from Scrum’s core principles” (as quoted from the Scrum Nexus Guide). If you can’t beat them… join them. Approaches like Nexus, Scrum@Scale, and LeSS do a decent job at reducing complexities to retain a level of simplicity and consistency. So yeah, a few extra toppings on top of that vanilla ice cream can be a guilty pleasure.

The Scrum Framework itself is a great, if not best, approach to scaling. It’s lightweight enough to enable all the freedom on the canvas required to deal with inter-team dependencies when it comes to collaborating on a single or even multiple products.

Now, if one still considers Scrum to be a box too small for one’s enterprise ego, I’d recommend these two Dr. Who’s Tardis intros as a metaphor to approaching Scaling with Scrum as-is.

Recommended continued reading:

Consider running through Willem-Jan Ageling assessments on Scales Scrum Frameworks:

Check out Paddy Corry’s hands-on advice on resolving complexity.

Plato’s Cave by Max Heiliger

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