Relationships between Lightworkers
What does it mean to fall in love with another healer?
In my journey, I have encountered and still meet several lightworkers in their path to discovering their authentic self and expression to the world.
Part of my life’s mission is to remind healers not aware of their spiritual work that, away from their daily challenges and pursuits, hide a greater calling that they purposefully chose to fulfill during their time on earth. I can recognize untapped potential and brings it to the healer’s attention by using Karmic laws to explain what stops them from moving forward in their spiritual journey.
I have dated, been in intimate relationships, or just became a great friend with many, but the one thing I always knew from the beginning is why we crossed paths in the first place.
How do you know Bonaventure? I am often asked!! Claircognizance — knowing something without knowing the source of it. Some people, would say “ It feel like we met before or know each other”. Those encounter are destined and should be nurtured.
I always ask this simple question to myself when I meet a new person. Why did we met, and what can we do to serve you?
You see, my default behavior is to serve and then receive my blessings back from you or the universal forces. I am willing to wait for my reward if necessary, which adds to my positive Karmic count.
You never get the opportunity to be reborn without having put together a blueprint for your life. You can forget it or decided not to fulfill it, but that plan is what your soul is longing to accomplish if you wish to gain fulfillment in your life journey.
Because of the lightworker, strong sensitivity, and inner love, we often engage in relationships because we are drawn to it or because we need some support.
When both know that they are lightworkers on the mission and decide to unite or share experiences, some crucial factors must be understood first for the connection to work best.
Those insights apply to Soul mates and Twin Flame relationship or Karmic tighs.
Here is what I have observed that can be of value.
It is for healing first, love and affinity comes second
Our souls attract each other because my lessons are found through you and yours through mine — The mirror effect. Anything you dislike on someone else is something you unconsciously dislike on yourself. Fix your inner conflict and the outside will reflect the change.
It is for a greater purpose, focus on learning from each other
Focus on learning from each from the beginning, just by doing so, everything falls in place. By trying to learn more about the other person, you also learn about yourself. If you only focus on the attraction, you might miss out on the value you must both gain.
It is for acquiring the wisdom the other one has, not deplete each other
Be mindful not to engage in a codependent relationship that slows down each other. Set boundaries that keep and lead to peace. At times, one can wait for the other one, but taking too long to learn your lesson is a red flag of stagnant growth or denial of the truth. If you can be alone without anyone, and still be at peace and happy, you can now give genuine love to others. Remember as well that you can’t pour anything from an empty cup. Get yours full firt.
It is meant to create unconditional love between you, not attachment
Unconditional Love is love without expectation and self-serving interest — it is love at its purest essence. Focus on removing your shortcoming, and your person will reflect what you put out, or they will leave naturally due to the difference in frequency. You don’t even have to do a thing, I promise you. It will happen naturally.
It will become the perfect love for you if it is meant to be — A contract needs to be fulfilled first.
The love will stay strong if it is what both souls agreed to. If not, you will know as well. There are times when you will not want to leave the other partner because of the pain of separation but if both of you agreed unconsciously to separate, your experience will show signs leading you toward that path.
If separation happen, it needs to comes from a place of love, and not fear or pain.
The most important thing to do in the case of a separation, it is to do it in peace. When you leave, do it with love in mind. It can be love for yourself, for the other, or for the greater good, but it must be love. Separating from a place of fear can set you up in another relationship for you to learn the same lesson. No one like to repeat the same miskate specially when you know what needs to be fixed.
Surrender and let the universe work in your favor, just maintain focus on your positive expectation and radiate joy.
This is what personally happened to me when I can’t find a solution to my problem, I stay open to guidance, but I surrender the outcome to a greater power. When the time to act comes, circumstances will show you that it is time. Those words keeps me grounded: Who knows when to wait, has the ability to harvest more than what was expected to receive.
Falling in love with another lightworker is the most amazing thing that can happen to you. The love is genuine and expansive — meaning, it makes both of you grow and reach higher levels of consciousness. During the process, your goal is to become whole individually and be full of compassion for yourself and your partner.
Understanding boundaries that come between each other and your missions is key to maintaining the relationship healthy and useful for both as well.
As you know lightworkers have a Job to perform in regard to their spiritual teams, and that must be honored with complete willingness from your part.
If a partner, hinders the other one path, then it is not going to bring the fulfilling love that both are meant to have. Make sure you always keep it in mind. The mission first, the compassion second, and the love will unfold.
The best formula I could find is to be unapologetically truthful and authentic with each other, even if it leads to difficult conversations. Remember the more you practice, the better you become. Get on with those hard talks, and they will create a strong foundation for your relationship.
If separation is needed, then do it and trust that your counterpart will be healed and taking care of in their future relationship. What is important is to not create more pain between each other because it will defeat the purpose of the union which is to heal.
As a healer you have all the inner wisdom to know what to do— if you don’t know how to do it, a simple prayer and surrendering to the outcome will do the work for you. Your spiritual team is always on the lookout and awaits your command. They love to help and see all parties happy.
That is the sum of what I have learned from my experiences, but I am curious about yours? what can you add to this list? I will love to learn from you as well.
I leave you in peace and love, let your light shine and connect with other lightworkers. We need each other.
Bonaventure Barry
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