QUICK RELATIONSHIP FIXES: Pause And Take Stock Of The Good Things About Your Relationship
You’ll always find what you’re looking for
When the “honeymoon phase” inevitably ends and the sparks no longer fly, or for some other reason you’re rethinking your choices or entertaining doubts about your future as a couple then it’s time to pause and take stock.
No relationship or partner is flawless. However there are some essential qualities that if still present in the relationship/partner then there is a good chance any relationship struggles you are experiencing can be overcome. One thing you need to do is focus on the good things to enable you forge ahead.
“Researchers have found that we tend to see what we are looking for. If you are looking for reasons to be mad or upset with your partner you’ll probably find them. But this works in reverse, too. Keep your eyes peeled for the good.” [Source]
Some of the good to consider are:
- Even though you have your ups and downs do you still have a foundation of being truthful to each other?
- Are acceptance, understanding, and mutual respect still present?
- Do you still feel secure with each other?
- Do you still care about the feelings of each other? If yes, then there is still empathy in your relationship, and empathy is said to be at the heart of enduring relationships.
- Do you still share a sense of humor? Humor is a reassuring sign as years of research show, couples sharing a sense of humor signals they can go the distance.
“Empathy is at the heart of enduring relationships.”
There is always something reassuring about partners that can still focus on the good in their relationship even in difficult times, especially when you can still bring to mind all the good things that attracted you to each other in the first place.
