Practice Before You Preach - And It Will Be Easy to Change Your Child’s Behavior

Easy trick to make children do what you want

Many a times, we hear a common phrase “My kids don’t listen to us” or “my son/daughter doesn’t listen to me”. I am going to tell you that these phrases can change easily with a simple technique. Here is one advice I would to share to all the parents and “would-be” parents to make their kids do whatever they want to.

It is not easy to break a long-lasting habit of ourselves. You need a sense of motivation and introspection. At the same time, it takes lot of effort to build a habit in child’s life. Habit comes from repetition and a child likes to do different things in their daily activities. With this challenge in mind, how to instill a good habit in a child’s behavior?

There is an easy way. IF YOU WANT TO INSTILL A HABIT IN YOUR CHILD’S MIND, FIRST YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOURSELF .

As per Dr. Bruce Lipton, a distinguished scientist, parents have a golden period of 0–7 yrs. to teach any good habits for the rest of their life. The teaching in this period goes into their subconscious mind which they will not forget in their life. Process of eating, walking, running, jumping, reflect actions etc. fall in this category. Once the child grows, it needs more repetition to make it a habit. Repetition of a new habit needs lot of motivation.

So, it’s wise to plan before they complete 7 yrs. However, even if you find your kids already crossed 7 yrs mark, with the help of repetition, any habit can be developed into their mind.

Here are few real life situations I am citing with which we can relate what I am trying to say.

Situation 1:

Imagine, you are frustrated with your kid that he (let it be boy for an example) does not read books at all. You are asking your colleagues what to do to make book reading, a habit. Your friend suggests to buy good comics, fun books of his interest from the store. You buy and give it to him and constantly asking him to read and read. But you failed miserably. He is not in the mood to read a book. One day, you visit another friend’s house. there you see their kid is reading book so religiously. You ask them what they have done. Your friend’s wife replies, “Oh, that comes completely from his father. His father reads lot of books. We are guessing our kid developed the habit from there.”

So, now you got the point. If it is early, you can still try change your habit and indulge yourself in reading more books. Kids will observe and eventually develop the habit. One thing to remember, whatever habit you want to see in your kid, first you do it yourselves and let them observe. The process is very simple.

I can tell you, BOOK READING is a great habit for child. Expose them as much as possible by visiting library with them and letting them to choose their favorite books, buying them books from store. The more books they see in the house, the more they are inclined to read. Book reading develops child’s thinking ability, builds creative thinking and a lot of good traits.

Situation 2:

Imagine, you come from office and your office bags, jacket, shoes etc. are all over the living room but not in proper places. You have the habit of keeping your belongings in wrong places. Now, if you are expecting your kid to be organized in mind and become systematic, then it is a great mistake. You can try asking them to be organized, requesting them to keep their books, pencils etc. in proper places so that they don’t lose. I am sure, they would hardly listen to you until they see their parents do the same thing.

Particularly, in a situation like this, better to change and show them with examples instead of asking them to become on their own.

So, there could be more situations like above where kids prime learning source is their parents.

BEING ORGANIZED is an excellent habit to develop in child’s life. It helps them plan for important events in their life, take decision. As it says, “cleanliness is next to godliness”. Organized and clean habit develops a clean mind.

Situation 3:

Imagine, both of you as parents are on mobile or on any other screen all the time doing office work or communicating in social media. Your kid noticing you since its birth. The only signal going inside its brain is watching mobile and screen is normal. So, a visible sense is already developed in the brain of child. When he grows up, he will be inclined to see the amazing world of screen and becomes addicted. He needs screen while eating, while sleeping and most of the time. Now, you are so confused what happens with your kid and discussing the same problem with other parents how to get rid of the habit. You are basically ignoring the root source of the problem.

Now. you got the right reason to change your kid’s habit. You reduce, they will reduce. In real world, it is not possible to completely stop our online activities but at least we have to make sure that we don’t do much in front of kids until it is too much necessary.

STAYING AWAY FROM GADGETS is one of the best thing you can do with your children. Instead, introduce kids to the real world, outside nature rather than getting them glues to the virtual world. More screen time damages the neuron activities of a child. There are multiple scientific evidences on this.

From the above common 3 situations, we all understood how much important for us to change our own lifestyle in order to inject good habits in the minds of children. Overall, if we make a healthy and positive environment at home, kids will grow with utmost positivity and good traits.

Let’s make it happen. Let’s make a better world because future of society depends on the development of child’s mind and health.

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