Piercing My Nipples to Please My Partner
I love indulging his body modification fetish
I’ve been getting piercings for my partner.
He has a fetish for it — both tattoos and piercings. He’s also my Dominant, and in our D/s dynamic, he sometimes orders me to modify my body.
Don’t worry, as the sub, I’ve given him consent to do so. He orders it only after we’ve discussed a specific modification that I want.
I’ve always wanted more than the earlobe piercing I got at Claire’s as a kid, but working a corporate gig where Gen X managers pressured me to look a certain way didn’t help. (They reprimanded me for wearing Converse to the office — imagine how piercings would go over.)
But I’ve since left my job — and in the past ten months I’ve gotten the following:
- nose piercing
- helix (ear cartilage)
- rook (ear)
- conch (ear)
- stacked earlobe (both sides)
Getting a sizable needle through cartilage with no local numbing agent isn’t pleasant. And for some of these, the full healing process takes up to a year.
The piercings get angry and ooze things for weeks to months on end. They get swollen and sore. At the moment, I’m unable to sleep on my pierced-ear side because of a flare-up.
It takes dedication and a certain level of pain tolerance. Even so, it’s become a bit of an addiction for me. I can understand why people catch the body modification bug. And now, I’ve caught it too.
At 37 years old, I never thought I’d suddenly desire a nipple piercing. But after learning it was a turn-on for my partner, and after discovering that I enjoy the piercing process with other body parts, I decided to go for it.
One boob at a time
First, I did tons of research.
My biggest concern (and his as well): nipple piercings can impact nerve endings if things go awry.
For me, nipple play is a major factor in getting me to orgasm. If piercings enhanced my sensitivity, great. But if they lessened it, we’d have a problem.
I thought: Why not try piercing one nipple at a time?
If it healed well and I loved it, I could go for the second. If not, I could remove it. Maybe I’d have a scar, maybe I’d lose some sensitivity. But that was a risk I was willing to accept if I had one nipple still intact.
Getting one done at a time would also allow for continuous nipple play during sex without waiting for the slow healing process. Win-win.
I shared the news with my partner that I wanted to do it, and he was over the moon. His job involves research, so he did some of his own and shared it with me. It was an awesome bonding experience.
Tricky nipple-to-boob ratio
Our next step was to set up a consult with my piercer.
I use the same guy for all my piercings, and he’s always done an amazing job.
It’s vital to consult with a professional before you pierce anything. Not all anatomy is suitable for piercings due to length/size/shape, etc., which is why an anatomy check is important.
I went in recently to get two new ear piercings, and that’s when I had my nipple consult. My partner came with.
When I jumped up on the table and my piercer asked, “Want to go ahead and invite your friend out?” I thought he meant that I might be more comfortable having my partner leave the room before he checked my nipples out.
“No, he’s fine to see my boobs!” I replied.
Both my piercer and my partner clarified that he meant for me to take a boob out. We all laughed at my misinterpretation for about a full minute. Then I kindly invited my “friend” out for observation.
He touched my breast and nipple for a second or two with a gloved hand, looking closely at what I had to work with. My pink nipple hardened and rose from my skin, just a little bit, as it tends to do.
“I’m sorry to disappoint, but I wouldn’t recommend it,” he said.
Apparently, my nipple is a bit flat and my boob a bit large. That combo, according to my piercer, makes me a prime candidate for my body rejecting the piercing, which means a higher possibility for re-piercing, scarring, and nerve damage.
He explained everything kindly, and told me that if I really wanted to press the issue, he would give it a shot to the best of his ability. “But, if it were my girlfriend or myself, I definitely wouldn’t go through with it.”
I was fortunate I had a piercer who was honest with me. He could have agreed to give it a go in order to get the job and collect the cash. But he’s an ethical piercer who holds safety above profit.
My partner smiled at me and told me and my piercer, in no uncertain terms, that he didn’t want me to mess with the risk.
Outside of the room, my partner hugged me. “I just love that you even looked into it and were going to give it a try. That means more to me than a piece of metal in your body.”
Body modification is sexy
If you have stigmatophilia, you’re highly attracted to piercings and tattoos. There’s no question my partner has it — he loves to look at, touch, play with, and even lick and suck some of my piercings.
Some experts think people with stigmatophilia empathize with the pain behind the piercings and can even be sexually aroused by it. My partner has a bit of a sadist in him, and I have a hint of masochism. We don’t love a lot of pain, but we do like a little, so our kink levels mesh well.
It’s a turn-on for him not only to look at my piercings, but to see me have them done. He squeezes my hand and looks into my eyes when the needle goes through.
“The way you gasp and your eyes go wide — it’s a similar look to when we’re having rough sex or when you’re in mid-orgasm,” he told me.
Other experts believe that stigmatophilia is similar to the arousal that some people get from things like high heels, lingerie, stockings, etc. In this sense, it’s a straight-up fetish.
My partner happens to love when I wear those things, so it’s undeniable that the aesthetic of piercings — especially when I’m decked out in lingerie — really revs his engine.
It goes both ways
My partner’s body mod fetish is contagious, I think.
I’ve always liked men with pierced ears and tattoos, though it’s never been a requirement for attraction.
So, after getting my nose and helix pierced, I asked him what he thought about getting his earlobe done.
“It’s never something I would want to push on you, but I would find it insanely sexy,” I told him. “What do you think?”
Well, he didn’t need to think much about it. He already has two tattoos, and he knows how much he loves piercings on me, so this wasn’t a huge leap.
He proceeded to get not one, but two earlobe piercings in one ear. Now he has some incredibly sexy gray metal hoops, and with his tattoos and blue hair, it’s a winning look.
Especially when he’s naked. Especially when he’s naked on top of me…
Visual appeal aside, there’s something beyond sexy about indulging your partner’s kink. As long as you think it through and it’s not a hard limit, it can bring an extremely sexual and emotional charge to your connection as a couple.
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