Part 2: A tragic saga continued..

Welcome back to the second part of the “A Tragic saga that turned my friend into A man of Suspicious Character”.

As I mentioned in the last part, I’m going to write it in three parts, but I received many suggestions to finish it in one article and not in continuation posts. So I’m taking that advice and this will be the complete story after Part 1.

If you haven’t read the Part 1 yet, you can read it here:

Now let’s continue the story:

Part 2:

My friend was kind of relaxed as a forced relationship had just ended. But like I said, everyone in his family was very upset. My friend invited his parents to visit him abroad. A little change in the environment would improve the situation, he thought.

It was November 2019 when his parents finally came to visit him. Their stay was one month long. He welcomed them wholeheartedly and did everything he could do to make them happy and forget the grief they went through because of his broken engagement. Everything went well in this one month of their stay.

The main problem started when they went back to their home country. They were even more insecure after experiencing the western culture. They wanted their son to marry a traditional girl from their country who can maintain their culture and customs.

A month after they went back, in January 2020 the same process of finding a suitable girl for him started. Finally in March 2020, they found a girl through a family friend and everyone in his family liked her. My friend also found that girl to be reasonable and agreed to the proposal. Since Corona was hitting its first high at that time, he couldn’t go to his home country and they got him engaged again without his presence. This was in April 2020.

In his last experience, he had heard of his ex-fiancee from before and even saw her a few times at some family functions.

But this time it was not the case. He did not know anything about this girl who was now engaged to him. Anyhow, they both didn’t even talk over call after the engagement as my friend’s parents were skeptical about it due to past experience.

It was decided to get them married in June-July when he would be visiting home country.

But Corona took its toll and everything was shut by April, borders were closed, and it was locked-down everywhere. This was also affecting all official processes like visa, passport etc.

My friend couldn’t go to his home country because of Corona and he was not even sure when he would be able to. That’s why the girl’s father proposed to his family that let’s get them married online and in court to initiate the paperwork. After the marriage gets registered they could start the visa process for their daughter because if it’s too late to start the paperwork then it also will take too long to get it done because of delayed processes due to COVID-19.

This led my friend to get married to her fiancee in June 2020 and this was also done online. But it was online only for my friend. On the other side it was again a grand function that hosted all the family and friends from both sides.

Strange right?

Yes, but that happened for real.

Now that the couple was legally bound in a relationship, they started talking over call. It was all going nice and smooth. But the girl’s family was too focused on all the paperwork and every time my friend spoke to his in-laws, they were only concerned about the supporting documents for the visa process. This irritated my friend a lot and forced him to think that they just got their daughter married to him because they wanted to send her abroad. Nevertheless, he kept cooperating with them as he also wanted his wife to be with him as soon as possible.

As we know these kinds of official tasks are a bit hectic and time consuming. This resulted in an increased strain between the two parties, i.e. my friend and the girl’s family. Meanwhile my friend’s family was getting fed up in the whole process too.

One day my friend and his wife argued over the same documents topic and it increased so much that both families stopped talking including the couple.

Two weeks passed and both the families didn’t talk to each other. Finally in the third week, the girl’s father called and said,

“We thought a lot about it and we think this marriage was not the right decision and we want to call it off”.

The boy’s side shared the same opinion and eventually they got divorced. He did not meet this girl anytime, forget meeting he didn’t even see this girl face to face and yet married her and got divorced too. This was in October 2020.

So this relationship lasted for around 7 months.

Yes, you read that right!! For the second time..

Conclusion:

My friend was blamed again that he might have not cooperated well with the girl’s family etc. That’s the reason they got doubtful and that became the reason for this divorce.

Although he had no intentions of ruining anything, it all happened. And as a result, there was a big storm hitting his life as his parents were devastated by this time thinking of the family’s reputation and everything else.

He was stamped as the most disobedient son in the world which was disturbing him a lot.

With this part 2 comes to an end.

The biggest problem of his life was yet to come.

Part 3:

You could imagine what must be the situation in his family by this time with two broken relationships.

Let me surprise you saying that his parents were not worried at all this time.

Not because they trust their son or that they are convinced, it was not his mistake in all that happened to him, but..

Because they already had another girl in their mind for him and they were confident that there won’t be any problems this time.

You must be curious to know who that girl was. That girl was the younger sister of his eldest sister-in-law.

It’s time for a little bit of background information:

His elder brother was married to the sister of his elder sister’s husband. Confused?

Let me simplify it for you.

The partners of my friend’s eldest sister and eldest brother were brother and sister too, which means his sister was married to the eldest son of their family and their daughter was married to the eldest son of his family.

This was already very complicated but my friend’s parents wanted to complicate it more by marrying him (their youngest son) to the youngest daughter of the same family.

This was not it. This girl was 5 years older than my friend and had a poor and problematic family background. On top of it the girl’s family was aware of everything that has happened to my friend including his disliking for their daughter. But, they were also facing troubles in finding a groom for their daughter so they didn’t bother about it too much.

So it was a win-win for both the families.

The main problem in this whole situation was that my friend was not at all convinced about this proposal. In fact, he disliked the girl as well as her family. But, as always his parents started forcing him and giving him all arguments they had to convince him. He still did not agree.

Then they started blackmailing him emotionally from all sides. It all went on such an extreme level that he said YES to it.

It was November 2020 and he was again set to get married early next year. Everything was happening so fast that he was not even able to process it.

But this time it was not the same. Half of his siblings were happy about this news but the other half were not as they shared the same opinion as my friend that this was not a right match and that she is too old for him and not his type, etc.

The girl he was getting married to knew everything that he was not happy about this proposal and that he liked someone else. She was still ready to be married to him.

None of these red flags could stop this from happening and he got married to that girl in February 2021.

This time it was the real wedding with all the rituals and everything else. It was a 3 day long celebration. He comes from an influential family so there were many VIP guests invited to the wedding. This wedding became the talk of the town but at the same time everyone including guests could clearly figure out that the groom was not happy and he was forced for this marriage.

Anyway, as expected he was upset with his wife and didn’t behave like a loving husband should. But, he was fulfilling all his responsibilities as a married man. He thought, maybe with time he would start loving her too.

He came back to resume his work 10 days after his wedding.

He was now married to a girl of his parents’ choice but nothing changed for him. His parents were still not happy, not talking to him properly because they wanted him to love his wife without realizing “that you can force someone to get married but you can’t force someone to love a person”.

Most problematic thing was his parent’s approach. Instead of asking that girl to try to impress their son who was also her husband, they were forcing their son to behave lovingly to his wife.

Since his wife was coming from a poor background, she was enjoying all the luxuries that she was receiving there. In addition, the extraordinary love from parents-in-law to compensate for their son’s behavior made her arrogant and disrespectful to my friend.

It also gave her an edge and she started acting victim every time and ruining his relationship with his parents as a revenge of not being loved by him.

She would pretend to be a very nice, loving and caring wife in front of his parents but would act disrespectfully in an arrogant manner in front of him.

This whole thing created an image that he was at fault for not being nice to his wife and his wife is tolerating all his rude behavior and still loving and respecting him and all his family members.

While this was not TRUE.

The whole family was divided into two teams, one team in favor of his wife and another against. And she was the one spreading hatred everywhere. There were many fights and a lot of family drama going on every time.

My friend was frustrated. But he still waited for one year hoping that things would get better with time. During this one year, he tried to explain to his wife to stay away from all the mischief and bad things. But she wouldn’t listen to him, reply to him inconsiderately and continue to spread hatred in the family as a revenge from him.

Things started worsening and he finally decided to divorce her.

It was the first time he decided something for himself, all on his own.

He prepared all the documents, hired a lawyer and sent a divorce notice exactly one year after the marriage in February 2022.

This notice acted like a storm spreading destruction all over in both families. His parents were seething with rage over the situation. They rebuked him and also directed insults at the siblings who were against the marriage.

They tried all possible ways they knew to stop him or revoke this notice but he didn’t agree. He had three months time to reconsider his decision as a legal obligation.

These three months were the worst phase of his life because, one hand he was battling with extreme behavior coming from parents and on the other hand the girl he liked was going to get married to someone else too.

He was all alone in these three months handling all the trauma and stress alone. He would share his problems with me sometimes but none of my words were helping him.

I was upset too seeing all this happening to him.

Justifying the popular phrase, “ THIS TOO SHALL PASS” this time finally passed and by end of May 2022, the divorce was finalized.

It took time but everything has come to normal now.

This is February 2023, one year after that decision of divorce has passed. His parents are hurt, sad but now they are tired. They finally said to him that he could marry the girl he liked.

But he was not destined to be married to that girl as she is now already married.

He is all alone. His parents are worried and nobody has any idea what to do.

He has taken his time to come out of all this what’s happening to him one after the other since 2019.

Now, he is prepared to get married again but this time to the girl he would select himself. The problem now is nobody is ready to give their daughter to him because of his past record.

This series of incidents has brought him an impression that he is at fault, there is something wrong with him that all his marriages and relationships didn’t last.

While this is not true. He never had intentions of breaking any of his relationships. He tried his best to compromise with his parent’s decision and still became the one with suspicious character.

Conclusion:

This brings me to my initial questions.

• Who was at fault? Him, his family or the whole situation?
• Is it okay to not trust someone with this kind of track record?
• What should be the right thing for him to do now?

I can vouch for him that he is a kind man with a very pure soul and any girl would be lucky to find a partner like him.

He is still struggling with a doubtful character that never chose for himself.

What do you think about his current situation? How would you answer the above questions after knowing the whole story?

Do let me know.

That’s a wrap!

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