On Thinking Alone

How to Deal With Your Thoughts When You’re Alone With Them.

We tend to lose ourselves in thoughts in uncountable measures throughout our day yet when it comes to sitting alone with our thoughts, we are scared to look down on that rabbit hole because it is an abyss and we know there are some ugly things down there that we rather avoid.

What life has taught me is that if I avoid anything, whether it is a feeling or emotions that I try to avoid “having”, one way or another it comes back to me stronger and makes more mess up there in my head, wastes my time of healing process that I should've achieved earlier if only I sat through my emotions, took time to observe where it came from and found a way to get a common ground where we both can exist peacefully.

I have got two things to tell first,

• If you do not like your own company, then you’ve got some self-work to do!
• If you can’t sit alone with your thoughts and are running away from them then, you’ve got some self-work to do!

Call it self-healing, self-love, self-care whatever pleases you, just pick your poison and start giving yourself some time you beautiful breathing machine!

I mean you get to live with yourself 24*7 for the rest of your finite life, why not be at peace within?

Your body is your first home, so let's make sure you can keep it clean, peaceful, lovely and a joyous place to be!

I know life is not sunshine and rainbows, I mean imagine loving someone so much that you lose yourself over them and then they dump your ass. That’s gonna hurt more than getting hit by a car and somehow the body doesn’t feel like a home, it feels like an unworthy piece of meat that got dumped! Totally feel ya, I would too rather eat my feelings than spend time sitting with my thoughts.

We are emotional beings yet we are also beings who avoid some emotions until it hits you hard and then your heart falls down into your gut, creating chaos.

Somehow we like to wait until the last minute when it comes to self-healing or self-work.

Let's Start With Your Thoughts When You Are Alone

When I am alone, the voices in my head have all of my dear attention.

What I learned is that one of the voices is your comrade and other negative voices are there too i.e. Self-doubting thoughts.

You either lose yourself in past mistakes, past love, future possibilities, future goals, your neighbour's ugly car and their parking skills or whether or not your cat thinks you’re worthy of his or her love.

To keep it simple, you go swimming into a deep ocean of thoughts and the next thing you know is your overthinking ability heightens up and you get into an existential crisis.

Answer: Become The Observer.

When you observe your thoughts, you are not attached, you are just witnessing a thought.

let’s simplify, for instance; when it comes to anger you tell yourself, “ I am feeling anger” rather than saying “I’m angry”.

You are feeling pain, you are experiencing pain, frustration or whatever it is that you find when you go down into your rabbit hole but you’re not what you feel.

Separating your thoughts from yourself is key.

Self-Pitying Thoughts

When you’re alone and if you go into the well of self-pettiness then remind yourself about the power you have over your attention, over your actions and over your life.

You get to choose how you think. You get to choose the thoughts that please you.

If you ever lose yourself in pitying thoughts, simply choose thoughts that please you.

Rabbit Hole of Trauma

• If you’re thinking about that friend who hurt you five years ago, then you’re choosing to give your attention to the past.
• If you’re getting anxious thoughts about how bad the next day is going to be, again you’re choosing to look into an uncertain future wearing your negative glasses.
• If you’re having thoughts that make you worry, then you're choosing to focus on diminishing thoughts.

You have power over your Perception, only if you’re aware of your own way of perceiving.

“Where attention goes, energy flows. Where intention goes, energy flows” ~James Redfield

You have power over where your attention goes.

You do not have to distract yourself in order to take control over your attention, the key is separation if you remember.

You just have to become the observer of your thoughts in order to have mastery over them.

What Comes After Observation

Acceptance!

Life is simple. Let’s not complicate it up there in our lovely brains.

Once you observe your pattern, your addiction towards certain thoughts, people, pain, anxiousness; then Accept that you have this pattern.

Once you accept your worry, accept that you go down into your rabbit hole and end up losing into negative, self-diminishing thoughts or that you find out that the cat was never in love with you then just accept that.

What Comes Next

Awareness brings Change!

Once you’re aware of your pattern and you understand your vulnerability over your thoughts especially when you’re alone, then you’ve already won half the race!

Now time to use your new awareness about your thoughts and yourself and put that into action.

Once you’re aware, you will know what to do next to make a positive change that will make thinking alone, blissful. (p.s. choose thoughts that pleases you!)

“Thinking is hard work. that may be the reason so few engage in it.” ~ Henry Ford

It is not an easy job, but if you want to feel like sunshine and rainbows and all the lovely feeling that you’re capable of embodying then do the self-work.

Do yourself a favour and make your only finite abode peaceful.

Until then,

Namasté Lots of Love!