Love | Dating | Twin Flames
On Dating Someone Who Isn’t Your Twin Flame
They are significant, too.
One of the top concerns of a person who has met their twin flame is: what happens if I try to date someone else?
Pursuing a twin flame relationship is a rough ride. It’s a wild experience. I doubt any of us can even say we “dated” our twin flames. It’s in a whole different category of its own. But we must also turn our focus to non-twin-flame relationships as part of life.
Ever since my twin flame died, I’ve been talking to countless “twin flamers” as I call them. I’ve been coaching people on their twin flame journeys and grieving experiences. Inevitably, the story isn’t always just about the twin flame. It’s about all the other people surrounding the relationship, too.
You need other relationships in order to realize the nature of that twin flame relationship. In addition, other relationships can offer legitimate experiences of love. The twin flame connection is undeniable, however. You may not be destined to live in harmony and union with this person in your current lifetime, but you know that your souls are deeply connected. Even with someone else, you feel this overwhelming and unbreakable bond with this twin flame who totally mirrors and understands you on a deep level.
Sadly, twin flames often don’t totally get along on the Earth plane. So, we date others.
And so, what do we do with these “others”?
It Feels Rude
The other day I was reading a suggested article from Quora about twin flames. The author was referring to the non-twin-flame as a “third party” and I just thought that felt so rude. It felt uncomfortable. It sounds like the new person is a third wheel! These third parties are people, too. They deserve focus and respect. They’ve done nothing wrong.
Often, they have no understanding of the twin flame journey. They may not even have the consciousness level to possibly understand it.
Dating someone else can be a wonderful thing, especially after your twin flame has taught you what true love really is. You can give someone else ultimate love because you’ve graduated from love university! But there’s probably always going to be this nagging feeling like you have a dirty little secret. You have a twin flame somewhere in the world — even if they’re in the spirit realm.
It seems like someone you’re with deserves your full heart, and it feels like you couldn’t give it even if you really tried.
They’re an Important Part of Your Journey
You will have many loves in your life. All people do. It is natural. Your twin flame isn’t the only person in the world, although sometimes it feels like you’re the only two that exist.
All people are here to mirror you and help you achieve higher levels of consciousness through human relationships. All people are here to help you understand love.
You can’t only love your twin flame. I maintain that twin flames aren’t even primarily here for the romantic aspect of the relationship. The point isn’t romance. They are here to alchemize your life. They wake you up. Love can still be had in heightened forms with others.
To be able to explore love is a gift. To have the opportunity to love again and again is a blessing. Your heart is open, so loving people is your duty and you should delight in it.
What I am getting at is that the non-twin-flames that you love are significant and not to be brushed aside. They help you understand yourself, your capability to love, and give you opportunities to keep loving. The twin flame is here to help you wake up to a higher level of reality and understand the self; the other loves are here to give you the opening to exercise this new level of understanding.
And likely, they have big lessons to teach you as well.
Ultimately, It’s About Self-Love
Your journey is to find the love located within yourself, unlock it, unleash it, and let it spread in the world around you. Anything that comes along in your life is part of this path.
Realize you always had love within you. The people around you either help you realize this or they are on the receiving end of it. Or both.
Dating someone after you’ve met your twin flame is frankly weird. Maybe sometimes it’s weirder than pursuing your twin flame. The weirdness won’t end. Get used to it.
The love you find in yourself isn’t weird, though. It’s expansive. And it was always there.
Hi, I’m Emily. I write about consciousness, metaphysics, and deep considerations of existence. I’m also the author of the book Twin Flames and the Love Story Within.
I have a master’s degree in philosophy, I am a certified meditation teacher, I read tarot, I create podcasts, and I coach others on the twin flame journey. For more about me, have a look at my website and my services. If my writing helps you and you’re looking for a way to support me, you’re always welcome to buy me a coffee.
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