Needing to be Right is a Survival Mechanism

There is only honoring and honing in on the vivid spectrum of truth now

Needing to be right is a survival mechanism.

As we gain a clearer, more grounded sense of self, feeling threatened by others’ differing views will naturally begin to dissolve.

This is because safety will no longer be something that is primarily sought and extracted from our environment.

Regulating our nervous systems means we learn to give ourselves the feeling of safety first and foremost through validating ourselves, holding ourselves, being there for ourselves.

It also means knowing and discerning what it is we’re actually fighting for when fighting to be right.

All we are seeking for underneath is the validation of our reality, which a sense of safety (and sanity) is.

But when we go to lengths to obtain feeling ‘safe’ without actually healing our nervous systems firstly, this can look like needing black and white systems to pacify us. This is what happens when we need to make someone else or something else wrong in order to be right (feel safe).

What is actually in alignment to fight for is the reclamation of our Selves from the parts of ourselves that aims to diminish our embodied liberation.

Embodied liberation is unshackling ourselves from the idea or inclination that our beliefs or feelings must be in agreement with others to remain regulated.

Knowing we can rely on and care for ourselves without making it a defensive strategy is a step in embodying safety.

Knowing there are limitless valid realities is holding space for how ours is one and part of the same stream.

Instead of rightness or wrongness and the reactive emotions that come with that, there is only honoring and honing in on the vivid spectrum of truth now.

Ginger Tran is a writer and poet focusing on emotional healing and spiritual growth. She is the author of a poetry book called Tourmaline. You can read more of her work over on Instagram.