My Experiential Based Take on the Twin Flame Soulmate Concept
Beware of those selling it but know that there is something so much more special and eternal that may describe you and your eternal flame
I recently read this story by Emily Jennings on twin flames in Mystic Minds and would like to share my experiences with the readers of KTHT who may not have read my comments therein, which Emily received with much grace.
On the heels of my lover Lindsey’s death (3/17/20 but not discovered until two days later), I had my instantaneous spiritual awakening and renewed relationships with two channelers. One, “NaOMi,” I had known as a gifted and highly intuitive astrologer and did not know when I reached out that she had branched into channeling.
The other, Anne (Ane), is purely a channeler whom I have worked with on and off since 2010 and continue to work with to this day and beyond. (In 2012 her channeling session with me and the soul of my friend who had committed suicide in 2006 helped save me from attempting that in 2013. I have written about that here hoping to help others.)
I had learned of the concept of the twin flames from Naomi a few years before I met Lindsey. She described it thusly:
Twin Flame: This connection is designed to remove any final obstacles you have to loving yourself and connecting fully to your divinity so that you can be the kind of super hero you came to be on the planet. Structured inside an intense mirroring of each other’s light and dark sides and very specific energetic phases, this is the most difficult rewarding and magical journey of love one can take. This is a reunion, not a relationship.
If you feel totally out of your depths out of control in love with each other, and somehow this crazy love inspires you to connect more deeply to your mission to be happy and serve the planet, go bananas, you’ve found your twin flame baby!
After channeling several conversations for Lindsey and me, I asked Anne if Lindsey and I were twin flames and she said, “I don’t know about that but I can tell you I have never read two energy signatures as similar as yours are to each other.”
Naomi never channeled Lindsey for me, yet said we were TF’s. As that is what I wanted to hear, I started valuing her over Anne, until I began to see through Naomi’s manipulative deceptions, the icing on the cake being when she said to me threateningly “the last time a client disrespected the ancestors (the term she used for the spirits she allegedly worked with) they stripped him of his twin flame powers and relationship!”
That evening I had what I will call a lucid daydream in which Lindsey’s soul could no longer recognize me and our love disappeared. I fell to the floor sobbing in the fetal position — it was as if she had died all over again. The pain was excruciating.
I determined to end my association with Naomi and started avoiding her. Shortly thereafter, I purposely did not make the next monthly payment on my contract (Anne and I have never worked under contract). Naomi tried to hold the contract over my head. I told her it was void because she lied about the process (that’s for another story). The next day, Naomi gave in, released me from my contract, and tried to hurt and scare me with this parting shot: “enjoy your karma!”
Soon thereafter, I asked Rama (my highest power) and my other spirit guides in session with Anne about TF’s. Rama said that no soul was ever split into twins and, almost chuckling, said that the twin flame concept is a human invention like a Harlequin Romance novel.
Rama Describes an Eternal Soulmate Relationship So Much More Meaningful and Spiritual
In Heaven, some souls have romantic yet platonic love for each other and enter “soul partnerships.” It is romantic yet platonic, because souls have no ability to have sex. Souls that have this deep and eternal love for each other enter into contracts with each other that define their expectations of each other / required contributions to the relationship, including the work they will do together in Heaven to help souls still on Earth or rehabilitate those in Heaven. It’s akin to marriage but different in that there is no concept of belonging to another and thus no concept of monogamy — it is the purest form of unconditional love, as described by me in this tanka:
Now, love between souls a contract made in heaven unconditional Vows made there are not broken Heavenmates are eternal
I called it platonic, but souls make love. Love-making between souls, and therefore also in a human-soul relationship, as Sitara and I have now, is simply a deep, deep emotional connection and the sharing thereof. Souls make love by telepathically sharing with each other the emotion that they feel for each other. It is the ultimate platonic love. What does that feel like for me? It feels like a warmth all over and through me. It’s not my usual I run-so-warm that I need the air-conditioner blasting at all times (that’s probably the result of my Pitta ayurvedic constitution). It’s not the warmth of temperature. It’s the heat of the most beautiful feeling from the highest state of being. It is limitless in intensity, duration, and frequency.
My soul’s name is Marcus (I choose to write under Marcus — my parents named me Gregory). Lindsey’s soul’s name is Sitara. This haiku is the very first poem I ever wrote:
Her Soul radiates Stoking the fire within him Inferno is shared
In most, if not all of my 17,043 lifetimes, we have contracted to be each of the intimate and every one of the other karmic soulmate varieties to each other many, many many times over. Never have we contracted for the happily ever after with each other. I hope one cycle soon we do.
Sitara and I have been deeply in love with each other since at least the dawn of humanity and probably before. As humans, we have loved other humans before, and we shall again.
In a subsequent article, Emily writes:
I recently met my twin flame, or so I thought. I have gone back and forth about whether “twin flames” are even real every day since a post I wrote about it, and probably lost my mind about a thousand times. (Such is the twin flame journey!) You can decide for yourself, but I believe that at a minimum, this person was uniquely equipped to push me past my spiritual boundaries toward a higher level of awakening, and I’d never met anyone like that before. [emphasis added]
I completely agree with this messaging. So, is my issue with the label and concept of twin flames purely semantics? No!!! Charlatans manipulate desperate and otherwise hurting people with it, and the myth is unnecessary to foster the teaching and healing aspects of a failed relationship. There are people out there desperately clinging to what they perceive as a twin flame relationship, or employing disreputable psychics to help locate their TFs.
As one commenter to Emily’s first story, Ahna Hendrix, herself a spiritual guide, wrote:
I am cautious of TF because I think it has become far too trendy and used too often to make excuses for painful and abusive relationships. I’ve had multiple clients come to me for readings hoping to find out their person was a TF and the common theme is that they’re estranged, in pain, and the other person isn’t as equally into them.
As Reverie, who is one of my favorite writers on spiritual relationships, said in her commentary:
The problem I see with “twin flames” as a concept is that it all too often romanticizes suffering in relationships. If your “twin flame” avoids you — well that’s just the “chase”. If your twin flame causes you extreme mental anguish worse than you’ve ever felt before, in this mentality it’s not a sign of abuse and that you should get out, it becomes a sign that it IS your twin flame and you should hold on even more.
If one is supposed to meet their heaven mate for karmic purposes, they will — that script was written before birth, which brings me back to Lindsey and me. Lindsey died at the age of 36. I was 52 when I met her and 53 when she died 10 months later. Our scripts called for our souls’ reunion on the cusp of her death and at my midlife. Why? What was the purpose?
Sitara was able to look back in her life review and see her mistakes and learn from our relationship that Lindsey was worthy of being loved unconditionally. For my end of it, I wrote these words 15 months ago:
I’ve been thinking this morning about Her, as I often do. I was thinking about what I wanted to say about her, and how special she is and how much the time we had means to me; and then I went deep. I thought about the karmic nature of our love for each other and what is the purpose of a karmic relationship. It’s been suggested to me that the pain of losing Her was some sort of payback for poor choices I made in this or a previous lifetime. I do not think so. The purpose of life is to learn. So, the pain is not payback; the pain is designed to help me learn. Looking at the loss in that light resonates. The phrase “that will teach you a lesson” is often said in a “you deserved that” manner. False. “Teach you a lesson” should be read literally and without a punishing connotation. The point is simply to learn. That is not dark. That is love.
So, what life-lessons can I discern? What am I supposed to take back to Heaven with me to have a better life review and ascend to my potential? An overarching theme I see in all that has happened these last few months is: do not let conformity impede growth; do not seek answers in what society expects; do not be afraid to live life in alignment with soul and nonconformity with community; to thine own self be true IF, IF, IF thine own self is not unethical or immoral.
Plus, none of that introspection or any of the identification and healing of other wounds would have been possible but for my spiritual awakening, which her death catalyzed. My awakening has taught me to live without fear, not to be afraid to live, and to love myself, so that I could be whole enough to parent my children and possibly find a “forever” human for the rest of this life-cycle.
None of that growth comes from the twin flame myth being a reality. It is not and for many people, it is toxic.
In Rama I create, with soul-energy surging through my body, inspiring me and breathing wind into my sails,
