SEX MATTERS
Mmm… Making love in the morning
Straight from slumber to sex
My wife and I recently discovered something that makes us go mmm… morning sex!
We’re both middle-aged and are more tired in the evenings than we used to be, so when she suggested getting up a bit earlier on some weekdays, I was skeptical to say the least. It might actually be more accurate to say I howled my protest. But she asked that I hear her out, and boy, am I glad I did. The “Coffee before orgasms” people have it backwards!
Morning sex is amazing sex, and I really recommend it. Here is why:
Your hormones are at their peak
Research suggests both testosterone and estrogen are at their highest levels in the morning, so while there’s no guarantee that you’ll be raring to go, chances are good, with increased blood flow to the vulva for her and an urge to get physical for him. You can put your morning wood and increased vaginal lubrication to excellent use!
We have found this to be true for us, and our sex is more passionate and strenuous (in a good way!) in the morning. If we know we’ll be fucking the next morning, we wake up raring to go, and it’s like we’re on our honeymoon again. And if it’s spontaneous wake-up sex, it takes the awoken one of us no time at all to get hard or wet.
You’re already cozy and possibly naked
Even in the winter, my wife and I don’t bundle up. We let our comforter do the work of keeping us warm. So when we wake up, we have very few clothes to tear off. Neither of us are comfortable sleeping naked, but if you are, that’s one less step between slumber and sex. There’s something really cozy and sensual about cuddling up to your bedwarm lover, sharing your heat and basking in theirs, and then really stoking the furnace with kisses, caresses (or squeezes and slaps, if that’s your thing!).
We can be lazy and (if we woke up early enough) slow, taking our time, enjoying each other’s bodies under the covers. Sometimes, we kick the sheets and comforter off, we get so hot so fast, our hormones in high gear.
You carry your good vibes to work with you
Sex feels good, long after your orgasm(s), especially if it’s with someone you love.
Sex releases endorphins and oxytocin, so you’re already chemically prepared to take on the anxiety and bad vibes the day might bring. Me, I find I’m more relaxed, less anxious, and more able to enjoy the little joys in life if I’ve started the day off with sex. It makes a huge difference, like the sun coming out from behind storm clouds.
The day hasn’t drained all your energy and vacuumed up your libido
This is the big one. At the end of a typical weekday, we’re both more often than not exhausted. Nothing looks better to me than our bed, but not in that way. I just want to sleep. My wife feels the same. She works as a personal shopper, and is on her feet all day. She wants to come home, unwind with her iPad and a snack, maybe read a bit, and then go to sleep.
The days’ little trial and aggravations and tasks have all built up during the day, like the way clothes collect lint, and it’s such a relief to set that burden down. It’s tiring, and sometimes, as much as we love and desire each other, we’re just too tired to get frisky. And if we suck it up and have sex anyway, it’s not as good as it could be. We’re tired and cranky and not as into it as we could be. And that has led to hurt feelings and misunderstandings and feeling like one or both of us was just going through the motions. Yuck. No thanks. For us, it’s usually better to not, and pledge to fuck each other’s brains out with renewed vigor in the morning.
This is the beauty of morning sex: if you get busy at the very beginning of your day, you’re still fresh; you haven’t started to accumulate the little bits of crap from your boss, the traffic, and everything else that will build up over the day. At first, I was worried I’d be too tired, but that was completely unfounded. Waking up to your lover’s caress, or waking them up with caresses of your own will rouse you in a hurry. And I mean rouse.
Is there anything better than waking to your lover’s lips on yours, or on your genitals? Fuck Folger’s, that’s the best part of waking up.
Morning breath worries? Breath strips to the rescue
Sometimes one or both of us need to get up to use the bathroom before we can have sex, and if so, we brush our teeth while we’re at the sink. If not, though, if we’re in dreamland one second and wonderland the next, breath strips are a lifesaver. Pop one on your tongue, and give it a few moments, and voila! Morning breath worries are gone, and you can say good morning to your lover with a deep kiss!
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