Look at Him When He Speaks to You

# 14 In a perfect world — should I divorce? ♀

It is not easy to be a woman. Was never meant to be!

If you are a woman in a relationship,

if you want to have a smooth relationship with your man,

if you want things to go well in the daily life,

if you want things to go well when things happen,

then …

there are a few simple rules you should keep in mind:

Listen when he speaks to you.

Don’t always expect him to listen when you speak.

Listen very carefully when he says he’s got something to tell you.

When he looks very serious don’t always think it’s bad news for you.

Say Are you sure? when he says the house does not need cleaning.

Answer Yes, okay! when he says he will run the vacuum cleaner later.

Don’t say No, now, even if you disagree.

When he repeats the house does not need cleaning now don’t answer.

Don’t insist.

Eliminate the words You have to — now! from your vocabulary.

Answer Okay! when he says will paint the house later.

If you disagree when he says the house does not need to be painted, just look quickly at him. Don’t go into a discussion about it. Maybe he will interpret your non verbal reaction as a consent.

Stand together with him and consider the front of the house. Tell him that you can see that the house needs to be painted soon. Don’t insist on it, even if he looks like he did not hear you.

Smile and answer yes when he says that he will do the gardening next weekend.

Answer Okay! if he says he1s going to empty the dishwasher later.

Say yes when he says your name and you can hear a hidden frustration in his voice.

Say Yes, Darling? when he says your name and there is an ocean of irritation in his voice.

Understand your man.

Try to always understand your man.

Let your man sometimes feel you don’t see him.

Don’t raise your voice.

Don’t speak out loudly to him even if he does to you.

Try to listen to the hidden pain in his voice.

After a disagreement always start a new approach with something inoffensive or benign.

Never forget to give him hugs.

Remember to kiss his cheek when he goes out of the door.

Don’t feel offended if he rejects you tentative hugs.

Try to caress him at least on a weekly basis.

If he is positive, caress him every single day.

If he rejects you, don’t feel offended. It’s not personal

If he doesn’t seem to like being caressed any longer, don’t become desperate.

Smile to him. Say I love you when it’s appropriate.

Say you love him even if you don’t feel like it in that particular moment or situation.

When you after a conflict are feeling down, never think I hate him!

Say to yourself that it is allowed to be sad.

Say to yourself that it is permitted to feel hurt.

Say to yourself that if he says ugly things, it is because he doesn’t feel good. Understand that it’s because he’s sad or a little depressed.

Remember that it is human and completely normal to feel sad.

Remember that it is human and completely normal to have a disagreement.

Remember that it is human and even normal to have a conflict.

Think that it is normal to feel down.

Think positive thoughts when you look at him!

Remember that he loved you then, years ago.

Remember that you told him you loved him.

That’s why you are a couple now.

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