Level Up: Types of Affair Partner
Did you know there was more than one?
I had an AHA moment two days ago.
TallBoots and I started chatting over an adultery Reddit. Who knew that was a thing. He is pretty local to my area, so I figured, why not reach out.
He was super enthusiastic and sent me a whole body nude pic on the third message. I couldn’t help but laugh a little. Not at him because I think he is a go-getter. Definitely not the picture because that boy looks good.
I laughed because I thought that our sex or cheating would be basic or plain good ol’ fucking.
Then I started thinking further.
Are there different types of cheating relationships?
Oh boy. Yes. There are. Here’s my take on what I’ve experienced to date, what I’d accept, and what I’d love to find.
Basic
This is an essential partner that fills those physical needs. Someone you could fuck once or twenty times, and that’s all it is. It’s the vanilla of fucking. Nothing wrong with vanilla. It’s satisfying. The engaging conversation is just not there. You talk about positions, what you’d do to each other, when to meet, and that’s about it.
You don’t care that he got promoted, and he doesn’t ask how your day goes. You won’t get upset that he had to cancel because you might have another person ready to take his place. It’s disposable cheating.
Before someone blasts me, I’m not condoning disposable. I never want to treat anyone as disposable. We’re all precious, and our time is precious. I speak from experience as I was treated as a one-and-done. And yes, I’m thinking of doing the same with TallBoots. The difference being, I’ll tell him that for both of us, either can walk away, no harm no foul. I’m upfront about that at least.
Standard
Standard is, well, the standard! What most cheaters talk about when they start cheating. The expectations, making sure you like each other on some level, that you can talk about more than sex, and that you both intend to keep it going. Standards can lower, so when you find that person is not what you want, they can get bumped down to bare bones, or you can end it. They can finish it if they find that you are not what they are looking for. It’s a hard level to be in. No two standards are alike.
Standards can also raise. Remember that there is a human brain, heart and soul behind that cock and pussy. So what you thought was okay turns out to be an unexpected delight and something you didn’t see coming.
Advanced
What everyone wants, and few have. It has a higher cost than some would like. Time and effort are required to take it from standard to advanced. The reward is excellent. A dependable partner that can actually talk with you, meet with you, wants to share your life, joy, and pain in a way that helps you both.
This type of cheating doesn’t happen overnight. Some people want to be advanced but then realize that they don’t have the time to be with anyone. And you have to meet the right person that fits what you need. It’s not for everyone. Even though everyone wants it.
Level 3000
The ultimate of ultimate. This person has EVERYTHING YOU NEED AND WANT. Even the things that you didn’t know you wanted. The chats are intelligent, engaging, and make you smile. Time stops in a hotel room with them or anytime they are around. They want you to be delighted and be all that you can be. Someone you could fall in love with.
This level is hard to maintain. It has the highest risk and cost. You might want to leave your spouse for this person. You may leave your spouse for this person. Keep in mind that the affair partner is not your spouse and it may not be what you wanted once your dream becomes the reality. Hold on to those heartstrings tightly.
At the end
I was close. I had someone that I thought was Level 3000. But his life was crazy, and I had to let him go. We still talk because his good morning messages make me smile even now. And he’s special to me.
You can’t help but learn a few things when you change your life. You learn, grow, and discover about yourself, needs, and wants.
Think about what you want and need. Don’t discount that basic level lover because, with time, they may become your best lover yet.
At least, that is what I’m hoping for!
Here’s a reading order of my misdeeds and experiences to date!