Lady Gaga Spills Best Relationship Advice

Love yourself

I started writing again, as my way to express my feelings about this pandemic. Listening to this Lady Gaga interview, made me realize how the pandemic is a journey we all share.

Whoa, what a year is 2020. The highs and lows, a roller coaster ride, there are days when I feel great, that I am finding my inner peace. I’m excited about life and new possibilities. There would be days when I’m sad. It brings me back, to when the pandemic was starting, the uncertainty, and the fear of what the future holds. An endless loop, a cycle that gets me nowhere.

It is why, people who can write, should write. Those who can speak should speak. We learn from each other. It is a sign of strength rather than weakness when we open about our mental health. If it helps one person, then telling our story is worth it.

Lady Gaga: “I found a way to love myself again.”

Who doesn’t see the big difference in Lady Gaga this year? She has been very open about herself and her struggle as an artist, as a woman, and as a human being.

Like most of us, this year is not the year she expects it to be. She has a new studio album and was going to have her biggest tour yet, the Chromatica Ball.

The pandemic put a break on all that, she has to postpone the tour until next summer.

Her new album is her 6th consecutive no.1 album despite the pandemic. It is also her most personal music ever released yet. She shows her authenticity and vulnerability. She is opening up like never before, Chromatica is a glimpse to her heart and her mind.

I call the album, a journal with a beat. In Chromatica, nobody does electro-pop better than Lady Gaga.

Not one song in the album is not true — Lady Gaga

During the interview, CBS correspondent Lee Cowan asks, “What was the darkness?”

I totally gave up on myself.

I hated being famous.

I hated being a star.

I felt exhausted and used up.

Not by the industry, not by her fans but by the very entity she created, Lady Gaga had cast a long shadow to her real name, Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta.

How she hated everything about being famous, even hating herself as a person. She has become her biggest critic, even questioning the clothes she wears. Her contempt for the piano she uses to create her music. She blames the piano for creating a monster. How ironic that around the world, her fans call themselves little monsters.

The family trauma that surrounded the death of her father’s sister at the age of 19 became the inspiration for her 5th album, Joanne. She candidly opens up, how she thought she can fix her dad. We all know that doesn’t work and yet, like Lady Gaga, we always try fixing other people.

She further opens up, with her thoughts of suicide every day, self-harm, and how she suffers from PTSD, being someone who was sexually assaulted at 19. She shared more of her pain, in the Netflix 2017 documentary, Gaga: Five Foot Two.

I can’t understand, why I should live other than being with my family. — Lady Gaga

The lyrics from 1000 Doves is like a call for help.

I need you to listen to me, please believe me I’m completely lonely, please don’t judge me

Lee Cowan asks, “Why not stop being a pop star?” Lady Gaga quips, “I don’t know why, but I have to.”

My biggest enemy is me. — Lady Gaga

She says she is doing better. That she’s glad she went through as it made her stronger.

If you isolate yourself for too long, you’ll end up staring off in a space all by yourself.

Lee Cowan ends, Chromatica is a big therapy session, more of a relationship counseling with herself. It worked as Lady Gaga has never been busier despite the pandemic. She even has a new book, Channel Kindness — the power of kindness in the midst of adversity.

I don’t hate Lady Gaga anymore. I found a way to love myself again, as she ends the interview and reminds everyone to, “Wear a mask!” as it is a simple act of kindness.

Lady Gaga, like many of us, has to find her meaning and accept, what can and can’t be changed. She has tamed, the ‘monster’ within.

The best advice is, Love yourself. But most of the time, loving yourself takes time.