Narcissism
Johnny Depp Has Stood Up For All The Victims of Abuse
Yes, he deserves a medal!
Captain Jack Sparrow, Willy Wonka, Tom Hanson, Edward Scissorhands, and my favorite of all, Alex Blackman from “Arizona Dream”.
But foremost just “Johnny”…
Not many have seen this incredible surrealist indie comedy-drama from 1993.
Arizona Dream was shot by my Yugoslavian “friend” Emir Kusturica.
The plot revolves around a young aimless man Axel Blackmar (Johnny Depp), who works for New York’s Department of Fish and Game, and is summoned to Arizona by his childhood friend Paul to be the best man at the wedding of Axel’s uncle and childhood hero, a Cadillac salesman named Leo Sweetie to a woman 40 years his junior- Elaine.
While in Arizona, Axel meets Elaine Stalker, a charming woman obsessed with building her own flying machine! He also meets Elaine’s mournful stepdaughter Grace, who spends her time smoking cigarettes, being miserable, and threatening suicide.
Axel falls madly in love with Elaine, mirroring his uncle’s relationship, and devotes himself to building her a flying machine.
Kusturica comes from a surrealist perspective and “Jungian standpoint”. Here, the symbols fill our psyches and dream lives take human form.
- What happens when people’s dreams collide?
I won’t spoil the ending for those who haven’t watched it. But I will say this:
The American dream is fiction.
That dream’s failures are evident. Paul clothes his dreams in Broadway and Hollywood, doomed by his mediocrity. Elaine dreams of the skies, doomed to plummet from them. Axel dreams of fish.
Only Grace’s dreams of suicide are attainable. She has control over her life and death that the others don’t have over their own aspirations.
“Arizona Dream” characterizes America as a land of lofty ambitions all left to decay in its dry core. Here, dreams don’t usually come true, and when they do they either prove disastrous, unfulfilling, too damn odd for words, or tragic.
Just like Johnny Depp's case versus Amber Heard.
Kusturica in his movie forces these characters to wake up, and his audience with them, but much as we all dream, not all of us get to see our dreams come true, if only for a short while.
Axel (Depp) recalls from their movie:
“Whenever I try to remember my dreams, I always turn them into stories. Dreams are like light. You can’t catch them with your hands because you can’t catch something you don’t really see… Being caught in a dream of two women is the craziest storm you’ll ever find yourself in, and the battle is never a fight of good and evil, but between weaker and stronger, and the weaker is always desperate for air. At this moment my feet were planted in the ground like a tree. And if you move to one side, you become the storm.”
This movie symbolizes for me exactly what Johnny Depp is currently going through — a storm and madness. And as per his own quote: “Amber didn’t exist. She was made up in my head”…
Just recently Johnny Depp was decorated with a medal by Serbian President Aleksandar Vucic.
The president of Serbia presented the actor with a medal at a ceremony in Serbia for merits in public and cultural activities, especially in the field of film art and the promotion of Serbia in the world.
Johnny has been involved in several projects including filming scenes in Belgrade for the feature film “Minamata” and the Serbian-produced animated series “Puffins Unlimited”. And he has a good relationship with ex-Yugoslavians.
“I sincerely thank you, President Vucic. “Thank you for being so kind to give me this medal,” said Depp.
In recent years Johnny’s reputation has been significantly damaged in Hollywood. He has lost several important film roles after losing the lawsuit filed by his ex-wife, Amber Heard, who accused the actor of physical and emotional violence.
The Tide Is Turning
The whole world is watching Depp vs Heard' trial now.
Just lately Johnny testified in Virginia courtroom that his former wife Amber Heard was bringing ‘disturbing’ allegations against him.
Depp said he was “obsessed with the truth” as he took to the stand to give evidence in his US defamation trial against former wife Amber Heard.
The actor told that Ms. Heard was bringing “disturbing” allegations against him and it was “diabolical” that his children had been exposed to them at school.
“It’s been six years of trying, it’s very strange when one day you’re Cinderella, so to speak, and then in 0.6 seconds you’re Quasimodo,” he said.
Not in ex-Yugoslavian countries — he isn’t. He is a hero.
“I didn’t deserve that, nor did my children, nor did the people who have believed in me all these years.I pride myself on honesty… on truth. Truth is the only thing I’m interested in. Lies will get you nowhere, and lies build upon lies… I’m obsessed with the truth so today is the first opportunity that I’ve been able to speak about this case in full.”
But Can Society Handle the Truth?
Men are frequently invisible victims of relationship abuse. When we think of abusive relationships, we often default to the idea of a woman as the victim; rarely do we imagine men.
But male victims of domestic abuse and abusive relationships are more common than many people think. We all know that domestic violence is a big issue in our society. But how many of us know that this affects men too?
Hollywood, domestic violence advocates, and websites will lead you to believe that domestic abuse is something that men always do to women. But domestic violence, according to the leading Mayo Clinic, shows that domestic abuse is a male problem too.
Domestic violence and abuse in intimate romantic relationships can take many forms. The main are:
- Emotional abuse, also called psychological abuse
The use of coercion, threats, insults to control the other partner and results in loss of self-esteem and in the victim believing they deserve the abuse. It also includes bullying, belittling, withholding affection, control of finances, and alienation of children.
- Sexual abuse
Unwanted, coerced, or inappropriate sexual contact.
- Physical abuse
- Financial abuse
Control of money you have earned or saved, using your assets without asking permission, ruining your credit history, expecting you to pay for their obligations, or seizing your sources of income.
How To Identify Domestic Violence Against Men?
It is hard to identify domestic violence against men. Early in the relationship, your partner might seem attentive, generous, and protective and later turn out to be controlling and frightening.
Men, like any other victims of abuse, ignore these red flags. They don’t speak about it and stay in Toxic Abuse Relationships, feeling helpless. In time, they stop seeing friends and family, doing things they’ve once enjoyed, and they give in to the abuse to avoid further abuse. However, the abuse never stops.
You are experiencing domestic abuse if your partner:
- Mocks, insults, criticizes, and name-calls you
- Frequently checks up on you, demanding to know your whereabouts
- Makes “suicide threats” if you wish to end the relationship
- Makes threats of taking your children away from you
- Destroys your personal stuff
- Controls your finances
- Stops you from speaking to and seeing your family and friends
- Lies and blamed you for things that aren’t your fault
- Tries to control whether you can see a health care provider
- Threatens you with violence or a weapon
- Blames you for their violent behavior and tells you that you deserve it
- Threatens to tell friends, family, colleagues or community members your sexual orientation, gender identity, or private information
Or poops in your bed…
The Long-Lasting Effect of Male Domestic Abuse
Domestic violence can leave men depressed and anxious. Men are less likely to report domestic violence because of embarrassment.
You might also worry that people will minimize the importance of the abuse because you’re a man.
“Who will believe you, Johnny! Just go and tell the world, I Johnny Depp, am a victim of abuse, and let’s see how many people side with you…”
The body always keeps the score. Men who stay in Toxic Abusive Relationships are likely to develop:
- Anxiety
- Chronic pain
- Depression
- CPTSD
- Social withdrawal
- Suicidal Thoughts
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