I’ve Never Made a Bad Decision

No, I am not a narcissist.

This past week at work I attended the first training of a series of trainings for the next year. The company I work for hired this man to teach us how to improve our techniques in sales. He covered basics like the pendulum theory and how to identify a potential client’s buying style among other things.

He was thorough and seasoned, and the things he lectures about were definitely worth taking notes on. Though, there was one statement he emphasized in particular that stuck in my mind for the next few days.

“I have never made a bad decision,” he said.

Was he crazy or just a narcissistic monkey’s ass?

I unknowingly furrowed my brow at this statement, and he proceeded to explain the reasoning behind his mad statement as my colleagues and I spoke with our eyes. His message translated into trusting one’s intuition, even if in retrospect, our impulses were wrong.

Our life experiences will lead us to decisions that might result in mistakes that lead us to even better outcomes.

I have been pondering these words since the moment they left his lips. It has granted me a newfound feeling of freedom to trust my intuition in every moment.

It has lessened my anxiety and worries for the future. Its contemplation has transformed my mindset and lifestyle in a way to be aligned with the frequency of success and harmony.

Dramatic? Yes, but for good reason.

Where did he get it?

He supposedly adopted this mantra on his known, with no formal introduction to it. He was not raised reciting this phrase, and it wasn’t intended to inflate his ego.

He claimed this trait/belief was “in his genes.”

Through his life experiences, he realized that every decision led him to something else…which led to something else, and so on.

He told us he had been married as a young man in his twenties and was divorced soon after. He explained that he didn't regret the marriage because it was the best choice he could have made with the information he had at that time.

And when he received new information regarding his wife, he made another proper decision of divorce that was appropriate for what he had known at that time.

Though, I couldn’t wrap my head around the idea of never thinking I made a bad decision. After all, I was always pretty hard on myself. I am one of those people to put myself down in conversation so I can avoid others poking fun or degrading me.

In the types of environments I found myself in through the years, that seemed to be the only thing that really helped me.

“I have never made a bad decision,” he said.

After all, if I could laugh at and degrade myself, then others wouldn’t be able to use my faults, insecurities, and mistakes against me. They wouldn’t be able to use my shortcomings against me and make me feel bad because I had already done it for them.

In time, I am slowly unlearning this behavior. Despite my awareness, I still catch myself saying, “Sorry, that was stupid of me,” or “Okay, I’m dumb, thank you for clarifying.”

Although my colleagues know I’m intelligent and doing the best I can, I still feel the need to preface things with, “Not to be annoying but…” or something else of the nature indicative of my insecurities.

Regrets or Right Choices?

I sat on what he said for a few more days and realized I could use this mantra to my benefit or defeat. I considered some things in my current state of being that were bothering me. I pondered any regrets I had, whether massive or minuscule.

I decided the mantra, “I have never made a bad decision” would be used to my benefit and help me cease the negative self-talk. I considered other mild regrets I had, unimportant ones this time.

Some things I had often planned but didn’t follow through with were wanting to wake up earlier, planning my day more precisely, and making time to work out.

At this moment, I decided there were no bad decisions made. I would cut myself some slack moving forward. I would let myself sleep and refrain from setting alarms when I didn’t have to.

I would let myself live in peace, knowing that each decision I made would be the right one, based on the information I have at the time of the decision.

Moving Forward

On a daily basis, I try to improve myself. I rotate what types of self-improvement I work on each day. I spent time prioritizing mental health, physical health, nutrition, spirituality, skincare, career advancement, etc.

I continue to work my hardest at making money, being happy, attaining fulfillment, etc. I try to make the best choices in all areas of life. And I do. Every day. I make the best decisions I can with what I know and have experienced and learned to date.

I consider every choice I make mindfully. From what shampoo I should purchase to where I should get gas to who I should go on a date with. If I do my best to make the most appropriate decision at that time, then it is the right one.

We often try to take control of circumstances that are out of our control. Even when we prepare, things happen. This doesn’t always mean we poorly planned, we weren’t paying attention, or we were off of our game.

Life is a journey and we make every choice we do for a reason, even if this reason is unknown to our conscious mind.

It’s Not an Excuse

The thought, “I have never made a bad decision” should not be used as an excuse for being irresponsible, lazy, or playing the victim in life. If you choose to use it this way, you will quickly transform into an unfulfilled narcissist who hates the world and lacks friends and love in their life.

Contemplate the phrase and think about what it means to you. Learn to forgive yourself for the past, and know that everything that turned into a mistake or regret was out of your control. You did the best you could at that time. You will continue to do the best you can in all areas of life, indefinitely.

I have never made a bad decision.

And I will continue to make excellent judgment calls in my life now and always.

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