Our Fears Can Control Our Lives, Here’s How To Take It Back

“Don’t let us forget that the causes of human action are usually immeasurably more complex and varied than our subsequent explanations of them.” Fyodor Dostoevsky

I have had fears and insecurities my whole life. Ignoring and avoiding reality has left me with a small miserable life.

It’s time to stand up for myself and face my insecurities so I can begin to live my life.

The first thing I need to address is my lack of self-confidence.

I have written about this before because it’s a big issue for me and therefore the main thing holding me back.

I’ve tried to analyze when or where this came from and I have no clue.

I’ve tried different self-help books, and affirmations, and meditations, yet the feelings persist.

I have spent the last few weeks thinking about this and trying to remove this obstacle I created for myself.

I don’t have an answer so far, but one thing I am doing is forcing myself to do more.

The idea is the more I do, and create, the better I will become.

Since our confidence and self-worth are tied to competence, the ability to do something well builds our self-worth.

Another area that has always had a stranglehold on my life is my fear of being broke or not having any money.

Again I don’t know where this came from, my family was the typical middle-class family, no reason to worry about money.

To this day I am constantly worried about not having enough while being frugal with money so I don’t run out.

I have these fears every day, when they pop up I remind myself these fears aren’t real and focus on the positives in my life.

I’m still fighting against my fears, the years of acceptance have buried them deep.

I wish I had an answer or a tip to give you to be happy and successful in life. But I haven’t gotten there yet.

I pay attention to the thoughts that come into my mind, now that I know how important they are.

Our thoughts control our lives, but we control our thoughts.

I haven’t completely eradicated these fears from my life, maybe I never will.

That is why it’s even more important to be aware of these negative limiting thoughts.

The one piece of advice I can give is to question your assumptions.

We all have our view of the world and why things are the way they are.

If we stop and think about these things we may open a new world of opportunity and possibility.

Thanks for reading. Here are some other stories I wrote if you want to read more.