Summary

The author emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal desires and inner growth rather than external self-improvement methods to manifest one's dreams.

Abstract

The article discusses a shift in the author's approach to personal development, moving away from traditional self-help and goal-setting methods to a more introspective journey that involves nurturing the inner self. The author, who feels overwhelmed rather than lazy, acknowledges the need for inner work to align with personal dreams and goals. Drawing from a post by Carmellita, the article suggests that one doesn't need to be 'good enough' to manifest desires but rather focused enough on the right things. It introduces the concept of creative bandwidth, which is the mental space needed to experience the dreams one has already manifested. The author concludes by affirming that we are enough and that by tuning into the frequency of our true desires, we can nourish the seeds of our dreams to grow.

Opinions

The author expresses dissatisfaction with self-help literature and its impact on self-worth, suggesting it often leads to feeling inadequate.
There is a belief that personal growth comes from understanding and nurturing the inner world, not just from acquiring external knowledge.
The author agrees with the idea that focusing on one's true desires, rather than external validation or perfectionism, is key to manifesting dreams.
The article conveys the opinion that anxiety and overwhelm can be barriers to creativity and personal alignment with one's goals.
The author finds the concept of creative bandwidth, as presented by Carmellita, to be a resonant and helpful framework for understanding personal limitations in achieving dreams.
The author advocates for the importance of self-compassion and the belief that one is inherently 'enough' to pursue their aspirations.

If You Want To Change Your Life, Change The Station

Adjust the frequency, and channel your creative bandwidth

I used to read articles about self-improvement and goal setting. Now I’ve started reading personal essays, poems, and pieces that reflect on personal growth, cooking, parenting, mental health, and so much more.

I’m on a detox from how-to posts and listicles about personal improvement. They basically make me feel like crap. I know I’m not working toward my goals. I know I’m not goal-setting in the most efficient way. My goals can change daily.

My bookshelf is littered with business and self-help books. Ask me how many of those books I’ve implemented.

I’m not lazy — I’m overwhelmed. Like a lot of people.

Now I’m keen on learning from my inner world, not just my outer world. I have enough information to put my goals into action, but I have a lot of inner nurturing to do, in order to execute what I know.

I’m trying to figure out why I can’t manifest my dreams and make my goals happen. An ADHD coach will tell me I need more structure, and that I need to develop executive function. My doctor said I need anti-anxiety medication and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

There are unlimited recipes to help us get where we want to go.

When I find something that resonates with me, I know I need to dig into it.

Carmellita woke me up from a week of writing resistance. I hadn’t written anything, and I knew it was because I was wrapped up in anxiety and overwhelm.

I haven’t been living in alignment with my dreams and it stalls me in every area of life.

I haven’t been building the business I want. Instead, I’m working part-time and looking for more salaried work. I haven’t focused on writing the way I’d like to, and so on.

Why?

I’m not good enough.

It’s the core reason so many of us get stuck. We don’t think we’re good enough.

In her post, You Will Never Be Good Enough To Manifest Your Dreams, Carmellita says:

You don’t have to be good enough to manifest your desires, you just have to be focused enough. And when you give away your power — you deplete your creative bandwidth.

I love the way she put this. You don’t have to have ultimate self-worth to go after your dreams. The perfectionist in me thinks I need to be one hundred percent ready before I take a big risk.

I don’t need to be good enough. I just need to know I am enough. And I need to be focused enough — on the right things.

We only have so much bandwidth.

I have been giving so much energy to everything else in life; the anxiety monster, other peoples’ problems, a future that hasn’t yet materialized, and things that are not a high priority.

She framed focus differently, in a more woo way, which resonated with me.

She says we have already manifested our dreams, but we aren’t experiencing them. The gift is there, waiting to be opened.

And this isn’t because we aren’t good enough. We are not experiencing our creations because we don’t have the creative bandwidth (also referred to as the creative power) to tune in. We don’t have the creative bandwidth to tune in because our minds are focused on everything else but what we desire.

Accordingly, you don’t have to be good enough, you just have to:

Know what your true desires

Be bold and dream big

Stay focused on your true desires

Tune into a frequency that will attract the resources, people, things, and opportunities to manifest your dreams.

Make available to yourself the creative bandwidth you need to experience your manifestations.

I really wanted to quote her whole post. But you’ll just have to go read it yourself.

You Will Never Be Good Enough to Manifest Your Desires

Thank goodness you don’t have to be…

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It’s time to remember that we don’t need to be good enough. We are enough. Our dreams are seeds, already planted, waiting for the nourishment to grow and be revealed.

Even if your brain has trouble focusing (like mine), you can still focus your heart. Just change the frequency to what you truly desire.

Thanks Carmellita for this beautiful reminder.