If You Have Zero Success With Women, Change Your Approach
You can be an ordinary guy and get the woman.
Balancing life, moving back in with your parents, and not having the typical desirable body. All those qualities stack the odds against you. It doesn’t help that you treat yourself as an unattractive liability.
You show women how to treat you. When you see an article mentioning exercise and side hustles, you wonder where you will find the time. You think it is not fair you have to do all that work to get attention from the opposite gender.
It is fair you feel that way. It feels like a lot of work when the alternative is simple — you can subscribe to watch women online. I know ease makes challenges more difficult to overcome.
So, I won’t bother adding to your mental battle of watching a show or lifting.
Your approach can change things for you. Focus less on yourself, especially if you feel the women you like are out of your league. You can have a relationship despite your insecurities. And while working on yourself.
Here are the approaches for getting more success with women.
#1. Let the weather help you.
Have you ever wondered why rom-com movies have a rainy setting when the first date ends?
I don’t have scientific evidence of this. But, from my experience, I would rather be in bed or at home when the weather is unfavorable.
If your plan is a one-night stand and you never usually get much luck. Head to your local bar or club when it is rainy or cold outside. A woman dressing up and leaving home in such weather could have hopes for a good time. Strike up a conversation and see where the night goes.
#2. Stop firing off her alarm bells
These days, everyone is on high alert.
A quick search will show you depression and anxiety numbers are high. Famous people with lives that appear enviable are choosing to go too soon.
Stop putting women on high alert when you approach them. How? Don’t block her escape path. Approach her from the side or at an angle. Using this tactic makes it her decision to entertain the conversation. And it feels less interruptive.
Are you not convinced? Think about when you visit a public place. A stranger stands in your way. Then, they shove a flyer into your face and talk. It’s not attractive to me, either.
#3. Avoid the fallacy of learning
You can watch someone complete an activity. And have yourself tricked into thinking it is easy.
Or you can learn the process. Attempt, fail; and continue trying until a technique works for you. The guys who now get all the women did all their trial-and-error work in high school and college.
- Accept yourself for starting your journey today.
- You are not the only person feeling unsure or inadequate.
- Learning about attraction and dating psychology is less taboo. Why? Because there are thousands of relationship educators online.
- Social skills are low for many millennials. How do I know this? There are hundreds of etiquette courses online.
- You aren’t alone. Give yourself the grace to learn about the best dating practices.
#4. Change your playlist
I’ve changed my mood so many times by listening to music. Sometimes, I stopped crying because the song ended. I pressed replay; started crying again. It’s crazy. Music has an intense impact on your brain, emotions, and nervous system.
I say all that because when you like a woman. You are already nervous. You wonder what to say, how to say it, and which way you should approach her. The music you listen to can intensify or chill out these feelings. If people call you a jerk — choose more calm, lusty, simp, feminine music. If your friends call you a simp, go with rap and hardcore masculine music. It can have you feeling different going into your interactions.
Oh, if you don’t have a playlist, try making one.
It might be me, but the radio always plays what is trending or somehow airs songs that match my mood too well. Be in control. Have a playlist.
#5. Focus on your friend group
It’s easy for me to suggest you find your life’s purpose.
But it’s hard to find. Even when you know what it is. You can have days where you feel unsure about what you are doing with your life. Have a back-up plan.
I wrote an article. Someone responded that it sucks to be a guy.
And all I thought was no men, don’t deliver babies. Plus, they earn more statistically.
But men don’t get their feelings validated as much. Men and women will tell a lady she looks good. But men rarely get these spontaneous compliments. Instead of hoping for compliments, tell yourself how good you look or have a hype group.
Confidence aids your approach.
Have your guys or reflection hype you up before you leave the house.
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