I Tried Arousal Oil

Can it make up for my flagging libido?

I was 19 years old when I attended something called a Passion Party. It was basically a Tupperware party with sex toys instead of storage containers.

My friend’s mom was hosting it at her place. She was quite open, so she let her daughter and her friends take part.

It was kind of MLMish, with the consultant presenting us with sex toys, selling small items, and passing around order sheets for anything that she didn’t have on hand.

One of the things she did have with her was an arousal cream.

I didn’t have any trouble getting horny back then, but it still seemed like something that would be fun to try.

It wasn’t the arousal I wanted per se, it was the scenario using the cream would create. I loved the idea of using the cream and having it almost take over my body, like I would be giving up control of myself. And because I had a partner I could really trust, I also got off on the idea of getting so horny I was powerless against him. I wanted to be putty in his hands.

I applied the cream as soon as we were alone together. He undressed me and we started fooling around.

I felt the tingling on my clit from the cream and I had my boyfriend’s hands all over my naked body.

It was hot as hell.

Then it was cool.

Way too cool.

There was a really strange, sharp cooling sensation between my legs and it was not comfortable in the least.

I tried to power through the sensations, but I couldn’t take that much pain and discomfort. I had to excuse myself from Mr. Austin’s bed so I could go shower and wash it off.

I looked at the ingredient list and found the culprit. Menthol.

In my rush to get off, I had rubbed menthol oil into my clit and now I was paying the price.

I threw the rest of the container in the trash, made peace with the fact that I wasted eighteen dollars, and swore off arousal cream.

The fantasy of using it was still really interesting to me. I just wished there was a way to make myself pliable for my horny guy without making me feel like I had rubbed strong minty toothpaste on my pussy.

Giving Arousal Products a Second Chance

I’ve changed a lot since I was 19. My libido is definitely not what it used to be. And even though it’s stronger than it has been in recent years, it’s still touch and go at times.

I’m always on the lookout for things that could help me feel more physically aroused when I’m mentally excited for sex but my body refuses to cooperate.

That’s how arousal products came back into my life.

I was browsing sex toys and accessories online when I came across a product called On Arousal Oil.

I had told myself I would never use another product like this, but now I felt intrigued. Maybe they’ve made some advances in arousal technology in the last 13 years. Maybe the new stuff works better. Maybe they even managed to make one that doesn’t make you feel like your clit’s being frozen off.

This time, I read the ingredients list carefully.

Sweet Almond Oil, Vitamin E, Cinnamomum Zeylanicum, Rosemary Oil Extract, Phenoxyethanol, Ethylhexylglycerin

I don’t have a fucking clue what Ethylhexyglycerin is, but there was no menthol so I was game to try it.

I ordered a bottle of the Ultra formula because I don’t want to mess around with some weak shit. When it came in the mail, I wanted to try it right away.

The instructions say to apply one or two drops, but I’m a chronic over-researcher. I had already read several user reviews and plenty of them claimed one or two drops did nothing. They cautioned that you need way more than that to have a decent effect.

A decent effect is exactly what I wanted but I didn’t want to deviate from the instructions on my first go. So, I started on the higher end, with two drops instead of one.

I rubbed the drops on my clit and sat down waiting for the oil to take effect.

About two minutes in, it started to feel warm

As time went on, my clit started throbbing. It was definitely working. But it was also getting hotter and hotter.

A few more minutes passed and I couldn’t stand it any longer. I had to run to the shower to wash it off.

After I washed it off, I still felt the effect. My clit throbbed for about an hour. It was like I had used a lip plumper on it.

Giving Arousal Products a Third Chance

The arousal cream was too cold. This arousal oil was too hot.

Maybe I was wrong to assume these products got any better in the intervening years.

Still, I wanted to give the oil a second chance. I said I changed a lot since 19 and one of the ways I’m different is I don’t throw shit out after one bad experience.

This time, I was a lot more careful. I only used half a drop and I had the shower on stand-by just in case.

It got a little warm. My clit felt a bit tingly. It felt nice and arousing at first, but it didn’t make me throb and it wore off quickly. So, much more pleasant than the first time, but disappointingly uneventful.

The next day, I tried a full drop. That was my Goldilocks amount. It was just right. It made my clit feel warm like it did the day before, but it made it throb, too.

That sensation was a bit arousing, but the big difference it made is that it kept me thinking about my clit and the sensations it was experiencing. I couldn’t forget it as I went through my day to day stuff, and keeping my mind on my clit meant keeping my mind on sex.

The oil made my clit swell, too, which meant I could feel it very subtly as I moved about.

I was staying wet the whole time, too.

So, it worked. I didn’t have to wash it off and it didn’t wear off, either.

An hour after I rubbed the oil on my clit, I was finally alone with my husband and I was very much in the mood and very ready for him to take over.

It was kind of a weird night to try it. We had experimented with some crazy stuff the night before and I was still feeling quite sore from it.

I told Mr. Austin we’d have to avoid going too hard. He offered to keep everything clit-focused. Just us using our hands and mouths, but no penetration.

That sounded perfect, so I agreed to it.

And then I changed my mind.

I had a head start from the arousal oil so I was already highly aroused when we started touching each other.

We did everything we promised we’d do. I jerked him off while he rubbed his lubed up fingers on my clit. He went down on me and made me come a few times.

This is usually the part where I’ll tell him to lie down so I can use my mouth on him.

Not this time, though. This time, I was so aroused that I wanted to skip that step. I had a strong desire to get fucked that I couldn’t ignore.

I went into the evening not wanting to have sex because I felt sore. But the arousal oil had me so turned on I told myself it was worth the risk.

And it was. He was slower and more gentle than usual, and it was highly satisfying to be fucked in such a tender way.

Boosting My Physical Arousal

I’m glad I gave arousal products another chance, because the On Arousal Oil did help. It wasn’t as powerful as I hoped it would be, but it got me wet and wanting sex so I have nothing to complain about.

It only works on the physical side, of course. Arousal is also mental. There’s such a strong emotional and cognitive component to horniness and desire. Arousal oil can’t help with that. It can’t make you feel safe and secure. It can’t fire up your sexual imagination. It probably can’t make you feel drawn to someone you’re not already drawn to.

But when those things are all in place, it can give a little extra help. Sometimes, it’s just what I need to get there.

I’m glad I have this little bottle of oil in my drawer. It’s a safe bet for whenever I need a boost — as long as I have a shower nearby just in case.

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