I Refuse To Say Those Words Unless It Is Warranted
Not because I feel pressured to
Those words have become so overused Often spoken platitudes
So rehearsed that we could act it out in any scene, any day Saying it when we don’t have to Listening to an inner voice that says we should
Stop Blaming yourself!
Stop taking responsibility for issues that you don’t cause Stop saying those words “I am sorry” just because
I stopped apologizing for making someone feel threatened because my intellectual capabilities made them feel “less than,” according to them.
I stopped apologizing for the color of my skin and the accent that my land and ancestors blessed me with because it’s who I am.
I stopped apologizing for being a woman in a field that used to be dominated by men. I’ve heard it several times; I thought I would be seeing a man and not a woman today. Things have changed for years. Where have you been?
I stopped apologizing for asking people to do their jobs because, as a team, everyone needs to do their part.
I stopped apologizing for putting myself first.
I stopped apologizing for saying no.
I stopped apologizing for my feelings because they were valid. You can’t tell me how I should feel.
I won’t accept blame when I haven’t done anything wrong to boost someone else’s ego.
That part of me is in the past. Don’t look for it anywhere. It is long gone. That part of me is dead.
Recently someone was very rude and disrespectful to me. They apologized but felt that I should apologize too. I refused and guess what happened? They were rude and disrespectful again. I am not going to apologize for your mistakes.
This piece was written in response to Yana Bostongirl’s piece on why I quit blaming myself. Children should be allowed to be children. It is not their place to be adults or to parent themselves and others. Yana has stopped blaming herself for things that are out of her control.
I would like to share this inspiring piece by camellia blooms Note to present you. She wants us to know that are dreams are possible and that we should focus on hope. Please give it a read.
