I Overcame One Phobia, What’s Next?

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he maintenance allowance if I owned a car.</p><h2 id="f814">When did I think differently?</h2><p id="ad0d">I was making a To-Do list of everything I needed to do <a href="https://readmedium.com/should-we-spend-more-time-with-family-9d0f65559395?sk=c94916720567df89167ca76e3e293839">once I got back home</a>. I looked at <a href="https://readmedium.com/i-have-a-new-thrill-829dd9f9f314">my visual board</a> and wrote <i>driving school.</i> In May, I erased it. Perhaps I thought it had stayed there too long without materialization.</p><p id="58bd">In August or September, I wrote it down again. I was ticking off my mental To-do list and recalled that driving was something yet to be ticked off. A few weeks later, I called a friend and asked if he wouldn’t mind driving with me. He advised me to go to a driving school instead. He reminded me that no one would have enough patience to see me through than instructors.</p><p id="4e86">I asked for driving school recommendations. He sent me some links on my phone. I spent 2 months making inquiries; I would call a school, ask about cost and schedule, then hang up.</p><p id="75bc">Finally, one day I was interviewed for a job. The interviewer said I would not get the position cos I was not driving. Clearly, I was jeopardizing myself due to a lack of this skill. As I hung up, I dialed the driving school. I am in my third lesson now. My instructor was quite happy with me.</p><p id="f7aa">As I rounded up my lesson, I thought to myself, what other phobia do I have that needs to be overcome? Marriage perhaps… that has been sorted out <a href="https://readmedium.com/i-met-my-husband-and-then-be10ad6d551c">here</a>. Wha

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t about swimming? I have started classes and intend to resume this fall. So what else? Whatever it is, I know that overcoming my fear of driving has boosted my confidence to overcome everything else. When I hit the road on my own, I’ll be filling you guys in.</p><p id="4733">P.S: I think writing goals on visual boards are helpful!</p><div id="1f6a" class="link-block"> <a href="https://kokoizuka.medium.com/membership"> <div> <div> <h2>Join Medium with my referral link - Aguocha Nkeonye Judith</h2> <div><h3>As a Medium member, a portion of your membership fee goes to writers you read, and you get full access to every story…</h3></div> <div><p>kokoizuka.medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*Yko6Zvz3Um6-K_GB)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="186e" class="link-block"> <a href="https://kokoizuka.medium.com/subscribe"> <div> <div> <h2>Get an email whenever Aguocha Nkeonye Judith publishes.</h2> <div><h3>Get an email whenever Aguocha Nkeonye Judith publishes. By signing up, you will create a Medium account if you don't…</h3></div> <div><p>kokoizuka.medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*IGzGdlqT0TlxW01k)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

I love heights. I love speed. I’m on the verge of being a pyromaniac. Maybe my phobia is boredom.-Erin Wasson

A couple of days ago, I told a story about my apathy to drive. I think it was first a phobia, then apathy followed. Well, I called a driving school and I am currently in my third lesson. I am not one to talk and drive cos I think it is distracting and I am an intense conversationalist.

In my second class, I saw myself talking with the driver, telling him stories, and driving simultaneously. The talking took some anxiety away. I was still conscious of my activity and environment. I tried not to get too much into the conversation cos I knew that could mess up my driving.

Before my driving lesson, I had not driven for over 10 years. I wanted nothing to do with cars as far as driving them was concerned. My folks would go away and they would park cars in the driveway, but I would touch none. I had done partial lessons before, so I knew a thing or two. But my phobia would not let me.

Then came Uber, and I knew they had me in mind. Never once did I mind my bills. For me, my taxi fare equaled the maintenance allowance if I owned a car.

When did I think differently?

I was making a To-Do list of everything I needed to do once I got back home. I looked at my visual board and wrote driving school. In May, I erased it. Perhaps I thought it had stayed there too long without materialization.

In August or September, I wrote it down again. I was ticking off my mental To-do list and recalled that driving was something yet to be ticked off. A few weeks later, I called a friend and asked if he wouldn’t mind driving with me. He advised me to go to a driving school instead. He reminded me that no one would have enough patience to see me through than instructors.

I asked for driving school recommendations. He sent me some links on my phone. I spent 2 months making inquiries; I would call a school, ask about cost and schedule, then hang up.

Finally, one day I was interviewed for a job. The interviewer said I would not get the position cos I was not driving. Clearly, I was jeopardizing myself due to a lack of this skill. As I hung up, I dialed the driving school. I am in my third lesson now. My instructor was quite happy with me.

As I rounded up my lesson, I thought to myself, what other phobia do I have that needs to be overcome? Marriage perhaps… that has been sorted out here. What about swimming? I have started classes and intend to resume this fall. So what else? Whatever it is, I know that overcoming my fear of driving has boosted my confidence to overcome everything else. When I hit the road on my own, I’ll be filling you guys in.

P.S: I think writing goals on visual boards are helpful!