I Don’t Need To ‘Cum For You’
But here are some other options.
How many times have you heard the expression, “Cum for me, baby…” during sex?
It’s definitely what I would consider a more common form of dirty talk and I’ve had my fair share of lovers say it to me — over and over.
I’ll admit that I’ve also said it to lovers as well.
But lately, I’ve been a bit annoyed by this expression. It feels over-simplified and supercilious — especially if you’ve been having sex with the same person for many years.
The term, “Cum for me” during sex can feel trite or stale in many aspects.
After a long day of demands being made upon you by other people, family members, children, work, or bosses, when you finally get the time to make love with your partner, perhaps there’s a less abrupt verbal way to coax them into having their orgasm in the heat of the moment.
I totally get that whispering in your partner’s ear and commanding them to orgasm can indeed be sexy — but there are certain times when I’m simply not ready to orgasm yet or I’m taking longer than usual to get there.
In those moments I can get frustrated by the pressure of it all.
There are other, perhaps more impassioned and less hasty expressions that could be said, such as, “I can’t wait to feel it when you’re ready to cum for me,” OR “I’m going to love feeling your orgasm all over me when it comes.”
Also, “Let me know when you’re going to come and I’ll wait for you” is always a nice one.
Putting a softer, more sensual edge on the whole cum for me thing might also be better for those who are tired of the same old sexual rhetoric and brisk terms in the bedroom.
Although the whole sexual sentiment behind wanting a partner to orgasm is great, saying it in a new way can really make a pleasant difference.
Besides, I don’t want to “cum” just for my lover, anyways. Most of the time I want to have an orgasm for myself. I don’t generally have sex without the intention of having an orgasm.
As I’ve written about before, sometimes I’ll make love to my partner when I’m not really in the mood just for his benefit, but trust me when I say that I’m not too keen on sex without climaxing at the end of it.
There’s a colossal difference between sex and good sex.
Having an orgasm — to me — is good sex — full stop. Being told to have an orgasm by my partner can be a real turn-on — YES. However, sometimes I’d like it to be said with just a little bit more imagination and a little less urgency.
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