I Asked My Lovers Why I Am Sexy
The answers surprised me
Since becoming a cheater and my rebirth as an Adulteress, I’ve chatted with a surprisingly large number of men from both Gleeden and Ashley Madison. Conversations and topics have varied in the same way each man varies. However, there is a recurring theme to all my chats.
I’m sexy!
Back up for a moment. Yes, I know I’m sexy. Not because of my body, or face, or anything physical. I know how to dress my curves. I speak well and often. I laugh big laughs straight from my belly. My hair and face are fresh and well maintained for my age.
But all that is nothing compared to how I feel inside.
It took me decades to accept who I am. When you’re good with yourself, that shines out like a beacon. People see it! I’m sexy because I FEEL SEXY, not because some random person tells me I am.
So when these fuckers (endearingly said) say I’m sexy, I have to challenge that. Why am I sexy? What makes me sexy in their eyes. I asked a couple of previous lovers and one potential lover “Why am I sexy?”. Here are their replies. I have to admit that it surprised me.
CityLivingMan on getting to know me: “You’re sexy and sexual. Very hot and willing. When you put your fingers in your pussy. That was super sexy and knowing you had people over and sent the pic of your glistening fingers.”
We had a dinner party with some coworkers, and CityLivingMan and I were texting all afternoon and even during the party. I was so turned on by his words. So I showed him. He liked that I showed him.
CityLivingMan on when we were at the hotel: “Your willingness to get undressed so quickly was a turn on. I loved how clean-shaven you were. When I was going down on you, your moans were making my cock hard. The moaning and orgasms were hot. I did think they were sexy. When you asked for doggie. Sliding my cock into from behind was very sexy holding your hips and fucking you.”
I’m surprised. I was expecting that it would be just the hotel portion of our liaison but he referred to our chat and my actions when we getting to know each other. Long before the hotel.
BigBabyBlues is a potential lover and had this to say: “I find you attractive and full of energy. I love your confidence in yourself.”
Wow. He really is sweet!
BigBabyBlues on the video I shared: “Your video of your breathing and body sounds as you came, made me instantly hard. I love it.”
I love it too, so that’s why I made him one.
Joker said it quite eloquently: “Many things make you sexy. It’s very sexy how you are in tune with your own sexuality, desires and needs. Your imagination. Making yourself come. Taking care of yourself first. All sexy.”
That’s Joker for you. A smart man, which I find sexy.
I’ll be honest. I thought I would hear: “well… It’s because you’re willing to sleep with someone who’s not your spouse…” or “because you like to fuck around?” or even “you’re desperate for cock…that’s why”.
I’m sure there are men out there that may say that if pressed for honesty. I hope that they wouldn’t because no woman wants to hear those comments in a chat. A woman might think of those reasons on her own but she wouldn’t want to hear it from an affair partner. She has enough on her shoulders already.
My men are right. I am sexy. Not because of how I look. It’s because I FEEL SEXY and that comes across in my words and actions. That’s what they like to see and it’s why they want me.
As so they should!
This encounter was hard but served a purpose in my journey: acceptance.
My encounters aren’t all bad. This one was special.