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ing around her.</p><h2 id="3057">5. She’s Endlessly Patient</h2><p id="0ca0">The alpha woman might not be known for her patience, but the delta woman has a surplus of it. She’s not rushing through life in a hurry. She’s savoring it as she goes. The delta woman also extends this patience to others and takes interruptions to her schedule in stride.</p><p id="d267">You won’t find her pacing in a waiting room or pulling a Karen move when she doesn’t get immediate service. She’s perfectly happy to sit with her own thoughts and to wait patiently. She’s not the one who gets attention for asserting her entitlement. She’s the one you didn’t notice in a room because she was patiently waiting rather than making waves.</p><h2 id="ad83">6. She Tends Toward Low Self-Esteem</h2><p id="f969">Even though the delta woman doesn’t require outside validation, she can struggle with low self-esteem. She can be the wallflower, easily overlooked, and it can, at times, undermine her sense of self-worth. She thrives when she surrounds herself with positive, self-motivated support, but she’s susceptible to energy vampires who seek to drain her dry for their own purposes.</p><p id="5d1e">The delta female might not have the confidence of an alpha or sigma, but this doesn’t mean she thinks she has no value. Rather, she sometimes wonder if anyone else sees it. Just because she doesn’t need outside approval doesn’t mean she doesn’t long for outside appreciation.</p><h2 id="0c77">7. She Can Be Conflict-Avoidant</h2><p id="f3b0">The delta woman usually smooths down ruffled feathers with no one the wiser. She’s a natural mediator, but it’s mostly because she’s highly conflict-avoidant. Fights and arguments stress her out, so she’s adapted to avoid them.</p><p id="1c48">This makes her an effortless communicator, but when her usual bag of tricks doesn’t work, she’s unlikely to address an issue directly. She’s more likely to busy herself or to run and hide than to face a problem — or a person with a problem — head on.</p><h2 id="c1da">8. She’s a Worrier</h2><p id="92ac">The delta woman’s naturally caring personality also means that she’s an innate worrier. She thinks and over-thinks because she’s constantly anticipating — and avoiding — conflict in any form. This hypervigilance often pays off when she successfully manages tension within a group, which often reinforces her worrying nature. Even though she claims she wants to be free of the stress of worrying, she also feels like her worrying is rewarded when she thwarts conflict and achieves peace.</p><h2 id="e11d">9. She’s a Nurturer</h2><p id="bac1">You may have noticed that the delta woman in your life has strong nurturing energy. She’s the friend who will bring you soup when you’re sick or water your plants when you’re out of town. She enjoys taking care of others and feeling useful.</p><h2 id="6d77">10. She Stays Focused on Self-Improvement</h2><p id="adbb">A key trait that often goes unnoticed is that the delta woman stays focused on improving herself. She’s aware of her challenges and diligently tries to be a better human being. Sometimes, she fails. What she doesn’t do, and will never do, is stop trying.</p><p id="b4df">Don’t get this twisted. She’s not walking around flinging toxic positivity in every direction. She just looks for ways to keep improving even when it’s tough. Her bounce back after a setback is impressive indeed!</p><h2 id="d60c">11. She’s Shy</h2><p id="10b4">The wallflower delta female isn’t stuck up or judging you. She’s just shy. Her reserve can be misinterpreted. She’s genuinely friendly, but she’s often uncomfortable being the first to initiate contact or a conversation.</p><h2 id="0f40">12. She’s Slow to Commit</h2><p id="238c">The delta woman sounds like a catch, doesn’t she? She’s caring, kind, self-aware, and driven by peace. But that doesn’t mean she’ll be quick to commit. In fact, she will likely move at a snail’s pace just to be sure she’s making the right decision.</p><p id="7ce5">Her slow relationship pace could drive partners crazy, but it just means that she’s taking it seriously. She wants to make sure she can honor her commitments and that the

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relationship is the best fit for her. You can be sure of her loyalty once she finally takes the plunge, but until then, she’ll be slowly going over a pros and cons list without rushing to get to some perceived destination.</p><h2 id="71e6">13. She’s Quiet Unless She Has Something to Say</h2><p id="b9cb">The delta woman doesn’t just talk to hear the sound of her own voice. She’s quiet until she has something important to say. She usually has incredible insights to share if others will pipe down and listen. When she’s not sharing those insights, she’s more likely to fade into the background as an observer until she has something important to contribute.</p><h2 id="bf10">14. She’s Aware of Her Flaws</h2><p id="74a3">Self-awareness is certainly a key trait of the delta woman. She knows she’s not perfect. Luckily, she has no desire to be. She’s aware of each of her flaws, and she doesn’t excuse them. She accepts them even though it undermines her self-esteem at times. Because she combines this self-awareness with a growth mindset, she’s getting better every day.</p><h2 id="a515">15. She’s Loyal to Others</h2><p id="03bf">Her hesitance to commit aside, the delta woman is one of the most loving and loyal. She has a real sense of devotion to the people she loves, and she’ll do almost anything for them. Her loyalty has limits, however. She’s capable of cutting out unhealthy connections and deciding to love them from afar if necessary.</p><h2 id="4a42">16. She’s Incredibly Intelligent</h2><p id="e468">Your studious, shy, and quiet bookworm is likely a delta woman. She’s incredibly intelligent but doesn’t brag about it. She loves deep conversations over small talk, and she constantly soaks up knowledge. She’s not just book smart either. She also has the street smarts to go with it.</p><h1 id="d8cb">A Final Word about the Delta Woman</h1><p id="739e">The delta woman is quiet, smart, and caring. She sometimes worries that she’s not good enough, but that doesn’t stop her from showing up or doing her best. She’s determined to keep getting better.</p><p id="0701">Although the delta woman finds herself at a lower rung on the sociosexual scale, she’s happy just to be included. She doesn’t need to lead. She doesn’t mind following. She just wants to be included, valued, and seen — just like anyone else.</p><div id="1f58" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/to-the-emotionally-unavailable-partner-with-love-16232d9981a3"> <div> <div> <h2>To the Emotionally Unavailable Partner, With Love</h2> <div><h3>It’s time to do the thing you’re most afraid of</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*QmR0vE0MFTU_6Iaj)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="dbe6" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/7-things-the-nice-guy-does-that-a-good-man-would-never-do-132f002998d"> <div> <div> <h2>7 Things the “Nice Guy” Does That a Good Man Would Never Do</h2> <div><h3>Louder for the men in the back</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*lKeBjIo0NI9ToGXz)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="e435" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/21-traits-of-a-high-value-man-9c846eca76fe"> <div> <div> <h2>21 Traits of a High-Value Man</h2> <div><h3>How to recognize and appreciate the high-value men in your life.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*Zsa568jOV2oJwNHs)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

How to use resistance to become more focused

Resistance for focus — A brief insight

What is focus?

Focus is the ability to concentrate on what is important at that moment while ignoring everything else.

It is one of the important skills one can possess to be able to work on what is important for you. The modern world is designed to distract you. Where ever you go chances are high that buzzing information bombards you.

You may not have any internal resistance that prevents you from pursuing a more enjoyable activity. You may crave entertainment and relaxation.

This resistance is your will power. The ability to do something even if it is hard because it is the right thing to do. It is exhausting to depend on it. If the will is not enough, if the temptations are too strong, then an external resistance can help.

You have to build something that makes it more difficult to follow a distraction.

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In application, it can look like this.

What tempting things do you want to pursue when you actually need to be focused?

Is it your favourite show? A new app or a game? Wondering how many likes your new post on Instagram has and what the others are doing?

Did you get a message and don’t want to miss anything?

You get the idea. To be able to pursue all these distraction options we have to perform an action. An action that starts a distraction.

Don’t allow yourself to be distracted.

“The fact is: You are not a manager of circumstance, you’re the architect of your life’s experience.” — Tony Robbins

Now the idea is to make that action more difficult.

Mute your phone. If sounds or vibrations don’t interrupt you, it’s easier to forget them. Or put it in another room.

If there are noises from outside close the window. To prevent starring outside turn away from the window. Then you have to turn around before you can look outside.

If you depend on your phone or computer, remove the apps that distract you from your home screen. If you can’t see them, you are less likely to open them.

If that’s not enough, uninstall these apps for the focused session. Downloading, installing and logging in will take at least 20 seconds. These 20 seconds may be enough to stop you from being distracted.

Every extra second, every extra move that is necessary makes it easier for not to do something.

In conclusion, resistance is everything that creates more effort to start something else. You can use it to your advance and construct it.

This is an article of my series called “Brief insight”. Where I’ll share thoughts ideas and things I learned concisely.

If you like the concept feel free to check out the other articles.

This is my second post for the ILLUMINATION 30-day writing challenge by Dr Mehmet Yildiz described in this article. I hope that I can find the time and ideas to complete it.

Focus
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