How to Show Enthusiasm When Giving a Blowjob

The secret to giving incredible head

There aren’t a lot of ways to give a bad blowjob.

As long as you avoid scraping your teeth on anything too sensitive you’re probably doing just fine.

I mean, you’re taking a dick in your mouth. Most people with dicks really appreciate that kind of thing.

Maybe you’re even good at making it look cute when you’re not sure what to do with it.

But if you want to give a great blowjob, it’s going to take a little more than that.

Technique helps. Knowing what to do with your mouth and hands goes a long way to giving a blowjob that feels like it’s coming from a pro.

Enthusiasm, though, is what makes all the difference.

A blowjob that’s given with gusto and desire is always better than one where you’re just going through the motions (no matter how good those motions are).

The problem is that we don’t usually talk about blowjobs like they’re fun and exciting — not for the giver anyway. We usually treat them as rewards, like they’re something women do because it pleases men, not because they actually get any enjoyment out of it.

There’s not enough talk about exactly what it means to suck cock like you really want to take that dick in your mouth.

That’s too bad because we’re missing out on an opportunity to give the guys in our lives something really fucking special.

The fact is that most men don’t spend much of their lives feeling desired or desirable.

Double that for their cocks. When people talk about the aesthetic qualities of a dick, it’s often in really negative terms. There are a lot of comments along the lines of “no one wants to see that” and jokes about how men’s bodies are functional but not attractive.

But giving a blowjob like you really mean it — like there’s nothing you would rather do than make that cock feel amazing — subverts all that. It lets your partner feel what it’s like to actually be wanted and desired.

That, combined with some of the best stimulation your body can give, makes that blowjob more than just a technique to get him hard or make him come. It’s a way to make him feel incredible.

It only works if he can actually feel your desire, though. An enthusiastic blowjob doesn’t just mean really wanting to suck him off — it also means showing that enthusiasm in the way you do it.

And there are five simple ways to do that.

Get Horny

You don’t have to be super horny to give an enthusiastic blowjob. But it really helps if you are. If you get really worked up, the enthusiasm is going to come a lot more naturally.

If you’re not already fired up, take some steps to get there. Slow down the foreplay so you get turned on more. Touch yourself while you stroke his cock. Get some dirty talk going before you take his cock out of his pants.

You can also delay the blowjob a bit. My most enthusiastic head always comes after I’ve received a lot of action. I find it helps me suck better and longer when it’s not the first thing we jump into.

So do whatever it takes to get your arousal up before starting. It could be a long makeout session with some good old fashioned dry humping. He could finger you or go down on you first. Or better yet, get him to edge you until you’re practically begging to get your hands (and mouth) on his cock.

If you plan to give him a spontaneous blowjob, you won’t be able to rely on the foreplay. But if you want that impromptu head to really blow him away, find ways to get yourself in the mood first.

Get yourself in the sex mindset by fantasizing about it. Spend the day thinking how hot it will be for him when you drop to your knees and surprise him. Read erotica to get in the mood. Watch some really good blowjob porn to get excited for it.

Making yourself so aroused that you want that blowjob almost as much as he does is going to be better than any technique you could try.

Build Anticipation

I once heard someone say that men hate anticipation when it comes to sex. But that’s bullshit.

Yes, some men are craving it. They want it. They’re ready to jump into action.

That doesn’t mean they wouldn’t enjoy the buildup. Almost every guy out there would be extremely pleased to watch his partner kneel down between his legs and slowly undo his pants.

So don’t rush through it like a chore you want to finish. Go slow like it’s an act you want to really savor.

Make it a bit of a performance. Be a tease. Take your time like you’re slowly unwrapping a treat you’ve been thinking about for a long time.

Before you take him in your mouth, rub his cock. Stroke it. Take a good, long look at it. Study it and appreciate it. Give it a few soft licks. Show him that you’re really into his cock and want to show it a really good time.

Explore His Entire Cock

An enthusiastic blowjob isn’t just about making him come. It’s about showing that cock some real love.

Instead of bobbing on it or doing that one move you think will get him off the fastest, make sure you incorporate his entire cock into the blowjob.

Run your tongue all over his shaft. Kiss the head of his cock. Lick the crown around it. Give him some shallow sucks then show him how deep you can take him.

And if you’re into it, include his balls — lick them, take them in your mouth, gently suck on them.

Make Some Noise

Being vocal is a great way to show that you’re in the moment and not just going through the paces.

Moan with his cock in your mouth like you’re eating some incredibly tasty ice cream. Giggle softly while stroking him between sucks. Let yourself groan when you’re sucking hard or pulling out your best move.

Dirty talk works really well, too. Praise his cock — its shape, its size, its curve, its smoothness. Whatever you love about it, say it out loud. Express your desire for him. Tell him how badly you want to make him come, how you can’t wait for him to finish in your mouth, on your face, or all over your tits.

Even a simple “I love sucking your cock” goes a long way.

Just make sure you don’t overdo it. Acting like sucking his cock is giving you an orgasm is going to come across a bit forced. He knows his cock isn’t reaching your clit, so there’s no need to act like it is.

Pace Yourself

When a lot of people hear about enthusiastic blowjobs, they picture a lot of aggressive movements.

But sucking harder and faster isn’t actually the best way to show your enthusiasm.

It’s a lot less about speed and a lot more about your attitude and enjoyment. And the best way you can show those is by pacing yourself.

Going hard might make you feel like a pornstar but it’s going to tire you out really fast. You’ll seem like you’re way more into it if you give a slow blowjob that lasts ten minutes than if you have to tap out after two minutes because you were sprinting right out of the gate.

Avoid positions that hurt your neck or make you sore. Kneeling on a hard floor might be your image of a classic blowjob, but you’ll be tempted to stop early because your knees hurt.

Switch things up if it gets to be too much. Take his cock out of your mouth and just lick up and down it for a while. Or use your hands to give your jaw a break.

Do whatever it takes to last longer and enjoy the blowjob more because you’ll have a hard time showing your excitement if you’re sore and uncomfortable.

Give It Your Best

Showing enthusiasm when you’re giving head is about being eager, being present in the moment, and putting your desires on display.

There are a lot of different ways to do that, but the best thing you can do is just not worry about it too much. Just open your mouth, show him how badly you want him, and blow his mind.

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