How to Satisfy a Girl With a Praise Kink

Make her feel like a very good girl

Everyone likes to be praised. But in recent years, I started to realize there was something a little different about me.

Like anyone else, praise makes me feel better about myself. It makes me feel appreciated. It gives me all sorts of nice, warm feelings.

What I didn’t know, though, is that not everyone felt sexually charged by it.

The thing with praise is that it doesn’t just make me feel good. It can also turn me on like nothing else can.

Some of the strongest arousal I’ve ever felt has been brought on by a few simple words of praise given in the right context.

Sometimes, half the reason I do my best to give a great blowjob or fuck my partner as hard as I can is so I get to hear him tell me how much he loves it.

Praise even gave me the most intense arousal I’ve ever felt. I got breathlessly horny and felt like I was on the verge of an orgasm just because a guy I was sexting with called me a good girl over text.

So yeah, it’s powerful stuff.

My desire for praise is a big part of my day-to-day life as well.

Words of affirmation is the love language that speaks the loudest to me. It helps me feel emotionally safe around someone, reassures me that I’m not just a bother to them, and helps me feel seen and appreciated.

Thanks to some anxiety issues I’ve been blessed with, I tend to feel out of place and unwanted. So hearing any evidence to the contrary is a really big deal for me.

I also struggle with some pretty severe people pleasing.

I work a little too hard to make sure others like me because I can never assume that they do. I try to make others feel really good so they’ll think I’m good. I make myself small to make them feel better. Or I make myself invisible so they don’t have to worry about me.

During sex, though, that affirmation hits different. That’s when my praise kink comes out and it’s no longer a struggle — it’s just really fucking hot.

Getting praised during sex isn’t just a bit of external validation to make up for low levels of internal validation. It’s something that takes the good feelings I already have and intensifies them.

It gets me aroused to a point where I might lose control over myself. Hearing the right words breathed into my ear can magnify the pleasure I’m experiencing. It can help me have some of the strongest orgasms my body is capable of giving me.

And working for sexual praise doesn’t feel at all like people pleasing. It doesn’t feel like I’m compromising myself in the least.

It just feels fucking fun. It’s incredibly playful and exciting. It’s like an extremely arousing game.

Having a praise kink is a beautiful thing. It’s one of the sweetest kinds of sexual submission there is.

But a lot of people aren’t sure what to do when they’re with a girl who has a praise kink. They know she wants to hear nice things, but they don’t know how to do it in a way that she’ll find sexually gratifying.

If your partner has a praise kink, these are some of the things that will make her extra horny and excited during sex.

Say the Right Thing

A lot of people have a tendency to think a lot of really nice things about their partner during sex but won’t say them out loud. Or they’ll wait until the sex is over and give a bit of praise as part of the aftercare.

I personally think everyone should be verbal during sex, but it’s especially important if you’re fucking someone who gets off on praise.

That’s what someone with a praise kink lives for. Not just the orgasms you can give her. Not just the sheer pleasure of getting fingered, eaten out, and fucked. But also hearing you say very nice things about her.

What kinds of things she’ll want to hear depends on the situation and her personal preferences, but there are a few standard ones that work for most of us.

“Good girl” is the big one. If she has a praise kink, that’s exactly what she’s trying to be. She wants to earn that title, and she’s practically going to melt when she hears it coming from your lips.

“Clever girl” is also really great, especially if she likes being a bit bratty and defiant. If she likes to challenge you when you’re flirting, wants to make you work for it when you’re fooling around, and loves to surprise you, those are the two words that will really fire her up.

Verbalizing your appreciation for her body and her skills are huge, too.

Whatever it is that you love about her body, put it into words. Say things like “your tits are fucking incredible,” “your ass drives me wild,” and “you have no idea how hot you look right now.”

Tell her that her pussy tastes good when you’re going down on her. Tell her what a good little cocksucker she is when she’s going down on you. Tell her that you love how well she takes your cock when you’re pounding into her hard.

Whatever it is you’re enjoying in the moment, saying it out loud and turning it into praise is going to give her some incredible satisfaction.

And don’t be stingy with it.

With most people, a little bit of dirty talk goes a long way. Just hearing you say a few hot things while you’re getting it on is going to be enough.

But a lot of people with praise kinks like to feel like praise whores. It doesn’t have to be wall-to-wall praise the entire time — way too much praise usually feels insincere. But she’s going to want to hear all the nice things you’re thinking about her, even if it comes every minute or two instead of only once or twice while you’re fucking.

Be Specific

If you really want to turn her on, the praise you give her has to make her feel seen and feel special.

That means you should be referencing specific things she’s doing instead of giving her generic praise.

“Good girl” is a really popular phrase, but that’s partly because it’s so generic that it can be applied to any subby gal in pretty much any situation. It’s still hot as fuck, but she’s going to want something more personal too.

To give her real butterflies, you have to say things that make her feel seen and make it clear that you appreciate all the things she’s doing for you.

It has to be something that applies to only her, right now, in that moment.

When she’s giving you an amazing blowjob, tell her that you love the way she sucks you off. Call her a good little cocksucker. But also give her some more specific praise.

Tell her you love how sweet and dirty she looks when she peeks up at you with doe eyes while stuffing her mouth with your dick. Compliment her for licking the head of your cock just right. Praise her for how deeply she’s swallowing your shaft.

Don’t just tell her she looks hot — tell her exactly why you can’t stop staring at her.

Tell her that her pussy looks inviting when she’s on all four for you. The way her tits bounce when she’s riding you. How sexy and subby she looks when she’s on her knees, presenting herself to you.

Being specific keeps the praise from sounding repetitive. Even the most die-hard good girls don’t necessarily just want to be called that over and over.

More importantly, the specificity makes your praise sound honest and genuine. And that’s going to make it extra arousing for her.

Give Her a Pet Name

Using pets names and terms of endearment is a simple way to make her feel praised and turned on. Just addressing her the right way and in the right context can be enough to make her feel warm and horny.

Whatever you call her, it should be something that suits her and reflects what kind of sexy little creature she is.

“Princess” and “sweetheart” can work perfectly if your praise-loving lady also happens to have a DDlg kink.

If she’s into light degradation and humiliation, she might respond better to something like “my clever little slut” or “my good little whore.”

Or it can be whatever pet name you organically started calling her when the flirting got hot and heavy.

Pet names don’t always sound sexual. But to someone who has a praise kink, the right one can be a major turn-on.

Give Her Lots of Non-Verbal Praise

Your words are going to matter the most to someone with a praise kink. But you should also throw in lots of non-verbal sounds that make her feel desired and appreciated.

I’m talking about moans, groans, grunts — anything that shows that you’re really enjoying whatever is going on.

Don’t hold back. Let yourself make whatever sound of approval you instinctively want to moan.

It’s kind of subtle, but she will take notice.

The specific sound you make doesn’t really matter, but your timing does. It should be clear that she’s the one coaxing that sound out of your throat.

Groan with horny approval when she slips her shirt over her head and her tits drop down. Moan with appreciation when she gets down on her knees, ready to take you in her mouth. Smirk and let out a heavy breath when you hold her chin, look into her eyes, and take her in.

Those sounds are going to show your enthusiasm for her and the things you can do to her. And that enthusiasm is always going to make her feel praised.

Worship Her Body

Body worship is another kind of non-verbal praise that works extremely well.

It basically involves having your way with her body, but in a way that shows lots of lust and desire for it.

It means kissing and licking her all over. Touching her and grabbing her. Admiring her closely and for extended periods of time.

It can be her entire body or just a specific part.

You can worship her pussy by massaging her lips, spreading her pussy open and admiring it, licking it with complete enthusiasm.

Worship her ass by bending her over and admiring it, groping and spanking her, spreading her cheeks apart to get a clear look at her tight little asshole, and licking and kissing it with abandon.

Her tits, her thighs, her stomach, her feet — whatever part of her you’re into, have your way with it. Lose yourself in your appreciation of it.

Even though this is a non-verbal kind of praise, there’s no harm in throwing in a few compliments. And you definitely should be as vocal as you want to be during it. Don’t just quietly take her body in. Moan while you lick her. Groan when you grab a handful of her.

And you don’t have to worry about her — she’ll be just as lost in your body worship as you are.

Edge Her and Make Her Earn Her Orgasms

Edging is the most important skill for any kind of sensual domination.

It’s a simple technique. All you need to do is bring your partner close to an orgasm. When she’s just about to hit that peak, pull away the stimulation. Instead of coming, she gets squirmy and frustrated.

I find being edged extremely satisfying because it prolongs my pleasure, it increases my arousal, and it makes the eventual orgasm even stronger.

It’s also the perfect setup for some sexual praise.

When Mr. Austin edges me, he usually refuses to let me come until I’ve earned it.

He’ll keep edging me until I do something for him. It’s almost always saying something dirty — something I’m thinking and want to say out loud, but feel too embarrassed to actually put in words.

He’ll torture my pussy with pleasure and near-orgasms until I finally give in and do it.

When I do, it’s the perfect release. He calls me a good girl, praises me for giving him what he wanted, and all that praise comes packaged with a massive orgasm at the same time.

It’s one of the best ways to get off.

Do the same thing for her. Edge her and make her work for her orgasm. When she earns it, give her lots of nice words while she’s coming and you’ll make her see stars.

Or just edge her and praise her for all the endurance it involves. Rub her pussy and tell her she’s a good girl for handling so much pleasure. Push the wand vibrator against her clit and praise her for being such a tough girl for putting up with all that frustration.

Make Her a Sexual Sticker Chart

This might only work because of the middle in me, but there’s something surprisingly hot about trying to earn stickers by doing something sexual.

I’ve only experimented with this once. It happened when I was feeling guilty for masturbating more often than I was having sex.

To help me get over the guilt, my husband bought some stickers and challenged me to earn them by masturbating.

I thought it might be a fun way to shift my feelings and give me a better attitude toward my self-pleasure. But it turned out to be even more than that.

The first time he handed me a cupcake sticker and said “good job” after I had gotten myself off, I felt so fucking turned on by it that I suddenly had the urge to masturbate again.

Not every girl with a praise kink will be into this. It might feel too silly for some of them.

But if she’s a little or a middle, she almost certainly will be game to try it.

If she has an extremely playful attitude toward sexual submission, she might be down for it too.

And if she has a teacher fetish, you might have just hit on a really hot type of roleplay for her.

The sticker chart is fun and silly. But mostly, it sets her up to work for your approval and gives her a very clear sign that she has earned it. Roll that into a sexual scenario and you’ve got another way to give her the praise she craves.

Treat Your Good Girl Right

If your partner has a praise kink, it means she wants sex that doesn’t just feel good physically but also gives her the right kind of emotional satisfaction.

She wants to feel like she has pleased you, done things to turn you on, and earned your approval.

And she’s going to look for lots of clear signs that she’s achieved that.

Keep showing her that she turns you on. Tell her exactly what it is about her that drives you wild. Pay attention to all the effort she puts into getting you off and reward her for it.

Most of all, say very nice things about her and don’t ever stop doing it.

If you’re fucking someone who has a praise kink, that means you have the privilege of fucking a very good girl. So, do what you can to make her feel like one.

If you want even more praise kink content, check out the My Dirty Little Whore (Positive Humiliation and Praise Kink) episode of my podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!

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