How to Overcome Your Obsession on a Twin Flame Journey

Being part of the same soul as our twin flame doesn’t mean we must become obsessed

When I first entered the twin flame journey, I had no idea about the main theme of this journey. I was just feeling a passion that gripped my heart madly. This passion was so great that I couldn’t control it. And that, in the short term, made me feel dependent on someone else’s presence and energy. I’ve never let myself melt away. But this time things were different.

Everything that we cannot draw our energy to can create an addiction for us. In the past year, I realized that the external center of my happiness was one of the biggest things that made me tired. When I tried to root this center within me, I realized I was really making myself dependent on someone else’s actions and thoughts. (even if this person is part of me)

Yes, twin flames are our soul reflection. That’s why it would be wrong to say that our twin flame is “someone else”. We are not strangers to each other, but being part of the same spirit does not mean that we will assimilate ourselves with it. Because every person is a world. Our identities and fingerprints are born completely different from each other.

With such thoughts swirling in my head, I made the wrong choice to end my connection with my twin. Of course, I couldn’t. And then the thought occurred to me when I woke up one night to clean my addiction, not my connection. That’s why, in this article, I want to touch on “being obsessed with our twin flame” that we are not aware of.

Overcoming your illusion that I would die without you

When I tried to terminate my twin flame connection, I thought I could do it. Now that I think about it, I’m not mad at myself, I just realize it’s a good lesson. It was impossible to forget this connection. Because it came from a divine source, it was not something I could control or prove. I just needed to find myself, and trust my feelings and intuition. The divine order was deliberately confusing me. Because I needed to trust my intuition more when I found myself while I was so strong. But I wanted to escape. Because I approached everything logically.

As we move through the twin flame plane, we have many doubts about the course of this connection. When we look at the concept of twin flames as an ordinary relationship, we think of the future of the relationship. Will we be able to meet? Can we be together again? Such thoughts surround us.

As I progressed through the twin flame, I wondered over and over whether I had created everything in my head. It was a never-ending uncertainty. Later I realized this journey was not a destination. I was the destination. And it spread this journey over an unlimited period of self-discovery.

The main reason for the addiction in the twin flame journey was forgetting one’s potential. We wanted to forget about ourselves and get lost in the relationship's excitement, but we forgot why this relationship was given to us initially.

The messages I received from my heart and dreams were: Just trust your intuition, your heart. You receive guidance from both the world and your spirit. When you do these things and surrender, we will have the answers flow to you and you will be more faithful and stronger. You will be renewed, updated, and one step closer to your essence. When you get closer to your essence, you see that the connection between you and that person is not something earthly or external, it comes from within.

Learning to be ONE in two bodies

The twin flame journey is about learning to become one in two completely separate bodies. This brings with it fear on the world level. Because we have feelings, they do not accustom us. These intense emotions blow our minds and we fear losing our twin. How do we feel so good? And the illusion begins here. The main reason we develop a dependency on the other is to chase after our twin flame instead of discovering our strong feelings. We think it is their physical existence that makes us feel these feelings.

Here are some common factors that cause us to be obsessed with our twin flame.

Not showing self-respect:

But focusing on being “us” in the twin flame journey, the main purpose of which is to find yourself, causes us to move away from the purpose of the relationship. One of the biggest mistakes made when getting to the core of relationships is trying to be “us” without “me”. It is not a “we” consciousness to value the person in front of us more than ourselves, to look for them every day, to think even while working. This is hidden in low self-esteem under the name of “sacrifice”. That’s why on the twin flame journey we must first focus on our own body and soul. When we focus on ourselves, our soul contributes to the healing of both people.

Fear of loss

When we find something close to ourselves in someone, and as our bond with the person deepens, there is sometimes an unknown fear of loss. This situation is directly proportional to the instinct to protect that thing we have. As our communication with our twin flame decreases or our distance increases, we cannot suppress that fear of loss in us. Addiction is not just clinging to someone, it’s constantly pouring energy from ourselves into that person. Fear of loss is the last thing to think about on a twin flame journey. Because once we find ourselves, we can never lose again.

Fear of disappointments

Above all, the twin flame journey is looking at ourselves in the giant mirror. Here we encounter all our flaws, physically and psychologically. In our journey to ourselves, it is our shadows that carry us to the light. We experience more disappointments than happy days. Because we wake up to the fact that everything we knew before was an illusion. As we notice all the unconscious behaviors, we find ourselves in a much more effective relationship than a romantic one. Therefore, if we can still walk on this journey, it is because we have the power to overcome our disappointments.

After all my turbulent feelings, I stopped looking for answers on my own. I got out of the effect of my twin flame that made me happy like a chocolate bar and focused on myself. Because I aim for satisfaction with myself in the long run.

I have determined my focus to open up the things that I consider valuable in myself. And I took more ownership of my valuable features. I have accepted that my twin flame is my biggest mirror. Neither of us was perfect. Now I know that everything that I saw from that person and that bothered me is also in myself.

I draw my strength from my shadows ever since I realized the core factor of addiction is always external approval. This is where true limitlessness begins unless I’m afraid of myself and I don’t let those fears rule me. You are moving forward and it is as if you are walking on water. You don’t think I’m going to sink because you know there’s no such possibility.

When you overcome your romantic/sensual or psychological addiction to the twin flame:

• You understand what it means to be in the flow.
• You surrender to everything that is/is not in your life right now.
• You develop deep attention to not being blindly attached to anything.
• You say I have me, and I am safe. Everything I need is already inside of me.

I continue to admire the energy that I received from my twin flame and gave it in a balanced way. Because it teaches me to trust, understand my feelings, and let go of my fears.

It’s not the end of life if someone doesn’t if that person doesn’t love me, or if a situation doesn’t go my way. The sun will rise again and life will present its gifts again.

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Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about the mind, hard feelings, and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you can start your medium subscription from this link