Turning Point of the Twin Flame Journey: The Dark Night of the Soul

Are you ready to be reborn from where you lost yourself?

You know if you’ve been through the dark night of the soul. Your life suddenly becomes meaningless. All the windows close and you remember everything that brought you unhappiness in the past. The “dark night” metaphor here is not just an analogy. In the dark night of the soul, your entire existence becomes a field where the sun does not rise.

It sounds scary, but entering this transition period means that all the traumas and unhappiness you have experienced so far are now cleared from your soul. Even if a part of you raises your hand and says “I’m here” until today, you have never seen it. But now with this existential crisis, you better understand everything that no longer serves you.

The veil of illusion is lifted, they liberated you even though the reality is heavy.

My experience of the dark night of the soul coincided with the pandemic period. Already before the pandemic, I had become lonely after moving away from my current social circles.

My old self was being robbed, and it attracted me to mystical worlds. My crying attacks increased, I thought I was the trigger of bad things that happened to me. Then I followed that word that came up at least 5 times a day. “twin flame”.

My twin journey began with a deep existential crisis. You don’t know why. Not knowing why you’re so upset is getting even more frustrating. Every day you try to find a new meaning. It’s getting ridiculous to repeat old routines. Then, when I discovered the “rebirth” behind these feelings, a new area was formed in my brain. I realized I wasn’t crazy. It was just that the ego identity I had built up over the years had collapsed.

I don’t know which triggered each other. All I know is that as I enter the twin flame journey, all my perspectives on myself change with the dark night of the soul.

In this article, we will talk about the dark night of the soul, which seems like a curse but is actually a great reward as you progress on the twin flame journey.

How do twin flames feel the dark night of the soul?

For twin flames, the dark night of the soul does not differ from its normal meaning. The only difference is that a new layer of existential crisis is added to the experience of intense self-discovery like a twin flame. This causes these two experiences to intertwine.

When you are infinitely attached to everything outside of yourself, you enter the dark night of the soul. You have deprived your soul of the love and compassion it requires, so whenever you feel helpless, you cling to an external cause that can save you. This weakens your relationship with yourself. Even if a part of you says, “I can help you,” you never look at your own strengths.

The main purpose of the twin flame journey is to get closer to yourself. It is like yin and yang on both sides. But they always look for themselves outside. If you treat your twin flame like an ordinary love partner, you will continue to carry on your old habits and continue to distance yourself quickly.

Likewise, if you make your twin the center of your life and think that you cannot live without them, you see they are quickly running away from you, and you will be even more unhappy. The result is a huge existential crisis.

You deny your own worth by placing your twin, who is already the mirror of your soul, on a higher level than yourself. The energy density that they cannot stand in you is this feeling of familiarity.

They run away to get away from the thought that they can’t be apart from you. You approach it quickly, thinking that you cannot live without it.

This is the focus of the runner-chaser dynamic. So when you approach yourself and mirror their soul, something changes because you have already accepted that you are one here. You no longer have to chase what is inside you because you love yourself.

A brand new state of being born from destruction.

Think of that unhappiness that builds up inside you as you chase your twin flame. While not every chase results in frustration, twin flames go through many breakups along their journey. These moments of rupture continue to occur when they are not purely aligned with their true selves. For this reason, the state of depression, which we call the dark night of the soul, preserves its existence in our lives.

When I discovered my worth, I stopped wondering about the other side. I started pouring all the love and healing inside me into myself. And that healed me. I felt refreshed in my body and mind. It was as if I hadn’t had all those painful nights, hadn’t woken up many times throughout the night with sadness. As I understood “why” I exist in this journey, I saw the sun in the dark night of the soul.

I had all the answers. I had hundreds of dreams, and countless synchronicities, but my rational mind could not accept them. When I left my rational world, my process of creating a new identity began. I also faced the shadow sides of my twin flame, which reflects all the potential in myself, good and bad. Being able to see these shadow sides opened up a brighter space for me too.

Right now I wake up filled with a deeper sense of vitality than where it all ends. I know who I don’t want to be and that leads me indirectly to who I want to be. I do not forget those days of deep unhappiness. Because we need to remember how we got out of there strong.

My ego keeps talking all the time. Sometimes I still believe it. But then I remember it had to do it. The ego is trying to keep us safe. And the twin flame journey is one of the most dangerous things the ego can experience because it is full of uncertainties.

As a result, it is difficult to accept the painful feelings that arise in the dark night of the soul, the childhood traumas, and the feeling of hopelessness that never goes away. But once you get through, these vulnerable parts of you are no longer a danger to you.

If these pains seem unbearable to you and have affected your life intensely, of course, the most basic thing to do here is to get help from a professional.

Your body will always resist, while your soul will bear these evolving challenges. But just observing the ego on the way to becoming “one” with yourself is the greatest freedom.

I turned all my addiction to my twin flame into adoration for myself. I plunged into my shadows and took responsibility for my recovery. Because I know no one will come to my rescue. Only I can do this.

Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about the mind, hard feelings and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you can start your medium subscription from this link: