How to overcome mental abuse and physical abuse

I think we are ignoring the basics of life, and yet struggling with everything. Things happen in life, and some of them are unforgettable.

Being a mentor, I have noticed the growth of youngsters very carefully, and I have seen many things. Still, one noticeable fact is that the present generation of kids is facing a lot of problems.

Some problems They’ve created themselves and the rest are natural. But why they are creating problems for themselves? If you can remember every event of your life, then you can easily infer that most of the issues you’re facing because of the steps that you’ve taken in your young age. And some because of something wrong happened in your childhood.

Regrets that you have? And everything you are proud of is the reflection of, What sort of stuff you have done in your young and at an immature age.

When I think about myself, I can see a lot of things that are still troubling me due to the mistakes that I have made in my young age. At that time, I was clueless about my errors and results. But now, they sometimes torture me in terms of mental stress.

It’s obvious to think, only the one who has endured the same pain can understand the pain of others, that’s fully true. I am trying to write something that will lighten you from the pain that you are bearing on your shoulders from years and suffering from that every single day.

I have not gone through many things, but I have met people who have overcomes their deepest mental pains.

You know that the suicide rate has increased in recent years and mostly teenager takes this wrong step, why?

Because almost, all of them carried the wrong belief that they had an imperfect life, on that bases they take that false step.

What is the perfect life? I’ll discuss that later in my next article.

I know everyone makes mistakes in their life, but suiciding for that, is too much.

I want you to know this, every mistake in this world can be corrected if you want to correct it. Underline this.

I am not talking about significant crimes that someone has committed in his life. But it’s about cheating people, bullying, sharing your secrets and some small stuff that you did for fun, but later they turned into a severe drag.

When we do something by your wish, even that can turn into drag later. Like, sharing stuff with others, kissing anyone, having intimate relationships with someone and sharing a secret of your life with someone you don’t trust.

You can relate these things to the life of “Hanna baker ” fictional character of 13 reasons why. Everything she has done for fun ruined her life in all possible ways. Even after her death, she was not proven innocent.

These all are not such significant issues for someone, but these can affect your life seriously and can make you pay.

How?

You may have heard of molestation cases of kids. They regret those molestations that were happened with them in the past or forced on them.

In these cases, kids are entirely innocent, yet they regret their past, why?

Don’t feel harsh; it’s the real fact that some kids have fun while they get abused; that’s the reason they never share anything with their parents.

It’s not because they are enjoying it, but they don’t know what going on because of their innocence, they just take it as a game.

The reason for this real, not every time molestation carried by force, sometimes the molester is the close family person or friend or a person with whom kid feel comfortable and believes that he’ll not harm him.

By training students of classes 6 to 10, I have learned a lot of things about kids behaviour. Nowadays, kids are well aware of everything (in terms of nudity and s*x) from a very young age due to the availability of content everywhere, in books and on the internet.

And once they know these things, they just start experimenting without knowing the consequences. They hide these practices from their parents because they know deep down they are doing something wrong.

What’s the point of mentioning all this? The reason I am sharing this; if a child face molestation, he regrets that in the future, when he realised what happened to him.

A kid never regrets all kind of sexual abuse; you need to understand this if a girl sexually abuses a boy, he’ll not regret that until something terrible happens to him. On the other hand, if a boy sexually abuses him, he’ll regret that badly in future, when he gets the awareness of himself.

In girls case — it’s quite different they regret their molestation badly because they are more sensitive than boys. And the boy who is being sexually abused by any women or girl will never report this to anyone because of the sense of pleasure he is experiencing.

Movies like “THE CULPABLE” (the movie based on the sexually abuse done by fathers in the catholic church) and “Satyamev Jayate” (a tv show by Amir Khan). These two completely explains, why? sexual abuse that was done forcefully get noticed? these also reveal that in some cases, the molester was a very close person to the kid, that close, even kids parents don’t believe kid, when he reported about his molestation to them.

In some cases, parents try to hide, what happened with their kid and remain quite because of their insecurities.

This is not the story of kids only, women get raped by their husbands, and many other things happen with people, which broke us from inside in many ways.

The point that I am trying to mention here is? We all are abused at some point of life, mentally and physically, and we regret that badly, from above we may seem happy, but deep down, we are broken.

Almost all of us have pain that is unbearable for us, but still, we are carrying it, instead of letting it go!

I have seen some kids who never smiles and never shares, what happened with them. They are afraid of everything and fears every person, even the one who tries to be gentle with them is a foe for them.

Life of these kids became completely shattered, and only a few of them able to raise themselves, rest others just suffer entire life because of someone else mistake.

Not only, molestation but certain other things are forcing you in the well of regret, and the one who was responsible for all your suffering is enjoying his life.

Some other things that cause regret are? Your relationships, your decisions and some events of your life which were messed up because of you.

You need to underline this, Nothing change by regretting.

How to overcome your regrets?

1. The first thing is acceptance.

You need to accept this, it was entirely your fault because of that you got into that trouble and now whatever happened you’re not going to blame anyone else for your sufferings.

I know it’s hard to accept because our instinct keeps on telling us that someone else is responsible our sufferings.

Once you agree on that, then there are possibilities to get free rid of your regrets. Otherwise, you’ll always suffer, what has happened years ago.

Something happened years ago, but in your mind, it’s happening on the daily bases, because of that you’re entirely disturbed, even your decisions and behaviour are affected too. And people who have concerns for you are getting troubled by you because of your behaviour.

The feeling of hate that you have acquired because of that “particular event” is growing every single day, but you must know this; its impossible to do something now because that person is not in your reach.

I have studied stories of people, who have destroyed their own lives for taking revenge from others, not by hurting the doer but by harming themselves.

Once I was reading Wikipedia out of curiosity, and I found out this, it’s fake or real. I don’t know?

The point you need to underline is, you don’t have to take revenge at cost of your life. Above screenshot clearly explains that.

2. You need to release that your life is more important than wasting it for nothing.

If you are seeking revenge, you are just wasting your life, time, and energy. Instead of that, you must do something productive that can help you grow and others too.

Taking revenge and destroying your life both are just waste because you’ll never witness what happens to that person, who has done something wrong with you.

My mom always says these words to me, when you are doing something it’s your karma, and when it comes back to you that’s your fate.

She adds to this, it’s automatic, seeking revenge is just waste of time perhaps you must wait for the right time because time has best answer to give, which you do have.

3. Leave all things to God?

Whatever happened with you and why it happened, you don’t know the reasons, but if you leave it on God than for sure, you’ll get the answer.

Leaving on God means, you are not suffering that thing anymore, and even on bypassing wrongdoer, your expressions are not changing.

You don’t have to overthink about it because the more you’ll remember the more you will feel less worthy of your life. In a word, just leave it, because sometimes you can’t do anything, that’s true.

4. Add spirituality to your life.

The best form of spirituality is, realising your worth and powers. Only because we have forgotten our powers, we are suffering everything.

Once you realise your true potential, I guarantee, you’ll never suffer anything in your life.

Everything happens to you happens because of some reason, that’s true, I used to avoid lines, but now I know that everything seems meaningful when you wait for the right time.

Conclusion;

Wait for the right time and do not suffer anything because somethings things happen because they happen.

Stay blessed and stay safe.