PERFECT LIVING

How to Manifest your Perfect Husband In Real Life

An In-Depth Guide.

One of the greatest problems facing young women today is believing they will find love online. This looks like desperate swiping this way and that way in your jammies by yourself on the sofa, weeping while drunk. The solution is to get outside meet men and talk with them, in the real world.

You are not a Robot

I first noticed a problem with human social skills in the dating world after coming out of a lengthy relationship in my twenties. As I am old, when the relationship had started, there was no online dating, when it ended the concept was in full swing and I had been left behind… or so I had thought. The problem of online dating persists because we are in a smartphone generation that has been socially dumbed down. The problem of a dumbed-down social dating world persists as women indulge men in hooking up with them simply because they were selected on a phone when they were in a weakened state. Pathetic.

The Dangers of Online Dating:

One. Wasting time. You are busy. Do you want children? Are you twenty-eight? You don't have time to entertain these people. Imagine finally being with your perfect guy and remembering all those unnecessary walks of shame, that you spent your precious time on.

Two. Perverts, incels, etc. There are plenty of freaks who get all of their sexual satisfaction from pornography and the echo chamber of other non-sexed uglies online. Members of online groups of young men consider themselves unable to attract women sexually and identify with views that are hostile toward women (Kutchinsky, 2019). If only they knew they could just be nice and go outside, muster up some charisma and a few bucks, get themselves a date. Since their minds and hearts have been so damaged by a whole lifetime on the internet, they are stuck to their phones waiting to abuse you.

“When I was at my darkest point, I wrote a song ..with lines in it like ‘suck on my …, as I blow out your guts’. I know it’s no excuse but I wrote it partly to impress a girl I was talking to online.”-James incel interviewed for the BBC (Kutchinsky, 2019).

Three. Future unforeseen judgment. So let’s assume that online dating works and you find a great guy. What’s he thinking about you now that he’s found you online? Am I her Friday Guy? How many online dates does she go on? You see, this world has two sets of rules, one for men and one for women. Men do not like women to have this big long sexual past. We can just put our photo online and say “I am fascinated with south Asia, attending large community events and working out regularly” and get hundreds of replies immediately. They know this, and it makes them wonder if you are just a big internet slut leaving them to feel not special at all. Fair? no. Don’t cry about it in a feminist rant either. Focus now.

Four. Low self-worth. Men are looking for sex. The sooner you give it to them the sooner they lose interest. A stereotype on point. If you give it to them immediately, they will assume you have given it to every guy on the internet immediately, deeming you less attractive for long-term dating. You will be categorized in the sex now and possibly every third Friday after the hockey game section of their mind, and nothing more. Where does that leave you, honey? How many times are you going to do this to yourself?

Five. Disease. Dating apps have caused a rise in sexually transmitted diseases. Sunshine Coast University Hospital’s clinic director of sexual health Dr. Kuong Taing agrees that in Australia, disease rates have continued to rise for years, and they are not expected to stop (Cassidy, 2019).

We have a very young, mobile population who move quite quickly, and that itself increases the spread of STIs. Another thing is social applications used to contact and access sexual partners … I’m sure you’ve heard of Tinder and Grindr.”-Dr Kuong Taing (Cassidy, 2019)

When you are online dating you are spending time texting with a stranger who could be the Mountain Man from Deliverance (see supporting video below). You are getting fatter as you stare into your glowing cell phone at home alone chatting with some loser who types “wsup? to you once every three weeks. You have cat hair on your pajamas and underneath your bitten fingernails. This is what dating apps have done to you and your generation. Pathetic.

Dating apps and social media affect your mental wellness journey to peak excellence. It removes you from the real world of attraction, of having to keep social skills and your appearance sharp. One of the biggest changes I have observed over my 100 year lifetime is that we gals will just give it away now, don't we? Bing! Mountain Man sent a message, it's a dick pic. You get in that taxi to his house right away, and you pay for it too. Then in the morning, you wonder why you are lonely and staring into your phone again, swiping and shoving a donut into your face while walking home. Pathetic.

Real Men Exist in the Real World

The solution is to delete all dating apps and head out into the real world, strategically, to meet a real man. If you are actively seeking out a new relationship, want to be serious, and have a nice life with a great guy.

Steps to Manifest your Perfect Guy:

One. Set the intention. Decide what kind of life you would like and what kind of guy that you really want. Are you a strict vegetarian whose been dreaming of a super-fit Indian guy in your mind for the last ten years? Did you have an alcoholic dad who spent his life in the casino? Acknowledge your needs! Go ahead and make a list. For example, you know you want… Kind to animals, Indian accent, dark complexion, a strict vegetarian, fit AF. Hard worker. Doesn't drink. Doesn't gamble. Start there. Set the standard. Don't waste your time on Mountain Man texting you. He’s puke and he’s distracting you from manifesting your true destiny. Also, stringing along with a perfectly great Aussie surfer who popped up on the app and you've been light dating, is not nice. He eats hot dogs every day he’s allergic to cats. You know he is not your dream-fit Indian husband so let him go, even if he's fun.

Two. Look good and be sweet. Now that you know what you want, yes you have standards! You will not pay attention to any man that does not meet your reasonable profile, because you are focused now. You have to be what that high-quality attractive man would want. Every day you risk meeting your perfect manifested husband and you need to take that seriously. Are you a mess? Do you have a job? Are you talentless, trashy, anxiety-ridden, making muckbang videos on social media? The perfect blonde skinny baseball player you've been wanting doesn’t actually like that in women. He wants a sweet gal next door with healthy hair who likes to barbeque on Saturday afternoons and hump on Saturday nights. Where are you on Saturday nights? Home cleaning cat hair off your jammies? Eating? Texting? Mountain Man? Stop! Brainstorm a list! What do rural type tall skinny blonde baseball player guys like in a gal? Be that gal! Now is the time to clean yourself up and be what your perfect manifest husband would want. Cute, hot, somewhat fit.. healthy hair, smile yes smile, be nice. Be smart. Be clean. Like baseball. Look good in baseball stuff. Perfect the art of barbeque hosting. Drive a pickup truck while wearing tight jeans. Take care of your appearance and image to what your perfect guy would want.

Three. Be there. Waitressing in a nightclub in Tokyo? Fit Indian Guy is not there. Teaching English in an Ecuadorian village? Skinny Blonde Baseball Man is not there. You must go to where they are. Are you working ten-hour days in a nail salon in the gay village of a major American city? How is your destined future husband going to find you? In the Blonde Baseball Man case, move to middle America, the prairies of Canada, etc. Think! You can teach preschool there the same as you can in Ecuador. If you want to settle down then it's time to settle down. Get a part-time job in the evenings and weekends cashiering at the baseball stadium, put your tight jeans on, honey, it's go-time.

Four. Manage the hunt. Now that you work at the animal shelter in the south Asian community of your city, and have a gym membership across the street, and an apartment above the gym…you find yourself surrounded by fit athletic vegetarian Indian guys. Rejoice! You may be tempted to just run around and hump every man in sight. No! Control yourself. Firstly, in tight cultural communities they all talk. So as soon as you sleep with one of them, they will all know. That would put you back in the same situation as Online Dating Danger #3, future unforeseen judgment. Sleep with none of them, yet but be sure to focus on step #2 to Manifesting your Perfect Guy, look good and be sweet. Obviously, since you are so sweet and hot, and at the gym all the time, they are gonna start coming at you, even in this age of social media I think the men are not dead, they will smile at you and talk to you! You will sharpen your social skills with each one, laughing lightly, talking about basic normal things. Never make the first move beyond smiling and being approachable. Never call them first, only call them back. No social media!

Five. Select. Now that we have the on-the-surface list firmed up, and we have several guys that meet the basic criteria. You'll want to spend some time getting to know people in the community. Listen to the gossip. Do some light no sex dating. Once you've boiled down to your top three favorites you're going to be able to rule out pretty quickly, which is going to be your predestined man. Which one is most obsessed with you? Puppy doggish in love with you? That's the one. Why? The most loyal with the sweetest personality is the winner. Not the one that you think is the hottest or with the most money. Select. Exclusively date. Add sex. Rejoice! PS. You're going to really concentrate on making it the best sex he’s ever had and knows he ever will have to really seal that obsessed-in-love loyal feeling he has.

Six. Commit. Get married, and be nice. Embrace his family. Things not going well? Support. Remember even your dream perfect husband is not a perfect human and neither are you. Keep in mind when he’s being annoying or crazy that you too are sometimes annoying and crazy. Let’s also keep in mind marriage is about the marriage not about the wedding. The wedding is a party. Marriage is life and we know life is not a party. Focus on what's important and be the strong one as required, while still letting him lead (or think he's leading).

If you’ve ever found yourself picking off your nail polish, sitting in your sweats with an empty carton of Ben & Jerry’s, wondering, “Where are all the good men, and why isn’t a gorgeous one standing shirtless in my kitchen mixing me up a pomegranate mojito?” I hate to tell you this, but it’s your own fault.-Patti Stanger, Millionaire Matchmaker (Stanger, 2009)

Now Get Out There

You have seen that online dating is a huge waste of time and that you must consciously and officially decide what type of life you want to live, and what type of man you want to live it with. You know that perverts and incels lurk on dating apps so it's better to focus your energy on looking good at all times and developing a sweet personality that will attract your perfect match, IRL. Among other undesirable nasty outcomes, online dating can bring low self-esteem and an increased risk of disease. Instead, place yourself in locations and environments where you are more likely to meet your hot new man, in person. For increased joy, this coming winter, embrace the old-fashioned way of meeting men known as human social contact and enjoy all the natural benefits of this fine forgotten art.

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References

Cassidy, T. (2019, April 4). ABC News (Australia). Retrieved from ABC Sunshine Coast: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-04-05/are-dating-apps-like-tinder-contributing-to-the-rise-in-stis/10969992

Kutchinsky, S. (2019, July 15). Sex and Relationships | Docs. Retrieved from BBC: https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/45bdcd7a-1cb1-4ad1-a3e0-ebc2a05243ac

Stanger, P. (2009). Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate. San Francisco: Atira Books.

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