How to Make a Woman Squirt

Turns out I’ve been doing it for years

I discovered I could squirt on a road trip with my husband and our two kids.

Traveling with a baby is always tense. Doing fifteen hours in a single day with an infant and a toddler is not for the faint of heart.

We loaded our minivan and left early in the morning and it was getting dark by the time we got to our hotel room.

I just wanted to rest but I was feeling so tense from the drive. I wanted to ease all that physical tension I had built up.

I could’ve fucked all that stress away, but we were sharing a room with two little kids. The only grown-up time I could have would be solo time. And every busy mom knows that one of the best places to jill off in peace is the shower.

When I stepped in the shower, I realized it wouldn’t be the experience I’m used to. There was a fixed showerhead instead of a handheld one. I wouldn’t be able to take it down and get myself off with it like I did at home.

So, I let the water run and went old school, fingers only. I didn’t have a lot of time, so I did a quick job. No romancing myself, I just stood at one end of the bathtub and rubbed my clit until I came.

When I had an orgasm, I felt warm liquid running down my thighs.

I was completely shocked. I had no idea I could squirt.

It wasn’t like the squirting I’d seen in porn. It wasn’t gushy and explosive.

And I realized in that moment that not only had I squirted before, but I’d been doing it for years.

Those times all happened in the shower, too. My parents had a handheld showerhead in their bathroom, and when I was 14 I discovered just how good it felt to aim the jet of water right between my legs.

I became a big fan of long showers because riding that sensation would lead to some of the best orgasms.

Those shower sessions always ended with a warm sensation around my thighs. It was different than any of the warmth I felt when I got myself off in my bed.

I was young, naive, and porn hadn’t gotten all squirty yet. So, I just assumed it was a coincidence. Someone must have been running the tap in the kitchen and it messed with the temperature of the water.

I realize now how improbable it would be for that to happen hundreds of times, just as I’m coming, but that’s the only explanation that made sense to me so I didn’t question it.

Whenever we moved into a new place, I made sure there was a handheld showerhead. That was a non-negotiable. If it didn’t have one, we’d hit a hardware store and I’d make Mr. Austin install it on the first day.

And into adulthood, I’d shower, get off, feel the warmth, and still assume it’s something to do with the plumbing.

It was only about ten years after I started masturbating in the shower, standing in that hotel bathroom, that I discovered it had more to do with my plumbing.

That explained the warmth on my thighs. But it left me with another question. Why was it so situational? If I could squirt, how come I had never done it in bed and never experienced it with a partner?

There was nothing special with the way I rubbed my clit that day. I must’ve rubbed it that same exact way before.

The one thing that was different is that I was standing. Something about the extra gravitational pull or just being upright must cause it. That must be why I never messed up any of my sheets.

I held on to that theory — that I could only squirt while standing — for almost ten years. Then, I read an article by Shannon Ashley.

Surprise Squirting

In the article, she challenges the assumption that straight sex should be focused on penetration. It leaves her less than satisfied because her favorite way to orgasm with a partner is to have him rub his cock against her clit until she comes.

I sent the article to my husband. He told me it’s something he really likes doing, too. So naturally, that night, before all the penetrative stuff, he rubbed his cock against my clit until I came.

Except I didn’t just come. I squirted.

I was completely shocked. It wasn’t our first time using that move, but it was the first time it got that result.

I was also embarrassed. Squirting by myself in the shower is one thing. Splashing the sheets in front of someone else is a whole other experience.

So, I guess I didn’t need gravity after all. But I was still confused. The cock-on-clit routine never made me squirt before, and it never has since the first time it did.

I got on the case. I started reading other people’s accounts of squirting and checking out tips and guides on how to squirt. Most of the recommendations involved using g-spot stimulation to orgasm. But all my squirting had come from clitoral stimulation, and Mr. Austin had given me plenty of G-spot orgasms over the years and we never got that result.

In the end, it was a porn site that helped me crack the code.

I bought a subscription to EroticFilms so I could get my hands on some quality indie porn. Turns out it also has a few instructional videos.

One day, the site featured a video called Kenneth Play’s Guide to Squirting. I watched it with my husband, hoping we’d get some useful information.

The video was educational, but it was also quite a turn on. Watching an attentive guy repeatedly make a woman squirt is just plain arousing.

When it was over, we put away the laptop and got frisky. When I was ready, we put what we had just learned into action. And it worked. I squirted. And squirted. And squirted again.

The technique was so reliable I squirted six times in a row.

How to Squirt

If you want to make your partner squirt or you want to teach your partner how to make you squirt, here’s the technique that worked for me.

Waterproof It

If you’re going to squirt, you’ll need a little extra preparation. You’ve heard jokes about the wet spot after sex, but it’s nothing compared to what happens after you squirt — especially if you do it multiple times in a row.

We threw down a blanket before we got started, but it wasn’t enough. Some of it still soaked through. So, put down some absorbent towels that will be up for the job. And if you plan to make this a regular thing, you should consider investing in a waterproof blanket.

Don’t Skip the Foreplay

You might be excited to squirt or make your partner squirt, but don’t jump into it too quickly. Make sure you touch each other, make out, and ease into the sexual stimulation first. Good G-spot stimulation requires arousal, and you won’t get that without some warmup.

Squirting’s also an orgasmic activity, and orgasms are easier to come by when you’re feeling comfortable. Foreplay helps with that, too.

Rock Her with Your Fingers

One of the biggest tips I learned from Kenneth Play is that the “come hither” motion isn’t the most effective way to squirt.

Instead of inserting the fingers and rubbing them back and forth, or pushing fingers in and out, try inserting two fingers, curving them upward (assuming she’s lying on her back) and rock your hand up and down.

It’s hard to describe, but basically, it’s all wrist action. Your fingers don’t have to move. Your arm doesn’t have to push your fingers in and out. Most of the motion should be coming from your wrist joint. The rocking motion will be a lot like jabbing your fingers upward.

When Mr. Austin slid his fingers into me and started rocking them, I could really feel the difference. It was different than the way his fingers normally rubbed against my G-spot. It was more pleasurable. When I came and squirted, I encouraged him to go for more. One of the reasons we went seven times isn’t because I wanted to squirt that often — it’s because I wanted more of that finger action.

Bear Down

The other tip I learned from Kenneth Play is to bear down with my pelvic muscles while I’m about to come. It’s almost like doing a reverse kegel.

Getting fingered while bearing down mostly felt the same, though it was a little bit more intense. Mr. Austin, though, is the one who could really tell the difference. He told me it felt like I was a lot firmer and a lot tighter around his fingers.

It’s not essential. Rocking fingers will make me squirt without it, but bearing down does make it more likely.

Don’t Go Too Hard

When you see squirting in porn, it often comes at the end of some hard, intense fucking or fingering. But you don’t have to go so forcefully.

We overdid it at first. Those seven G-spot orgasms left me feeling really sore because the firm, repeated contact was just too much.

So, go easy and take your time. You don’t have to jab hard into her. You can start with a comfortable pace and just a little pressure. If you need to, you can adjust and go more intensely, but if it’s not needed you’re better off without it. I ended up feeling like my pussy had been bruised internally, which is not the outcome you want.

Wet and Wild Fun

I still haven’t fully figured out the whole squirting thing. It’s possible to squirt from clitoral stimulation, but I haven’t figure out how to do that with a partner (other than that one time with a cock against my clit).

But G-spot stimulation has been reliable for me, at least with the right approach. So, if you want to give squirting a try, work on figuring out the right technique. On the giving end, that means working the fingers the right way (rocking, not rubbing or fingering). On the receiving end, that means bearing down at the right moment.

And if that doesn’t work, there’s always the showerhead.

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And If you want to hear more squirting discussion, check out the My Squriting Journey (And How to Squirt) episode of my dirty and intimate sex podcast, Pillow Talk With Emma Austin!

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