How to Help Your Own Damn Self & Be Your Own Therapist
Or use therapy to your advantage
It dawned on me that a lot of my mental healing during therapy came from myself while talking to the therapist. The therapist served as a guide asking me questions that gave the answers to problems I had.
When I realized I could fix my own damn problems by simply speaking my thoughts aloud, I looked at my therapist and thought:
“What do I need you for?”
I can ask myself those questions and heal my own mind instead of wasting time and money on a psychologist. Don’t get me wrong, psychologists can really help. Heck, I'm looking for a new one to help guide me. But nothing is better than learning from yourself.
Excersize learning yourself at every level as soon as possible.
How?
Step 1
Practice what you like and what you don’t like.
What if you like the color blue because your brother likes the color blue. When you know you don’t like it. Knowing what you like and do not like no one can come to you with any bull shit that you don’t align with.
Step 2
Take the time to learn what you will do and what you will not do.
Because if you learn after the fact, it’ll be too late. If you don’t take the time to learn yourself, you will question yourself in an unhealthy way which will result in bad self-esteem
Step 3
Question yourself properly
If you are not 100% sure, ask for advice and if the advice they give you is not good. That’s a learning curve, at least you learned what doesn’t work for you
Ask yourself why you think what you think or do what you did until the answer feels true and sincere.
Journal until the answer makes you feel confident and comfortably the closest thing to who you are.
So if you’re depressed or upset and don’t want to talk to anyone. That’s ok…
like that Monica song…Sometimes, it’s just one of those days:
…but there is a healthy way to do it. Lights and sunshine make you feel better. Make sure the lights are on or let the sunshine through the windows while you turn off your phone and
Journal,
journal,
journal,
journal until you figure your own damn self out…
