How to Get in Touch With Your Inner Dirty Girl
10 ways to feel sexier and less inhibited
Do you ever watch porn and feel jealous?
Like, mostly aroused. But still a little bit envious too?
I definitely do. Not just because I want to get eaten out, fucked, and double penetrated. It’s also because I want the attitude so many porn performers have.
They’re so fucking uninhibited. Even when they play shy girls, you can tell they’re extremely confident in front of the camera and comfortable in their bodies.
I can’t help but admire that.
And it makes me want to be the same. To be as dirty and naughty as I want to be, without second-guessing myself.
Whenever I come close to it, it’s one of the best feelings in the world.
It’s not just about being turned on. It’s more than that. It’s about being so horny that you could do all sorts of nasty stuff in bed.
That’s when you start fantasizing about doing the kinds of things that could earn you a reputation. It might even make you feel bold enough to go ahead and earn that reputation anyway.
Feeling like a dirty girl gives me an intense sexual energy that feels amazing even if I don’t end up doing anything with it.
But I almost always do something with it. And the sex I have when I’m being the dirtiest girl I can be is some of the most pleasurable and satisfying I ever experience.
When you’re being a dirty girl, you fuck in a way that makes you feel like a hot piece of ass. You do things that will make him remember you and what you did to him for years and years to come.
You’re claiming a spot in his spank bank. And just knowing that makes you feel even better about yourself.
But mostly, getting in touch with your inner dirty girl just makes you feel brave and uninhibited. You get to act the way you really want to, without letting your self-consciousness get in the way for once.
That feeling isn’t just for pornstars and badass girls. There are lots of ways you can get in that dirty mindset too. These are my favorite ones.
Wear Lingerie Under Your Clothes
Wearing something sexy underneath your clothes is surprisingly effective because it works on so many levels.
Knowing that you’re wearing something sexy is a constant reminder that your mind is in some filthy places. And remembering that will encourage you to have even dirtier thoughts.
It’s also really fun to have a sexy little secret. To know that you’re doing something just a tiny bit naughty and no one has any clue.
And it feels really sexually empowering to know that you’re ready for anything. If you decided to have a fling, a quickie, or even fuck a stranger, you wouldn’t have to hesitate for even one second because of the underwear you’ve got on.
Even if that’s just a fantasy, knowing you’re dressed for the part is going to make those naughty daydreams feel more vivid and exciting.
Then there’s the big reveal. At the end of the day, when you take off your clothes, you’ll be stripping into something really attractive. It’s going to feel like you’re slipping into your dirty girl uniform, which is going to give you a little confident thrill.
Get Flirty
Flirting is a really good way to feel more attractive. It also encourages you to loosen up and be a little less inhibited.
Flirting flips a switch inside you. It lets your playful side out. It makes you present yourself differently. It gives you permission to act low-key horny.
Pay attention to the reactions you get, too. It will make you feel wanted, desired, and more attractive.
Flirting with your partner is an extremely good way of doing this. I’m not knocking it at all — it works.
But if I’m going to be honest, I’ve felt my dirtiest and naughtiest after flirting with other people. There’s just something thrilling about getting a little bit intimate and being your sexier self with someone new.
Every time, I took that energy back to the bedroom. I’d suck my husband off more enthusiastically. I’d bend over and spread my legs for him. I let him have his way with my ass. All because a few flirty interactions put me in an extremely dirty mood.
Edge Yourself
It can be hard to explain the appeal of edging to someone who hasn’t done it.
Edging yourself means you’re stimulating yourself until you’re getting close to an orgasm. And just when you’re about to come, you stop.
It doesn’t sound like it should be enjoyable or pleasurable, but it is.
Edging gives you lots of sexual and physical frustration. It leaves you feeling pent up and desperate for a release.
It makes you crave the orgasms you came so close to giving yourself.
And it feels fucking incredible, because it results in high levels of arousal and some powerful sexual energy.
You’ll spend the rest of your day with sex on the mind and desire you can practically feel in your pussy.
You’ll be bursting at the seams with frustration, and that’s going to keep your mind in the gutter and going to some naughty places you never expected it to.
When you do finally get to do something about your sexual frustration, you’ll be a lot more eager, a lot less inhibited, and you’ll get to have really fucking strong orgasms too. It’s the perfect reward for a dirty girl.
Watch the Right Kind of Porn
Porn is really entertaining, but it’s also the perfect way to help you get in the right state of mind.
It lets you watch dirty girls at their dirtiest, which is a great way to get inspired.
If you can find porn that meets all your personal kinks, it will also make you so horny that you can’t help but switch into dirty girl mode.
For me, there are a few things that do it perfectly. Porn with dominant men with caring attitudes really gets me going, especially if they do lots of dirty talking. Throw in a girl who looks really cute and acts kind of innocent and that completes the picture.
Throw some anal in there and you’ve got me slipping my hand down my pants before I can even think about it.
So, find whatever turns you on the most and indulge in a bit of it.
But if you want to get in your dirtiest mindset possible, you should go a step further. Watch the most extreme porn you’re into.
Don’t go outside of your personal comfort zone — it should still turn you on a lot. But go up to its filthiest edge.
It could be double penetration porn or gangbang videos. It might be hardcore bondage and rough sex. Maybe it’s sloppy finishes and messy creampies. Or extreme hentai videos that suck you in so much you forget to read the subtitles.
Whatever kind of porn you enjoy but are the most reluctant to admit you watch, that’s the stuff you should binge if you want to make yourself feel like a Grade A dirty girl.
Use Wearable Sex Toys
Wearable sex toys are kind of like the lingerie thing. It’s a sexy little secret that no one knows you have, but that you can’t forget about for even one second.
The only difference is that these will actually stimulate you sexually and keep you physically aroused.
Walking around and trying to act casual while you know there’s a buttplug planted firmly in your ass is a great way to do this.
Ben-wa balls, too. They shift when you move around, which stimulates your pussy internally and will keep you highly aroused throughout your entire day.
Arousal oils and gels are fun, too. They’re even more discreet. All you need to do is dab a little bit on and then you can feel your clit throbbing or tingling, which will keep you focused on your pussy and thinking of all the things you want done to it.
If you want to get your partner involved, you can also wear an app-controlled sex toy and let them take control of it.
That works the best, because now it’s not just a sexy secret — it’s a sexy conspiracy. You’re being naughty with someone else while keeping it all very discreet.
That alone should make you feel like a very dirty girl. But it’s also the most arousing option. Every wearable sex toy will turn you on, but none of them will compare to how horny you’ll feel when you get hit with a surprise jolt of pleasure.
Make Your Dirty Talk Incredibly Filthy
I really struggle with this one. Even after recording and releasing some audio porn and hosting a very sexually explicit podcast, I have a hard time being super filthy when I’m fucking.
But the closer I get to it, the better I feel about myself.
I beam with dirty girl pride. That amazing feeling of knowing you just went there — that you said or did something you’ll be blushing about in the light of day.
Any dirty talk is going to make you feel hotter. But if you want to feel really dirty, you’ve got to get nasty.
Don’t just enjoy your partner’s cock — start begging for it.
Instead of asking him to fuck you harder, tell him to pound you like you were his little fuckdoll.
When you want him to fuck your ass, tell him to push his cock in your tight little hole.
Try to vocalize all those horny phrases that go through your head but never quite make it out of your mouth.
If you’re too shy to do it when you’re fucking, do it during your pregame. Amp up the filth over text. Be as crass and dirty as you want to be. Be so explicit that he’ll be eager to fuck the dirty girl who’s been blowing up his phone.
Act Sweet and Innocent
This sounds a little bit counterintuitive, but it works.
In fact, it’s because it’s counterintuitive that it works so well.
If you want to really feel like a dirty girl, you should dress up in something cute and innocent. You should act sweet, shy, or bubbly.
That way, every single naughty thing you do is going to seem even filthier. The dirty talk is going to sound even more explicit coming out of your cute mouth. The dirty sex acts and uninhibited sex positions you pull off are going to seem extra naughty when you look like an adorable angel.
It’s all about making the contrast work in your favor. The sweeter you look, the dirtier you’ll feel when you get naughty.
Put your hair up in pigtails or buns. Slip on a cute sundress. Wear knee-high socks or thigh-highs. Try on a headband with cat ears.
Whatever your style, lean into the cute version of it before you get dirty.
Pull Out the Pornstar Moves
There are probably a few sex moves that you consider porn moves.
They’re things you see when you’re watching porn. Maybe you even jill off to it. But they’re not part of your sex rotation. They seem like they’re either too much work or too little payoff to do regularly.
Getting titfucked is like that for me.
It’s really cool and hot to watch on screen, but it’s pretty low on the list of sex moves I want to do.
When I do pull it out, though, doing a porn move makes me feel like a pornstar. Lubing up my tits and pumping them up and down my partner’s cock makes me feel like a really dirty girl because I’m doing something I normally only see in hardcore scenes.
It’s still not one of my favorites. I don’t get a lot of stimulation from doing it. But getting to feel like a bad girl makes it fun and helps me get in a dirtier mindset.
Whatever your pornstar moves are, use them when you want to be extra dirty. It could be getting your face fucked. It could be taking a cumshot to the tits. It could be asking to get your ass eaten.
Pull out your bad girl moves and have an amazing night.
Film Yourself
Half of my hobbies are dirty, and it’s because it helps me get in that dirty girl mindset I love so much.
I’ll take nudes when I’m feeling cute.
I’ll write audio porn scripts and record myself reading them while masturbating when I’m in the mood for fun.
And when I go all out, I’ll get dolled up, set up the lights, spend way too long adjusting my tripod, and film some honest to goodness hardcore porn.
And if you ever want to feel a bit dirty and naughty, this is one of the perfect ways to do it.
Take a bunch of nudes. Take lewds if you’re not quite comfortable getting naked. Record some audio of you moaning, talking dirty, and making yourself come. Shoot some porn — either solo or with your partner.
It’s fun. It’s naughty. And it also makes you the center of attention. The whole point is to be as sexy as you can and capture some of it.
You don’t even have to show the results to anyone. Just doing it is enough to help you tap into your sexy side.
Do Something Spontaneous
I tend to initiate sex kind of subtly. I basically give hints that my husband has a green light to put the moves on me and let him take the lead.
I love that dynamic. I’m a chasee, not a chaser.
A lot of women are like me. And even though it’s hot and totally works, it can keep you from being the dirty girl you really want to be.
Being the one who gets seduced means you’re encouraging someone else to be the dirtier one.
If you want to be a dirty girl, though, it helps to feel like you’re the one taking the lead. And that means doing something that surprises your partner.
Do something they won’t expect. Catching them off-guard is going to make you feel like the horny, naughty one. And it’s going to show them just how horny and dirty your thoughts have been.
Drop to your knees in the kitchen to give him an impromptu mid-afternoon blowjob.
Interrupt your nature walk to pull him to a secluded spot for a semi-public quickie.
Walk into the room, straddle him, and whine that you want to get fucked.
Those are the kinds of things you’d only do if you’re hella horny and sex has been on your mind all day. And that makes them the perfect activities to bring out your inner dirty girl.
Horny, Flirty, and Happy
Being a dirty girl isn’t about doing sex performatively or trying to be your partner’s fantasy girl. It’s about feeling good.
I don’t feel my best when I’m self-conscious. I don’t have the most pleasurable and satisfying sex I can when I’m feeling inhibited. As much as I love being a good girl, being dirty is when I really thrive.
It makes me horny and happy. What more could anyone want?
Do a few things that will bring out your inner dirty girl. I guarantee you’ll have a hell of a lot of fun.
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