Fingering is the New Sex: 10 Tips on How to Finger a Woman

And it is not only about putting a finger inside a vagina.

Babe, have you tried fingering sex?

Well if not, now is the time because fingering is the new sex! But, if you think that means just putting a finger inside a woman’s vagina and making some mechanical in-and-out movements, you are all wrong. If you do it this way, many women will most likely not get aroused, be happy, nor experience orgasm. So, today I am going to share with you my 10 tips on how to finger a woman.

Before applying any of my 10 techniques, follow these three stages to great fingering:

1. First, make sure your fingernails are cut short and smooth. The same goes for rough hands and dry hands; this can just cause irritation. Wash your hands to avoid spreading bacteria which can cause infection. And use lubricant when necessary — the ideal case is to use her natural lubricant, but don’t be afraid to use some extra.
2. Second, warm up her body. The female body takes a longer time than the male to get aroused, so making the effort to arouse her before even taking her clothes off is important. Get her as wet as you can before you do anything and she will be more open to orgasming later. It just makes it an easier job for you later on.
3. Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of her vulva. While vagina stimulation can contribute to orgasm, some studies show that most women find that their clitoris is the most sensitive area, and they actually have an easier time orgasming from clitoral stimulation than penetration. Many women have never ever experienced G-spot and cervical orgasms, so be aware of that any time you want to rush into penetrating her. So don’t rush it. The more time you spend caressing the whole vulva, the more arousal she will feel, even in her clitoris. And when she’s aroused, there is definitely space for penetrative techniques, including stimulation of her G-spot.

Women actually have an easier time orgasming from clitoral stimulation than penetration.

Now, my 10 techniques will give you an idea about the movements you can use. Then you can bring more variety, playing with light and hard pressure, or you can change up the speed from fast to slow to medium or a combination of all of the above.

Technique #1: Up-and-down rub

This is a very straightforward technique. Apply an up-and-down motion to her clitoris. Don’t forget to either use natural lubrication or extra lube to make it even more enjoyable. Change the speed and the pressure and ask her what she likes. Let her tell you exactly what she wants.

Technique #2: Side-to-side rub

It is the same technique as Technique #1 but with a slightly different movement, this time from side to side. Different motion, different sensation.

Technique #3: Long, slow stroke

This time we will include all of her vulva, straight from the bottom of her vagina all the way up to her clitoris. It is exciting because you are working with a larger area that creates all sorts of sensations.

Technique #4: Four fingers of fun

If your partner needs more stimulation to orgasm, then, four fingers of fun should do it. All you will be doing is rubbing four fingers over her clitoris, labia, and vagina in a circular motion. Again, different motions create a variety of exciting sensations.

Technique #5: U-spot

There is more to the clitoris than what you see on the surface. Do you remember the vestibular bulb, the erectile tissue that sits on both sides of her vagina? Well, this is a way to activate that area. It is a secret spot not many know about, yet it can make her go crazy from the number of sensations she will feel. It is the area just above her urethra and to both sides of the vagina.

This movement goes from the clitoris down one side, then back up on the other side, and repeat. It looks like a U-shape when she looks down.

Technique #6: Squeeze or massage the base of her clitoris

One part of her clitoris that usually gets little attention is the base, the fold of skin surrounding the clitoris, so massage or squeeze it. Just place your thumb and your index finger on either side of her clitoris, then gently press down and inwards as you’re squeezing the base. Do not squeeze the exposed part of her clitoris, as this will hurt her. Start with gentle pressure and just see how she reacts. Again, keep asking for feedback as you are going deeper toward the base and squeezing it, almost milking it a little bit.

Technique #7: Love her labia

Her labia aren’t nearly as sensitive as her clitoris, but there are many ways that you can enjoy, pleasure, and stimulate them. Slowly rubbing up and down her labia can bring her close to orgasm, but without her climaxing, which makes it great for foreplay. For many women, when they climax from clitoral stimulation the clitoris can become ultra-sensitive and painful if you touch it immediately afterward. So if you want to continue pleasuring her, you want to hold off rubbing the clitoris for a few minutes. This makes her labia the perfect option to focus on until her clitoris calms down and stops being sensitive.

Technique #8: G-spot

Now we are getting to the techniques that are focused on the internal parts of her vagina. If you want to finger her and bring her a lot of pleasure, you need to know about the G-spot. As mentioned in the beginning, the G-spot is a spongy area located about two inches inside a vagina. It is one of the most sensitive spots inside a vagina and it will make her go wild. It takes some time, but if you pleasure her long enough she can experience G-spot orgasm and even squirt. If you want to know more about how to make a woman squirt, check out my two other articles that give you the exact techniques and steps on how to do that.

Technique #9: Add a vibrator

Yes, you heard me right, it is always a good idea to mix things up. The more places you stimulate at once, the faster she will cum. And some women do have the gift of orgasming from their clitoris and their G-spot at the same time! So you can use your fingers in various locations at the same time or even use your fingers while using a vibrator with your partner.

You can use a vibrator on her clitoris while stimulating her G-spot with your fingers. Alternatively, you can switch to use your fingers on her clitoris while you’re penetrating her with the vibrator.

Now, what I suggest is the ORA 3. It is from LELO and is perfect for this. It is like she’s getting oral sex as well as the internal G-spot that you’re stimulating with your finger.

Technique #10: Fingering her from behind

Every girl is different and everyone has a favorite way to be fingered, so you really do want to experiment and be creative. One way to bring variety is to do it from behind. It can bring a new experience because you will stimulate different spots. Just explore her, get her to communicate what she’s feeling, and literally give her something she’s never felt before.

Fingering sex is a beautiful opportunity to bring something different to your bedroom. It’s a really effective way to make her orgasm as you can directly stimulate the areas that make her cum. Remember to use these simple guidelines and make her feel comfortable. Now that you have all the information you need to excel, experiment with the techniques I’ve given you and let me know how you win!