How to Better Understand the Differences and Similarities Between You and Your Twin Flame

If you want to reach a union you need to understand your differences first

I’ve always been someone who gets too hung up on our similarities and differences with my twin flame. Because I’ve always had a hard time accepting people who are different from me. With so many diverse people in the world, I’ve always been afraid of those who don’t look very much like me. This fear for me was about my view of a person’s unpredictable character. Because I was afraid that if people were different from me, I would not fit in well with them and would be disappointed.

Meeting new people is not always easy. We are talking to someone who has different aspects from us, but who is ultimately human just like us. Our thoughts, our way of life, our habits can be completely different. And accepting this is directly related to accepting ourselves as individuals.

Now that I think about it again, my process of accepting myself as an individual was also quite troublesome. That’s why I’m so obsessed with the idea of ​​my twin flame being exactly the same person as me. And I rejected every difference that came my way. Of course, I’m not talking about the shadow sides, which are the same for both of us. While it was always fun for me to explore things, it was incredibly uncomfortable to look into my shadows and stay in that space.

In this article, we will look at our similarities with our twin flame and the differences that make us complete.

Why are our differences with our twin flame important?

I came across a very meaningful sentence on Quora. We will be two incarnations of the same soul, separated by the fact that we are different aspects of the same person.

This sentence contains many concepts. We are the “same” person with our twin flame. But different aspects of the same person are waiting for us, distributed between us. If there is stubbornness in both of us, it will be stubbornness in different areas. That’s why the masculine and feminine balance within us plays a big role in these differences.

In a twin flame it is important to have more intense emotions or greater logic, but basically how we use those emotions is more important:

I and my twin flame are both emotional people. But the ways we express our emotionality are so different that our difference here is that one of us makes decisions based on our emotions while the other is more rational. Our similarity in the field of emotion is that neither of us’s feelings are obvious from the outside. In other words, although we are writhing with pain inside, we are cold-blooded as steel on the outside.

In my current consciousness, I think the differences in twin flames are more important, not the similarities. I’ve worked hard to accept this situation. Because we are already the same person. Why look at our similarities and try to settle for that? Understanding our differences will also show us what we need to resolve in ourselves.

Differences are not stones on the path we walk. These are signals for us to soften some of our perspectives. When I drew a tarot card to myself with my twin flame, I saw that our spiritual level was also sharply separated from each other.

There are some cards that follow my twin flame in tarot. One of them is the Hierophant. The hermit card is constantly watching me. These two cards look like they’re basically saying the same thing. Because both cards have “understanding and guiding wisdom at a deeper level”.

But these two cards differ in seeking their own spirituality. Because the hermit follows his inner light and self. The energies are open to new healing methods such as quantum. Hermit is more of a meditative pursuit.

Hierophant, on the other hand, takes its wisdom from more concrete and written texts such as scriptures. As my twin flame seeks his wisdom, he feels more secure with written texts and his religious beliefs. On the other hand, I like to get lost and fall from time to time while searching for my truth. We both need to strengthen our faith as we move towards the more abstract. But the ways in which we do this set us apart at one point. And that just intensifies everything we can learn from each other.

What behaviors/thoughts do you feel most similar to your twin flame?

We are quite different in terms of external identity from my twin flame. Yes, we may seem calm, but my profession is very introverted, while his profession is quite extroverted, the opposite of his character. If we had decided by looking at our outer identities, we could have been two people living the most opposite lives in the world.

But to be a twin flame is to be the same in your inner world and in your emotions. With my twin flame, we are exactly the same inside. We feel the same. We love the same way and even our expectations from a relationship are the same. We both put too much fairy tale material on love, so we fail to realize that we’re pushing love away from ourselves because we want the best.

Before I met him, no one could have convinced me that there was a man like him. But considering that he’s just another version of me, I guess if I were a man, I’d be thoughtful but also shy.

Those who do not fully understand the twin flame connection will interpret these similarities and differences with their twin flames differently. When looking at your differences with your twin flame, you are not looking at the different characteristics of another person. Again, you are looking at your character, which is within you but which you do not realize you have discovered through your twin flame.

Therefore, those differences and the same features belong to us. When I look at myself in the divine masculine model of my twin flame, I no longer feel any discomfort. I’m just not energetic enough to live his life. And I am often thankful for the slowness of my own life.

Whether we’re opposites with our twin flame or share the same character, the one thing we can’t change is that we’re both inside each other. In order to accept the characteristics of our twin flame that are different from us, we must look at the reflections of these characteristics within ourselves. Why does it bother us?

Recently, yin and yang symbols have appeared with many numbers. I see the numbers 9 and 6. These are two numbers with different kinds of reflections of each other. Yin and yang are inseparable because they are within us in the light and the dark. When I look at the twin flame like this, I see that there is nothing in him that I don’t have. In this sense, we will always be equal to our twin flame.

Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about the mind, hard feelings, and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you could start your medium subscription from this link