3 Steps That Will Change Your Perspective on Twin Flame Separation

How do you feel when your twin flame is not around?

Feeling like you’re with your twin flame when you’re not around? Yes, it sounds crazy. But considering all the crises, extraordinary, exploding emotions, and signs we went through on the twin flame journey, it’s not so abnormal. Even though we cannot reach the person we love physically, there is a cliche concept called the warmth of love. Yes, I would involuntarily roll my eyes when I heard the word. But now I feel the non-physical warmth of love inside me. It’s like sleeping under an electric blanket. That electric blanket completely generates heat within us.

The hardest part of the twin flame journey (but 100 percent true) is experienced in the twin flame separation. This is why you need the spiritual energy of your twin flame rather than the physical presence. But mostly we think the opposite.

Unless we completely find ourselves, the physical presence of our twin flame brings nothing but chaos into our lives. Think about the fights you have with yourself, the outbursts of hateful thoughts. Would you want the same thing to happen with your twin flame, of course not? That’s why the universe expects us to be nice to ourselves and be kind. The universe is patient. It won’t give us what we want until we’re fully enlightened.

In this article, we will take another journey into our higher selves by talking about the importance of feeling the spiritual warmth of our twin flame.

Understanding where love is

I always want to ask the same question to those who feel separated from their twin on a twin flame journey. Where are you looking for love? If love was just a physical thing, shouldn’t we be seeing it? When we look around us, we see many things that have love in them. But these are not enough for us to call something that has a physical form “love”. Because love is something that can be felt 100%. The pleasure you feel when you finish a very delicious meal is also a product of love.

So if you feel separate from your twin flame, you should automatically think that you are seeking love outside of yourself. You may even have left your inner love on a bench if I have to exaggerate.

But when you sit upright for a few minutes and focus on your breath, you will see that love is not far away. Because, as people hate to hear, love is as close to you as your breath. Love is a long learning journey from your root chakra energy to your crown chakra.

I use the root chakra example a lot in my daily life examples of “learning to feel love”. The way the root chakra keeps us alive is physical. Here we become in survival mode and learn to be grounded in the world. To be grounded in the world, we need food, money, and a safe home. This is our 3d connection to the world.

We also want physical proof of everything in the root chakra. The more time we spend in the root chakra, the more we need physical things.

When we ascend from the root chakra to the sacral chakra, creation begins here. We add our creativity to the raw material. At the same time, this is our center of pleasure. Since we are not robots, we learn to enjoy the things we produce with this energy point.

As we move forward on our evolutionary journey, as we ascend to the solar plexus chakra, we experience concepts such as self-worth and caring for ourselves more deeply. If we do not learn to set our limits and prioritize ourselves, we will have difficulty maintaining both love (our value) and balance.

Learning to become one with our higher self

The third and crown chakras, the last two chakras, are related to divine channel information and our higher self. Our Higher Self is a point that is a divine part of us and connects us directly to the source. What we perceive with our 3d selves is only part of the higher self. That’s why spirit guides always tell us, “You are much more than you think.”

If the human mind, which is restricted to the 3D matrix, does not meet with the higher self, it will feel as if there is an obstacle in front of everything. The most concrete form of our subconscious sending news to the 3D world is our dreams. Our dreams send us messages we are unaware of in our daily lives. Recording our dreams is traveling to versions of ourselves that we are not even aware of.

Our intuition is at the forefront of our journey to become one with our Higher Self. Everyone has a so-called sixth sense. Colloquially, this is commonly known as the “forecast”. It is our intuition that alerts us when we meet someone new for the first time. We are all highly spiritual beings, but we can only notice a small part of it. Before I became a twin flame, my intuition was random and I tended to see some of my feelings as coincidences.

As I progressed on my journey, my intuition grew stronger and I began to receive messages from my higher self without any intermediaries. It was as if I was translating an emotion that came to me from another language and turning it into a text. Your higher self shows how ridiculous the stories your mind is telling you are.

Because the mind cannot sense things, it acts on evidence. The Higher Self, on the other hand, puts emotion directly into our hearts. In this way, we can feel the love of our twin flame even when we are apart. With this love, we grow within ourselves and discover even our most hidden sides.

Spend time with yourself

There is only one thing we need to feel the twin flame love and bring it into oneness. I already knew that what I needed for the twin flame journey was my soul, my self. The important thing was to be able to accept it. Unfortunately, what one cannot get used to is being perfect in every way. I still don’t find myself good enough on my own. At the end of the day, I always need the physical presence and love of my loved ones. Although this is normal, it is something that puts people's helplessness in their faces. Why do we need another person to the extent of “neediness” to spend a pleasant, peaceful, or productive time?

We have a soul and worldly desires to train. Desires are very positive things when they are genuinely valued. But when the mind steps in, it does things here to dissuade us from our essence. My mind is always restless. The fact that my mind is always restless makes me extremely insatiable and cranky. I always try to do something to please my mind. If you are listening to it to please or quiet your mind, you have enslaved your entire magnificent self.

When our mind calls us idiots, we listen and approve. And when our mind tells us that our twin flame is an asshole, will we approve of it? Man is always obedient to his mind, squandering the great potential in him. We need to hear the “wake-up” call here. We are not our thoughts.

Spending time with ourselves is just as important as socializing with others. If people can be alone with themselves, it means that he is no longer running away from all those attacks in their mind, he is not numbing themselves against them. To feel love, we must withdraw ourselves from external stimuli. We cannot always do this. More precisely, man is not a creature suitable for a solitary life. But if people do not create quiet times for themself, this can cause them to exhaust themself.

To hear our hearts sing on the twin flame journey, we must spend time with ourselves. The time we spend with ourselves takes us away from the wishes of the collective and brings us to our desires. How will we find our true desires if we try to try everything just because everyone else is doing it? This is an insult to our character.

I thought I was used to spending a long time with myself. But I still overlook that something is missing between me and myself. I’m full of compassion, but I’m pretty bad at giving affection. For years, I avoided giving myself compassion.

Now as I sit by myself in silence, I realize that I love myself. This feeling feels so weird. My whole body relaxes as I’ve stepped into a tub of hot water. At that moment, I do not expect anything from myself. Usually, I always pressure myself to read/watch something. Yes, this is my way of escaping from myself. I want to go to other worlds and let my imagination explode there. But I miss what my self looking at me right now wants.

These feelings deepen as we love ourselves, as the love for your twin flame is within us. Connecting with our higher self is directly understanding our twin flame. I no longer need tarot readings or anyone else. I just pay attention to the messages that come in front of me. Because as my bond with my higher self got stronger, my confidence in many things started to increase. I don’t have an excuse to say “I don’t know what you think” about my twin flame as my feelings grow.

Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about the mind, hard feelings, and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you could start your medium subscription from this link