How To Become Interesting
Our society values well-experienced and accomplished people a lot. Whether for a job or a simple friendship, most people aspire to attract talented and smart individuals into their life or project.
Often time we are based on mainly economic and social status to tell if a person is worth being part of our life. However, being interesting is not exclusively based on social and economic achievements, nor should we restrain it to incredible experiences that someone might have had throughout their life.
You can still be an amazing person for people around you without having done great things at a higher scale. Everyone has the power to look interesting, we only don’t know how to use it.
Nevertheless, knowing how to use this power can be crucial to boosting your self-esteem, attracting great people into your life, and making you a very successful person. Now, the question is, how can you use that power?
That’s what we are going to explain in this article. But before this, let’s describe what being interesting means.
Am I an interesting person?
The concept “interesting” is by far a subjective matter. We can find some common social patterns between most people that are widely considered as interesting; but if we do an in-depth exploration into this phenomenon, we will encounter many exceptions and variations. Nevertheless, in this article we will only provide a concise perspective.
According to the dictionary by Merriam Webster, the word interesting means “holding the attention: arousing interest.”
Although there is a subtle redundance in that definition, for the word “interest” is referred to while we are trying to understand “interesting”; the first part of the definition is quite useful for our debate.
The word attention is critical to understanding what being interesting means. If we assume that something or someone is interesting, it is because they have somehow attracted us.
How attraction works
In order to understand what attraction means, we have to consider at least 4 main elements: the object of attention, “I” or “we” as the subject, the mentors, and the peers.
For example, a person who is into fashion will not only look up for outfits; but will also search for people who have accomplished great things within this field, and for those they think might share that same passion.
Their enthusiasm toward finding those pieces of information is a way for them to reinforce their interest.
Furthermore, there are a few things that we generally consider as we are in the process of being attracted to something: its ability to make us laugh, the likelihood that it can teach us about ourselves and our environments, and the way it makes us feel.
That’s why what we believe to be interesting is also a projection of who we think we are, who we actually are, as well as who we want to be.
Surprisingly or not, something similar also occurs when we find someone interesting or attractive: we want to know people or things that have contributed into their life, we try to find out who also finds them interesting, we even want to know every detail about their personal life (their hobbies, lifestyle, passion, and so on).
However, the way someone makes us feel about ourselves and what they teach us are the most important factors for a long-term and active interest towards that person. You might wonder why. The reason is that simple: We love people who make us feel better about ourselves.
That is, before trying to get people’s attention you need to ask yourself, why are they going to appreciate me? What do I have to offer? Is my life a compelling or intriguing story?
In conclusion, there are a few works that you need to do:
- Try to make each one of your decisions that are special to you, and act in harmony with who you are and what you believe
- Find something that you love, learn it, and teach people about it
- Focus on your strengths
- Be friend with people who can help your life become a coherent and compelling story
- Be the person you would find interesting
- Speak positively about your life
- Be a good person for people around you
In an upcoming article, I’ll share more details about those steps. If you don’t want to miss them, let’s keep connected.
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