How To Be Open-Minded While you Have Been Through Many Negative Situations
When you have been through a lot in your life, you have a tunnel vision about the characters of people. You don’t have any good word about them.
People hurt you in any possible way. So, there is no trust in people. You wait until someone hurt you again. You don’t know how to look for things, products, and opportunities when you are afraid that people will hurt you. Or when situations don’t turn out you thought it would be. Sometimes people will hurt you or sabotage your events on purpose for their benefits.
Some people don’t have any realization about humanity. They only want everything for themselves to show off their capacities. In reality, they can’t do these capacities, or at least less then they know they can. So, they try it with pretending to. Eventually, he falls by the wayside.
Because negative events happen — and for some of us — a lot, you aren’t taking that much time to do it again or doing something else — when you’re in the same kind of situations — or even other kinds of situations, you’re just afraid. So, your anxiety is getting worse and worse. And then you fall into depression. Everything isn't working out for you.
Then, your mind isn’t going with you. You led in negative emotions lead your life, or even let others decide what’s best for you. You rely on other people’s opinions and do what they say because you live in fear. Fear not worth being on the planet.
You’re not open-minded anymore. While you have been open-minded as a kid, as an adult you’re not. You don’t see that light you need.
But what if you let one positive thought into your mind every day? You will get that positivity back into your life! This leads to being open-minded. Again or for the first time.
How to being open-minded
It is difficult if you haven’t been open-minded for a long time or maybe never have been. You don’t know what you’re looking for. You’re feeling lost.
There are small steps getting back to being open-minded (again) and to be more positive in life. Only you have to let it into your system. We all have to. But we also need to, because you see more possibilities.
Boundaries
Take lots of time to learn your own boundaries. What would you tolerate, what do you like, what you don’t like, when someone may touch you, with whom you want to share your life with.
These are some aspects you have to think about. Think about friends you have right now. Are they worth sharing your life with? Or are you friends with them because you have no friends? What kind of friends do you want? These are things you should set your boundaries with. Think about what kind of friendships you want to have.
Also, think about what life you want, and set those rules for these boundaries. Therefore, you need to set the goals to achieve that. Look for new possibilities within this area.
Little things in life
What helps me to stay positive is looking at the little things in life! From what funny things my daughters are saying to the flowers are growing — fast and slow.
Take a look at the candles on your table. Enjoy the lights from it. These are the precious moments in your life!
Positive thoughts
Keep in mind that when you give yourself compliments once a day, it will increase your positivity. The boost in your life.
It will be difficult to start in the first place, but say one simple positive sentence every day to yourself loudly.
Subjects could be:
- Your house
- Your clothes
- The way you write
- Flowers you bought
Anything that comes up to you where you have negative thoughts about it. This is crucial to get be positive again.
Try new things
Every now and then, you should try new things. Get the experience of nature, a new hobby, new skills you want to learn — like a new language. You also should meet new people now and then, then you know what people you love to be around with.
These new things are good for your self-esteem. You get to know yourself much better. Maybe you have a new talent waiting for you to develop. A hidden talent you never knew about. Lovely discovering. I always love to discover new skills and my ability to develop them.
When you try new things, you also get to know new people. Even when you have doubts about what they want from you.
Take small steps before everything will be overwhelmed.
Agnes Laurens is a writer. She writes for the local newspaper, Medium.com. Agnes lives in Bunnik, The Netherlands, with her husband and three daughters. Writing is — aside from playing the violin — one of her passions since childhood. She is on Twitter and Instagram.
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